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Who do you have to be: And Something my coach shared with me that I have to pass on.

January 4, 2018

Who do you have to be: And something my coach shared with me that I have to pass on.

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  1. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    Hi hello

  2. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    Lovey evening

  3. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    Lovey locking

  4. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    Lovey look

  5. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    Lovey day

  6. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    Lovey smile

  7. Megan Winkler says: January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    For sure! <3 I'm super excited!

  8. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    So cute

  9. Ajijul Mandal says: January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    So sweet

  10. Angela C. Britton says: January 4, 2018 at 4:05 pm

    Love the topic.. Good morning

  11. Angela C. Britton says: January 4, 2018 at 4:11 pm

    Yes!!! I love that…

  12. Angela C. Britton says: January 4, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    I have BIG goals but I hype myself up EVERYDAY determined to get there, even when I feel shiity or discouraged. You are so on point of what I needed to hear today.

  13. Cydney Peterson says: January 4, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    Been in my cocoon too and the brain is telling all the shoulds but my body and Self have resisted the push. Needing to revise the β€œwho I want to be.”

  14. Kay Parker Blond says: January 4, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    confidence comes from doing…experience

  15. Leslie Typrin says: January 4, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    Hi from Chiang Mai airport!

  16. Debra Thain says: January 4, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    Allison your coaching style is so wonderful! Yes! You keep it real. You don’t act like you are perfect, you bring out the best in me and I’m not even a client of yours yet! Decide to become the person you want to be. I’m going to journal on this. Until I can be with you one day.

  17. Angela C. Britton says: January 4, 2018 at 4:17 pm

    Is you soulful still open.

  18. Kay Parker Blond says: January 4, 2018 at 4:17 pm

    yes, that was eye opening

  19. Angela C. Britton says: January 4, 2018 at 4:18 pm

    Your*

  20. Angela C. Britton says: January 4, 2018 at 4:18 pm

    Lmao… you kill me

  21. Cydney Peterson says: January 4, 2018 at 4:20 pm

    β€œWho do you have to be and pull her into the now.” Thanks for the clarification

  22. Debra Thain says: January 4, 2018 at 4:21 pm

    I became her, that person I wanted to be….beautiful!

  23. Shakisha Reynolds says: January 4, 2018 at 4:46 pm

    Catching the replay. Hi Allison!

  24. Jenny Stritzl Crane says: January 4, 2018 at 4:54 pm

    Hi Allison, happy new year

  25. Shakisha Reynolds says: January 4, 2018 at 4:56 pm

    This is incredible and I needed to hear this thank you.

  26. Jim Oswald says: January 4, 2018 at 5:26 pm

    Hey I am here!

  27. Kerry Kennedy says: January 4, 2018 at 6:10 pm

    Oh I love this!

  28. Allegra Kussman Stein says: January 4, 2018 at 6:11 pm

    can ask which coach you’re working with?

    • Allegra Kussman Stein says: January 4, 2018 at 6:15 pm

      (I have a guess. curious if i’m right. :D)

    • Allison Crow says: January 4, 2018 at 6:27 pm

      Allegra Kussman Stein who you guess.

  29. Catherine Schoen says: January 4, 2018 at 8:22 pm

    Happy New Year. Catching the replay.

  30. Michelle Jeanette says: January 4, 2018 at 9:55 pm

    Yes!!! Determination…

  31. Michelle Jeanette says: January 4, 2018 at 10:05 pm

    Do in inspired action… Always best content ???

  32. Kathryn Stanley-Hart says: January 5, 2018 at 12:31 am

    Rely too

  33. Kathryn Stanley-Hart says: January 5, 2018 at 12:32 am

    Replay too

  34. Kathryn Stanley-Hart says: January 5, 2018 at 12:54 am

    Very good. It makes sense. I needed to hear that

  35. Steph Levine says: January 5, 2018 at 3:07 am

    yes i value the insights i experience with you. i choose to be xyz. I am xyz.i am an extraordinarily wealthy, philanthropic, fit, creative coach and fabulously colorful artist

    • Debra Thain says: January 6, 2018 at 3:56 am

      Steph! I love your vision of yourself! May I borrow it!? Too maybe not the exact words, it’s a lot like how I feel to be.

  36. Yaquese Welcher says: January 5, 2018 at 3:34 am

    Yep, the becoming. I totally get that.

  37. Yaquese Welcher says: January 5, 2018 at 3:36 am

    Spend time believing. Yaaaasssss!

  38. Freddie Kemp says: January 5, 2018 at 3:41 am

    Man-only calls would be a thing…! (Bring it!)

  39. Steph Levine says: January 5, 2018 at 4:02 am

    I serve and love with all my heart

  40. Paula Roelands says: January 5, 2018 at 5:39 am

    I like the ‘yet’ Debra Thain…join us in the soulful program – you won’t regret jumping in <3 <3 <3

  41. Libby Dickerson says: January 6, 2018 at 12:42 am

    Ohh!! Yes!!! I never really got this before. I feel like you made this for me. Thank you <3

    • Allison Crow says: January 6, 2018 at 12:44 am

      I’m so glad it helped ?

    • Allison Crow says: January 6, 2018 at 12:44 am

      I’m so glad it helped

  42. Michele Lehmann Brown says: January 6, 2018 at 1:57 am

    This was so awesome Allison!

  43. Beth Incorvati says: January 6, 2018 at 4:46 pm

    YOUR BRAIN WILL PROVE YOURSELF RIGHT!! <3

  44. Kathryn Stanley-Hart says: January 7, 2018 at 1:20 am

    This was so good and has stayed with me

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛π₯𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 π›πž 𝐟𝐒𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 πšπ―π¨π’ππžπβ€”they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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