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What is it about Words of Affirmation & Why You Should Fall In Love With Yourself

July 4, 2012

What is it about words of affirmation? My GAWD they feel good, at least to me. . . and I’m sure many of you.  Who doesn’t love a compliment or a kind verbal sentiment?

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 Love Languages. 

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Physical Touch

 

Most people have one to two that really matter to them, and often the Divine Universe allows you to partner with someone who has an entirely different love language.

For years this drove me nuts. I married a man who isn’t really affected by words. Acts of service are his thing.  That means he expresses and receives love in chores (totally not my thing).

Unload the dishwasher, make the bed….I didn’t care. What I really wanted was more of the WORDS…. Express some sentiment to me that will make me feel good!!! ARGH.  For a few years, our different love languages meant we were both speaking in a language the other just didn’t get and we seemed to be in a perpetual power struggle.

And then I decided to accept my own crapola.

I was expecting HIM to give me what I needed when I didn’t bother to give myself words of affirmation.   Once I began to change the way I spoke to myself, I began to get more of what I needed to feel valid!

Who knew — this WHOLE time, I could find the validation I was craving within!   For years I’d looked for it from bosses, boyfriends, clients, family—anyone and then, in one quiet moment, this conversations when through my mind:

Ego: “My husband should love me more.”

My inner whisper: “I should love me more”

 

I should love me more!!! IIIII should love me more. 

Holy Toledo it was the best hit I ever did get!

Today, I’m much better at giving myself the words of affirmation that I need- I write them, I draw them, I make affirmation cards, I speak to myself out loud in the mirror and I send myself notes in the mail.   It is also easier for me to give my husband the acts of service that make him feel special– since I’m filling my own bucket, I’m overflowing more often, so it feels good to fill his bucket.

Side Note: a strange and delightful side effect of this is that NOW I’m getting more of those verbal affirmations from him.

When you fall in love with yourself–then LOVE can really happen.  Then kindness can really happen.  Divine Love is already there in you, waiting for you to tap in instead of seeking it so much from outside your self. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF and WATCH the LOVE in your LIFE GROW!

My questions for you today:

  • How can you love YOU more? 
  • Could you consider stopping looking outside yourself for the validation, for the affection, for the kindness and compassion and go within?
  • How can you be the love of your own life?  
  • How can you give yourself what you need?

 

Oh and by the way, your hair looks awesome!

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  1. Lisa Marie says: July 4, 2012 at 2:07 pm

    Allison,
    I loved this post. I relate very much to wanting the words and having a different language of love than hubby. I also love that you went within to see how you could love yourself more. This also is my homework as of late too. I recently realized how much of a b*tch I was being towards myself, making myself work 14-16 hours per day and not take a lunch break. Oh, then, people started to be mean to me. I heard my inner voice say, “Well, if you stop being mean to yourself, others will too.” Ouch 🙂 Thanks for emblazoning this in my mind and spirit, these positive things 🙂 xo

    • Allison Crow says: July 4, 2012 at 2:13 pm

       I chuckle because I totally feel ya!  We gotta own and love our selves from the inside out!  I appreciate you Lisa Marie!

      • Lisa Marie says: July 5, 2012 at 2:29 am

        Heehee! xoxoxo 

  2. jbledsoejr says: July 4, 2012 at 2:28 pm

    I can relate on a couple levels.  Acts of service is my LL, and words of affirmation is my wife’s LL…it took us a while to understand this, and we are still working on it, but making progress.  🙂  It can be pretty frustrating not knowing what makes your spouse feel loved and/or respected.

    I also have been guilty of verbally abusing myself (with my thoughts).  I can be very hard on myself.  I didn’t realize that was wearing me down over time…now I am very careful of my thoughts and words.  We have to CHOOSE and USE them WISELY.

    GREAT post Allison!

  3. Shantini says: October 12, 2012 at 10:49 am

    Hey Allison! Just discovered you and your site via Twitter – I love what your’re doing and your site is fantastic. I’ve already signed up for your coaching kit 🙂

    • Allison Crow says: October 12, 2012 at 12:55 pm

      Welcome and Hooray! So glad the universe connected us!

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