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We do the things that we want to do, we make excuses for the things we don’t want to do.

September 10, 2018

We do the things that we want to do, we make excuses for the things we don’t want to do.

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Advanced Personal Development Life Coach for Experienced Business Owners & Execs💛Author, Art, & Dogs

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  1. Gisele Cabral says: September 10, 2018 at 3:16 pm

    Hi. I soo needed your inspirational personality today. <3

    • Gisele Cabral says: September 10, 2018 at 3:17 pm

      sending you a big hug!

  2. Allison Crow says: September 10, 2018 at 3:18 pm

    http://www.allisoncrow.com/success

  3. Camille Tyler says: September 10, 2018 at 3:24 pm

    Hello sister

    • Allison Crow says: September 10, 2018 at 3:26 pm

      hello Camille. 🙂

  4. Marie Gomer says: September 10, 2018 at 3:27 pm

    Today’s my first call 🙂

    • Allison Crow says: September 10, 2018 at 3:27 pm

      So glad to have you!

    • Stacy Petrossian says: September 10, 2018 at 8:32 pm

      Marie Gomer don’t you just love her <3

    • Marie Gomer says: September 10, 2018 at 8:41 pm

      yes it was a great experience!

    • Stacy Petrossian says: September 10, 2018 at 8:41 pm

      Marie Gomer <3

  5. Paula Roelands says: September 10, 2018 at 3:58 pm

    I didn’t make excuses to avoid my FB live this morning but I sure wanted to…..with my fresh fat lip,slurred speach and battle damage! SO EXCITED about what’s coming with you, and SUPER GLAD to be on the boost with you!

  6. Chandrika Dubey says: September 10, 2018 at 4:14 pm

    So nice thoughts and words , thanks ma’am

  7. Monica Weakley says: September 10, 2018 at 4:17 pm

    I’m reading that book right now too!!! 🙂

  8. Anita Barfoot Berg says: September 10, 2018 at 4:56 pm

    Hey ?

  9. Richard A Carpenter says: September 10, 2018 at 7:51 pm

    How true

  10. Alisia Krastel says: September 10, 2018 at 8:41 pm

    Love that you always say I’m the decider!

  11. Lorie Strong Baez says: September 10, 2018 at 11:58 pm

    ?

  12. Dawn-Renée Rice says: September 11, 2018 at 12:13 am

    You’re absolutely right!

  13. Sherry Mason says: September 11, 2018 at 12:53 am

    ❤️

  14. Marie Gomer says: September 11, 2018 at 3:00 am

    Really enjoyed it Allison Crow! Looking forward to this journey!

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝—they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful parts—my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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