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Your baby is suffering…..because you have excuses and are getting mushy.

November 27, 2018

Your baby is suffering…..because you have excuses and are getting mushy.

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Advanced Personal Development Life Coach for Experienced Business Owners & ExecsπŸ’›Author, Art, & Dogs

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  1. Liz Gilmour says: November 27, 2018 at 6:25 pm

    there is no internet connection in Zimbabwe..does that excuse count?

  2. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: November 27, 2018 at 6:26 pm

    Just did something to up my business in Dec and January!!

  3. Liz Gilmour says: November 27, 2018 at 6:26 pm

    got it!

  4. Abid Hussain Bhatti says: November 27, 2018 at 6:28 pm

    Yes Right

  5. Heather Esposito says: November 27, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    oh man, I need to sign up for one of those (and then figure out what to get coached on, lol)

    • Heather Esposito says: November 28, 2018 at 12:13 am

      I love being told what to do, thank you! AND I love being able to report back that I sent out emails, posted on my personal page & scheduled a post on my business page (I AM that dorky student!) πŸ™‚

    • Allison Crow says: November 28, 2018 at 12:14 am

      Heather Esposito good. Dorky students make their dreams a reality.

  6. Liza Boubari says: November 27, 2018 at 6:32 pm

    ahhhh I just got here πŸ™

  7. Laura Haviland says: November 27, 2018 at 6:36 pm

    Hi Allison, so nice to see you.xo

    • Allison Crow says: November 27, 2018 at 6:41 pm

      Hi Laura <3

  8. Laura Haviland says: November 27, 2018 at 6:36 pm

    I will watch the reply, thank you. Xoxo

  9. Shannon Peebles says: November 27, 2018 at 6:39 pm

    Efficiency – that’s my jam.

  10. Angie Cole says: November 27, 2018 at 6:40 pm

    “sometimes you need an ass spanking…” – Ain’t that the truth!!! πŸ˜€

  11. Angie Cole says: November 27, 2018 at 6:41 pm

    HAHAHA!! You’re my kind of sassy <3

  12. Christina Lord says: November 27, 2018 at 6:42 pm

    Sweet baby Jesus ???

  13. Christina Lord says: November 27, 2018 at 6:42 pm

    Sweet baby Jesus

  14. Angie Cole says: November 27, 2018 at 6:46 pm

    “share your heart, show your work, make an offer” – yes!

  15. Christina Lord says: November 27, 2018 at 6:47 pm

    Mac & cheese slut!!???

  16. Christina Lord says: November 27, 2018 at 6:47 pm

    Mac & cheese slut!!

  17. Paula Roelands says: November 27, 2018 at 7:42 pm

    feeding my baby. Good stuff – 2 speaking engagements the next 2 weekends…and planning my online program daily now, starting invites Dec 1

  18. Megan Winkler says: November 27, 2018 at 7:55 pm

    Hahaha! I’m dead. Sweet baby Jesus!!!

  19. Tressa Brandenburg Ellis says: November 27, 2018 at 8:40 pm

    I love this!! ? Preach it!

  20. Tressa Ellis says: November 27, 2018 at 8:40 pm

    I love this!! Preach it!

  21. Lyn Blanc-Carpenter says: November 27, 2019 at 6:11 pm

    Thanks for the kick in the pants! ?

  22. Lyn Blanc-Carpenter says: November 27, 2019 at 6:11 pm

    Thanks for the kick in the pants!

  23. Jody Caunter Garcia says: November 28, 2019 at 12:57 am

    Thank you for the ass spanking. It’s mindset for me right now.

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛π₯𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 π›πž 𝐟𝐒𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 πšπ―π¨π’ππžπβ€”they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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