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Struggle with Anxiety. Depression. Overwhelm and Doubt? Why we learn to feel bad in SoulFull Success.

September 19, 2019

Struggle with Anxiety. Depression. Overwhelm and Doubt? Why we learn to feel bad in SoulFull Success.

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Advanced Personal Development Life Coach for Experienced Business Owners & Execs๐Ÿ’›Author, Art, & Dogs

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  1. Kristen Brown says: September 19, 2019 at 5:13 pm

    Yeah right now parents home is flooding

  2. Shelley McNamara says: September 19, 2019 at 5:20 pm

    Hi again <3

  3. Shelley McNamara says: September 19, 2019 at 5:21 pm

    Tis why I love you! Reallllness

  4. Kim Larocque says: September 19, 2019 at 5:23 pm

    Oh I am there my friend.

  5. Kim Larocque says: September 19, 2019 at 5:23 pm

    I can feel the feels and understand that what is is.

  6. Kim Larocque says: September 19, 2019 at 5:23 pm

    And give myself the space

  7. Kim Larocque says: September 19, 2019 at 5:23 pm

    And love myself

  8. Allison Crow says: September 19, 2019 at 5:25 pm

    This woman is so dang cute and wise.

  9. M Lyn Carr says: September 19, 2019 at 5:59 pm

    Hello

  10. Joanne Owens says: September 19, 2019 at 6:03 pm

    Lane Moore

  11. Joanne Owens says: September 19, 2019 at 6:04 pm

    Natalie Mackay

  12. Natalie Mackay says: September 19, 2019 at 6:07 pm

    I like her

  13. Joanne Owens says: September 19, 2019 at 6:09 pm

    Hope Carey

  14. Ana Caragea says: September 19, 2019 at 9:52 pm

    I always share your quote! Feel the feelings, don’t believe your thoughts โค๏ธ

  15. Ana Caragea says: September 19, 2019 at 9:52 pm

    I always share your quote! Feel the feelings, don’t believe your thoughts

  16. Susan Palmer Wood says: September 19, 2019 at 11:17 pm

    Wish I was there!! Was heading to the airport

  17. Susan Palmer Wood says: September 19, 2019 at 11:18 pm

    Yikes thatโ€™s a lot

  18. Susan Palmer Wood says: September 19, 2019 at 11:19 pm

    Sounds like me

  19. Susan Palmer Wood says: September 19, 2019 at 11:23 pm

    Good distinction

  20. Susan Palmer Wood says: September 19, 2019 at 11:29 pm

    Gahhhh Iโ€™m an Ennea 7 and this is such an curious and tough thing for me to learn. And so important!!

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
This sweet girl. Only a few taco Tuesdayโ€™s left This sweet girl. Only a few taco Tuesdayโ€™s left before they move across the state.
In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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