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A few little secrets about your “Big Why” and the pressure that can come with it…. What I’ve learned about Your Purpose and Your Why in 15 years of self employment.

May 7, 2018

A few little secrets about your “Big Why” and the pressure that can come with it….
What I’ve learned about Your Purpose and Your Why in 15 years of self employment.

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  1. Melanie Merriam Anderson says: May 7, 2018 at 7:28 pm

    Hi!

  2. Ellen Trick says: May 7, 2018 at 7:28 pm

    Hi Allison. I’m driving so won’t comment

  3. Robert C Stern says: May 7, 2018 at 7:29 pm

    Hey hey hey Allison

  4. Stacy Petrossian says: May 7, 2018 at 7:29 pm

    Me too! You are amazing ! Very grateful <3

  5. Marianne McCourt says: May 7, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    Hey there. Mx

  6. Ana Caragea says: May 7, 2018 at 7:32 pm

    Hi Allison ??

  7. Marianne McCourt says: May 7, 2018 at 7:35 pm

    Put our oxygen mask on first.

  8. Ana Caragea says: May 7, 2018 at 7:38 pm

    It was the same for me with my workshop 🙂 to see if I can pull it off ?? and I did ??

  9. Ana Caragea says: May 7, 2018 at 7:38 pm

    It was the same for me with my workshop 🙂 to see if I can pull it off and I did

  10. Marianne McCourt says: May 7, 2018 at 7:39 pm

    Fab news Ana. Mx

  11. Ana Caragea says: May 7, 2018 at 7:40 pm

    It took only 4 years hehe

  12. Gisele Cabral says: May 7, 2018 at 7:41 pm

    Great advice! ?

  13. Gisele Cabral says: May 7, 2018 at 7:41 pm

    Great advice!

  14. Marianne McCourt says: May 7, 2018 at 7:42 pm

    Confident

  15. Ana Caragea says: May 7, 2018 at 7:43 pm

    Yes! Time on task = skills = confidence

  16. Beth Incorvati says: May 7, 2018 at 7:44 pm

    Glad I’m here! <3

  17. Marianne McCourt says: May 7, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    Me too. Allison your on fire tonight. High energy goddess!

  18. Marianne McCourt says: May 7, 2018 at 7:53 pm

    Seems to be a bullshit rule that we have to change the entire world or we are worthless!!

  19. Beth Incorvati says: May 7, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    I’m giving myself permission to honor me first and then others!

  20. Leonard Irwin says: May 7, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    Think global help local.

  21. Beth Incorvati says: May 7, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    Next year I’m at Camp Star Heart!

  22. Andrea Jimenez says: May 7, 2018 at 7:59 pm

    I am going to do a live launch this week. I am completely excited and terrified. I don’t want to bomb. What can I do to overcome my fear

  23. Marianne McCourt says: May 7, 2018 at 8:01 pm

    Got to go. Love your coaching and energy. Beginning to have real shifts. Thanks AC. Mx

  24. Andrea Jimenez says: May 7, 2018 at 8:03 pm

    Yes. I am here. Thank you

  25. Andrea Jimenez says: May 7, 2018 at 8:04 pm

    Thank you Thank you Thank you! !! This helps sooo much ???

  26. Andrea Jimenez says: May 7, 2018 at 8:04 pm

    Thank you Thank you Thank you! !! This helps sooo much

  27. Andrea Jimenez says: May 7, 2018 at 8:06 pm

    That sounds awesome! ! It will work! You get it girl!!

  28. Beth Incorvati says: May 7, 2018 at 8:09 pm

    and you help bring out our best selves!

  29. Andrea Jimenez says: May 7, 2018 at 8:09 pm

    Whoa! Yes I give myself permission to give my best

  30. Jacqui Bowman says: May 7, 2018 at 8:09 pm

    My insight lines up with my coaching Call from today w Hank too! I’m joining now! I’m ready for a re-ignition of ME!

  31. Erica Saltarelli says: May 7, 2018 at 8:19 pm

    So true and honest! Love it ?

