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When I get greedy and “controlly”: My Business is Not MY Own -lessons learned from being Loopy

February 27, 2019

When I get greedy and “controlly”: My Business is Not MY Own -lessons learned from being Loopy

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  1. Lydia Michelson-Maverick says: February 27, 2019 at 4:34 pm

    You look great! How do you feel?!

  2. Kristen Kosinski says: February 27, 2019 at 4:39 pm

    Hi mama!!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

  3. Kristen Kosinski says: February 27, 2019 at 4:39 pm

    Hi mama!!!

  4. Kristen Kosinski says: February 27, 2019 at 4:39 pm

    Youโ€™re speaking my language…as usual…

  5. Sara Ballard says: February 27, 2019 at 4:40 pm

    All of last year was like this for me. Chronic pain is a difficult thing to get over when you’re trying to run your own business. So much love to you… I know how hard that is.

  6. Andrea Edwards Hamel says: February 27, 2019 at 4:40 pm

    Hey ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Lydia Michelson-Maverick says: February 27, 2019 at 4:40 pm

    Omg! I totally related! I had food poising a few weeks ago and tried to train three days later and my stomach was unhappy every time I flipped upside down and I freaked out that that might be my new normal! ?

  8. Lydia Michelson-Maverick says: February 27, 2019 at 4:40 pm

    Omg! I totally related! I had food poising a few weeks ago and tried to train three days later and my stomach was unhappy every time I flipped upside down and I freaked out that that might be my new normal!

  9. Kristen Kosinski says: February 27, 2019 at 4:41 pm

    This has been so me this last 2 months…too much outside in.

  10. Sara Ballard says: February 27, 2019 at 4:43 pm

    yessssssssss! You’re so not alone in your business. <3

  11. Anita Barfoot Berg says: February 27, 2019 at 4:44 pm

    That is being in ease and flow baby! it’s not about building its about being!!!

  12. Atiya Chaudhry says: February 27, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    Oooh how interesting fear has gold ?

  13. Atiya Chaudhry-Green says: February 27, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    Oooh how interesting fear has gold

  14. Sara Ballard says: February 27, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    For later… read the book Daring to Rest … so good…
    https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Rest-Reclaim-Power-Meditation/dp/1622039092/?inf_contact_key=2f4f60cff1dd34b4132b5973b03b6241

    • Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:43 am

      Sounds yummy!

  15. Atiya Chaudhry says: February 27, 2019 at 4:48 pm

    Itโ€™s interesting how during our purpose we need to have balance

  16. Shelley McNamara says: February 27, 2019 at 4:48 pm

    That was my message this morning <3

  17. Christina Lord says: February 27, 2019 at 4:48 pm

    Hey Allison!??

  18. Kristen Kosinski says: February 27, 2019 at 4:49 pm

    This is like…the opposite of Hit the Fucking Ball!

  19. Christina Lord says: February 27, 2019 at 4:49 pm

    I love this reminder!! xx

  20. Elaine Blais says: February 27, 2019 at 4:53 pm

    Hey Allison ?

  21. Christina Lord says: February 27, 2019 at 4:53 pm

    Full on swinging for that ball can be soooo exhausting!!!

  22. Michelle Hall says: February 27, 2019 at 4:54 pm

    I needed the reminder to let the spirit and the universe be part of my growth and just ALLOWING!

  23. Michele Lehmann Brown says: February 27, 2019 at 4:55 pm

    Morning beauty

  24. Shanti Zimmermann says: February 27, 2019 at 6:30 pm

    I love you <3 The monkey's always show up when we slow down...buggers.

    I love you for YOU. I am happy you have a business both for you and your awesome people...but I love YOU.

  25. Shanti Zimmermann says: February 27, 2019 at 6:31 pm

    Yes!! The divine can inspire us to rest too!

  26. Michelle McMahon Stephens says: February 27, 2019 at 9:40 pm

    As a recovering overachiever, I totally see and hear you. <3

  27. Michelle McMahon Stephens says: February 27, 2019 at 9:45 pm

    stfu fear! ๐Ÿ˜€

  28. Kimberley Dashiell Danza says: February 27, 2019 at 9:54 pm

    Catching the replay. โ€œHealing is creative!โ€ ?

  29. Kimberley Dashiell Danza says: February 27, 2019 at 9:54 pm

    Catching the replay. โ€œHealing is creative!โ€

  30. Lauren Spivey Lmt says: February 28, 2019 at 3:41 am

    This is so wonderful to hear

  31. Lauren Spivey Lmt says: February 28, 2019 at 3:43 am

    Balance is always something to strive for. What that looks like will always change

  32. Lauren Spivey Lmt says: February 28, 2019 at 3:44 am

    My business is in service to my clients โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

  33. Lauren Spivey Lmt says: February 28, 2019 at 3:44 am

    My business is in service to my clients

  34. Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:31 am

    โ€œMind-messโ€

  35. Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:31 am

    Are you live on IG too?

    • Allison Crow says: February 28, 2019 at 3:11 pm

      Cara Wykowski yes. I tried it out. It was an awful angle.

  36. Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:39 am

    That nasty inner critic!

  37. Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:39 am

    Overachiever has muscle memory! Same for my perfectionism.

    • Allison Crow says: February 28, 2019 at 3:11 pm

      Cara Wykowski I know you get it! Well keep practicing together.

  38. Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:40 am

    Sorry not sorry

  39. Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:42 am

    Fear alert means wisdom is near!

  40. Saeri Wilde says: February 28, 2019 at 4:44 am

    This is what having a baby has done for me

  41. Cara Wykowski says: February 28, 2019 at 4:44 am

    A week of rest per every hour of anesthesia

    • Allison Crow says: February 28, 2019 at 3:10 pm

      Cara Wykowski wow. Iโ€™ve never heard that formula. Makes sense!

  42. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: February 28, 2019 at 3:10 pm

    Love this!! Divine right orderโค๏ธ

  43. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: February 28, 2019 at 3:10 pm

    Love this!! Divine right order

  44. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: February 28, 2019 at 3:11 pm

    Yes!! #partnershipwiththedivine

  45. Allison Crow says: March 3, 2019 at 12:20 am

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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