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Which one do you think about more? Something my coach said to me that stopped me in my tracks:

January 21, 2018

Which one do you think about more? Something my coach said to me that stopped me in my tracks:

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  1. Anita Barfoot Berg says: January 21, 2018 at 10:55 pm

    Hey ?

  2. Charan Surdhar says: January 21, 2018 at 10:57 pm

    Hi ??

    • Allison Crow says: January 21, 2018 at 11:10 pm

      You are up late!

    • Charan Surdhar says: January 21, 2018 at 11:26 pm

      goin to ? now…. ?
      Was nice to catch your live and great question which Iโ€™ve been feeling into. I love who Iโ€™m becoming this year….

  3. Allison Crow says: January 21, 2018 at 11:21 pm

    I totally forgot an important part of the story. My coach created a million dollar business + last year as a LIFE coach. And she said in Jan 17 she wasnโ€™t even close to the woman that could do thatโ€”- but she became Jan 2018 Woman.

    Maybe Iโ€™m to pooped from the drive to make sense. ???

  4. Allison Crow says: January 21, 2018 at 11:21 pm

    I totally forgot an important part of the story. My coach created a million dollar business + last year as a LIFE coach. And she said in Jan 17 she wasnโ€™t even close to the woman that could do thatโ€”- but she became Jan 2018 Woman.

    Maybe Iโ€™m to pooped from the drive to make sense.

  5. Kay Parker Blond says: January 21, 2018 at 11:43 pm

    Do I spy a diamond scholar necklace?

    • Allison Crow says: January 22, 2018 at 2:12 am

      Nope. That is my platinum diamond A

  6. David Block says: January 21, 2018 at 11:47 pm

    Brilliant question. Just asking that question creates power within me….

  7. Michelle Jeanette says: January 22, 2018 at 12:54 am

    I’m grounded, centered, courageous, joyful, creative, confident, energetic, vibrant, healthy, fun, aligned, Spirit ????? love u

  8. Cara Wykowski says: January 22, 2018 at 2:01 am

    Great question. Iโ€™m thinking about me in the present. I forget to think about me and where I want to go and how that feels.

  9. Cara Wykowski says: January 22, 2018 at 2:03 am

    Agreed โ€” I want to fill the gap with thoughts of my future self along the way.

  10. Mary Tirrell says: January 22, 2018 at 2:18 am

    Yikes… great question…

  11. Nadine Larder says: January 22, 2018 at 3:34 am

    Who I am now and who Iโ€™m becoming

  12. Paula Roelands says: January 22, 2018 at 4:02 am

    My first reaction was to laugh delightedly And answer that Iโ€™m thinking about who I am right this minute. BEing. And….Iโ€™m thinking about who I am becoming. Every. Single. Day ??

  13. Paula Roelands says: January 22, 2018 at 4:02 am

    My first reaction was to laugh delightedly And answer that Iโ€™m thinking about who I am right this minute. BEing. And….Iโ€™m thinking about who I am becoming. Every. Single. Day

  14. Deidra Towns says: January 22, 2018 at 4:49 am

    Thinking about who I have to be… a lot

  15. Alexandra Serediuc says: January 22, 2018 at 7:36 am

    Can’t get over how beautiful you are ?

  16. Alexandra Serediuc says: January 22, 2018 at 7:36 am

    Can’t get over how beautiful you are

  17. Ashlie Woods says: January 22, 2018 at 4:11 pm

    One of my favorite things to explore with photography clients… who are you becoming and how can we capture THAT in a way that allows you to step more fully into it? ? I am becoming someone who embodies radical trust.

    • Ashlie Woods says: January 22, 2018 at 4:12 pm

      Recently read this question that seems to fit… At the end of 2018 when you’ve become who you’re becoming, what conversations are you no longer participating in? ?

    • Allison Crow says: January 22, 2018 at 4:18 pm

      Ashlie Woods and what conversations ARE we now having !!!

  18. Ashlie Woods says: January 22, 2018 at 4:11 pm

    One of my favorite things to explore with photography clients… who are you becoming and how can we capture THAT in a way that allows you to step more fully into it? I am becoming someone who embodies radical trust.

    • Ashlie Woods says: January 22, 2018 at 4:12 pm

      Recently read this question that seems to fit… At the end of 2018 when you’ve become who you’re becoming, what conversations are you no longer participating in?

  19. Marie Herrera says: January 22, 2018 at 11:42 pm

    Ok, Allison. Iโ€™ve been thinking about this all day. Truly food for thought.

  20. Angela Paris says: January 24, 2018 at 1:43 pm

    Love, are you thinking about the person you have been or the one you are becoming?????? Oh wow……

  21. Angela Paris says: January 24, 2018 at 1:45 pm

    Binging on A.C. this morning! Great things to meditate on! You rock the cazba!

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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