  32. Erica Saltarelli says: May 7, 2018 at 8:19 pm

    So true and honest! Love it

  33. Mary Dixon says: May 7, 2018 at 8:30 pm

    Watching replay.. I still don’ even know what my work is right now but I love what you are saying about the WHY it makes total sense, starting with the personal, moving toward the altruistic later when you have a track record and know you can and have dealt with survival needs. Good stuff and I’m only at 11 minutes… 🙂

  34. Michelle Jeanette says: May 7, 2018 at 8:37 pm

    Replay ????

  35. Kay Parker Blond says: May 7, 2018 at 10:20 pm

    Hey there beautiful

  36. Lauren Stepanek Holder says: May 7, 2018 at 11:12 pm

    I was there!!! So fun.

  37. Lauren Stepanek Holder says: May 7, 2018 at 11:15 pm

    My why is selfie still. Sure I ❤️ helping others along the way. Fulfillment is the base of everything for me.

  38. Lauren Stepanek Holder says: May 7, 2018 at 11:15 pm

    My why is selfie still. Sure I helping others along the way. Fulfillment is the base of everything for me.

  39. Lauren Stepanek Holder says: May 7, 2018 at 11:18 pm

    No guilt!!!

  40. Michelle Mechem says: May 8, 2018 at 12:22 am

    Thank you and thanks to the Universe for putting you in my newsfeed. (Or maybe your marketing peep? Lol) Just watched/ listened to the replay. The big thing I got was my Big Why doesn’t have to be set in stone. It can be short term and self focused. I don’t need to save the world or prove anything to anyone but myself. Done. ?

  41. Michelle Mechem says: May 8, 2018 at 12:22 am

    Thank you and thanks to the Universe for putting you in my newsfeed. (Or maybe your marketing peep? Lol) Just watched/ listened to the replay. The big thing I got was my Big Why doesn’t have to be set in stone. It can be short term and self focused. I don’t need to save the world or prove anything to anyone but myself. Done.

  42. Kathryn Stanley-Hart says: May 8, 2018 at 3:19 am

    Reply viewer. Loved it. Now for action

  43. Tressa Ellis says: May 8, 2018 at 3:38 am

    This is awesome!

  44. Bette Norcross Wappner says: May 8, 2018 at 4:03 am

    Thank youuuuu ???????

  45. Bette Norcross Wappner says: May 8, 2018 at 4:03 am

    Thank youuuuu

  46. Paula Roelands says: May 8, 2018 at 3:38 pm

    I love your vomit face ??

    • Paula Roelands says: May 8, 2018 at 3:50 pm

      It’s the “wake up, be real and stop the people pleasing” look ?

  47. Paula Roelands says: May 8, 2018 at 3:38 pm

    I love your vomit face

    • Paula Roelands says: May 8, 2018 at 3:50 pm

      It’s the “wake up, be real and stop the people pleasing” look

  48. Leslie Typrin says: May 8, 2018 at 4:35 pm

    This is great

  49. John Doorn says: May 8, 2018 at 4:54 pm

    ❤️

  50. Michelle McMahon Stephens says: May 8, 2018 at 5:03 pm

    Hi on replay 😀

  51. Leslie Typrin says: May 8, 2018 at 5:17 pm

    For so long I have felt ashamed and guilty for not having this HUGE “why”. I felt I had to justify to myself, to my husband, to my parents, to my friends “why” I wanted to pursue my passions and interests. I somehow took the desire within myself and attached it to an outcome and product and something “I could be doing” in the world. I had to turn my passion into a paying “gig” and when I didn’t I felt like a loser.

    I am releasing that attachment. I am pursuing my dreams and passions because I truly want to. I grow personally. I get to explore and learn and share what I learned with others by just being With them – no strings attached. Man that feels like “freedom” to me. And eventually if that turns to something more then it’s a BONUS but right now I need to reel myself back in, simplify, and focus.

    • Paula Roelands says: May 8, 2018 at 8:30 pm

      Love love love this!!?

    • Paula Roelands says: May 8, 2018 at 8:30 pm

      Love love love this!!

    • Jacqueline Knight says: May 9, 2018 at 4:36 pm

      Thank you for articulating my thoughts too.

  52. Jean Bradley-Brennan says: May 9, 2018 at 12:31 pm

    Whoa

  53. Jacqueline Knight says: May 9, 2018 at 4:44 pm

    Thanks Allison

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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful parts—my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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