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New Years Goals? Not Yet

January 10, 2023

New Year Goals? A Business Plan?
 
Not Yet.

 
The magic space that is my office… here at this desk and in these journals, and even at this computer where I get to connect with my clients and friends.
 
I still haven’t really figured out what I want to “DO” in 2023. I start with a new coach this week. 1:1 – someone who is also neurodivergent and who has created tremendous success by the world’s standards- and who also wants and needs connection and space more than scale (and who is also surrounded by the 7-fig scale people). It feels good to be held in a Soft Strength- that’s one energy I do intend to cultivate more of this year.
 
What’s my plan? Who knows. At least right now. I know that these are the elements that are craving me this year:
 
  • Movement for mental health- walking. Nothing hardcore.
  • Connection. Loving on my people. Relationships over information. I crave being in in-person rooms again.
  • More 1:1 work – deeper. Self-trust work. IFS and somatic with a topper of strategic. 2 spots open for 8-month engagements.
  • This is the final year of Camp Cultivate. Something in my events and gatherings wants to shift. I feel like my body of work needs a culling. Clearing out and releasing of “content” stored in my online closets. My blog is over a decade old. My podcast turned 7 years old this week. I’ve become so many MEs in all these years.
  • As I approach 51 -I can see the gifts that my 50th year gave me. I can see the line in my life that was drawn and who I am becoming: grounded self-trust, boundaries, compassion, and choice are big essences and themes.
  • The Wild Edge of Being Human is in my bones and message. The holiness of meeting our humanity – compassion, care for ourselves and others is calling me. More than numbers and results. Being a maker- a writer and sharing the message of Permission, Process, and Practice. I do intend to cultivate and continue sharing the message of Unarmored, and wouldn’t it be nice to be on speaking stages again? To have the book spread to the hearts of people beyond my reach. To keep writing. I am a writer, an author.
 
I’m here to be a tender of souls and humans. A mama elephant, not a cheetah.
 
For now, this feels solid in me. The cinnamon-sugar boxer dog is at my side. Asking me to come feed her, and so I will.
 
If you aren’t “clear” on your goals or your plan yet- you are not alone, and you are not doing it wrong. You are a gardener, not a machine. Tend gently and slowly, and things will bloom at the perfect time.
💛 AC

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝—they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful parts—my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
This sweet girl. Only a few taco Tuesday’s left This sweet girl. Only a few taco Tuesday’s left before they move across the state.
In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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