
As a trained #internalfamilysystems coach (vs. a therapist) who works with very smart,
head-led, and strategic business owners – we do a ton of what I call
Front porch work.
My specific amazing clients have protectors & internal that use fierce but publicly rewarded coping mechanisms like #peoplepleasing #overachieving #overfunctioning #intellectualizing #awareness #caregiving #overthinking #anxiety and #strategizing. My clients often also have strong #innercritics and #perfection & #highstandards.
These are awesome and valuable skills.
Our goal is not to get rid of them but instead create an inner and physical (not just intellectual) trusting relationship with these parts- to learn from them, listen to their wisdom, and be in a different relationship with them. When we do- they relax a little & no longer OVERperform to exhaustion.
We spend time in connection and curiosity on the front porch – so to speak. Before we try to โgo insideโ.
We spend time together to create attunement, and attunement opens op connection and connection creates access to our natural #selfenergy. Itโs a beautiful thing to sit on the front porch and facilitate these relationships in my clientsโ inner systems. And it makes going even deeper inside almost natural. 

Not all #ifscoaching is exactly like this- this is just what I see in my personal style as a coach and in my specific niche of clients. 

You, at anytime, can sit on your own inner front porch and give your inner parts more love and connection, not less.
