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Are you doubting yourself? Let’s choose better.

January 5, 2018

Are you doubting yourself? Let’s choose better.

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  1. Jacqui Bowman says: January 5, 2018 at 3:56 pm

    Hello πŸ™‚ Allison I love watching you! and wish I could more!

  2. Cathy O'Neill says: January 5, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    HI Allison!

  3. Barry Owen says: January 5, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    Hi Allison – Great watching you grow your business

  4. Steph Levine says: January 5, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    Good morning, my precious light beam !! ??

  5. Steph Levine says: January 5, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    Good morning, my precious light beam !!

  6. Jo Barnard says: January 5, 2018 at 3:58 pm

    Hey darl xxx

  7. Jacqui Bowman says: January 5, 2018 at 3:58 pm

    YES Choose better thoughts! YES we decide the story. AHHH you are speaking my language!

  8. Christine Summers says: January 5, 2018 at 4:00 pm

    Blame, shame, guilt, and doubt….don’t live here!!!

  9. Jacqui Bowman says: January 5, 2018 at 4:01 pm

    I am doubting if I can get back on track with food. UGH the past month has cost me 7lbs! Im replacing that with Im back … πŸ™‚ on track. and cheers the holidays were fun!

  10. Michelle Jeanette says: January 5, 2018 at 4:02 pm

    hello lovely

  11. Christine Summers says: January 5, 2018 at 4:02 pm

    One day at a time..don’t live in the past, and move forward!

  12. Jacqui Bowman says: January 5, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    Yes relax its just… Jan 5th. LOL
    People come at the new year with SOOOOOO much intensity that is impossible to win week one.

  13. Barry Owen says: January 5, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    Doubt only proves itself right . . . We have to learn this over and over and over . . .

  14. Michelle Jeanette says: January 5, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    good morning xo

  15. Michelle Jeanette says: January 5, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    we don’t have to believe every thought <3

  16. Steph Levine says: January 5, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    It’s funny when you think it’s supposed to look a certain way and then your success shines through like that. Wow congratulations

  17. Michelle Jeanette says: January 5, 2018 at 4:06 pm

    yes!!! xo

  18. Ghada Bitar Khalifeh says: January 5, 2018 at 4:07 pm

    Choose the thought that elevate you .

  19. LaTanya Hayward says: January 5, 2018 at 4:07 pm

    My daily affirmation is: I am willing to choose a different thought.

  20. Michelle Jeanette says: January 5, 2018 at 4:07 pm

    I’m learning to honor my shadow…

  21. Michelle Jeanette says: January 5, 2018 at 4:07 pm

    Shadow and Light

  22. Robert C Stern says: January 5, 2018 at 4:08 pm

    Good to see you Allison will catch replay

  23. Michelle Jeanette says: January 5, 2018 at 4:08 pm

    enjoy the day

  24. Ghada Bitar Khalifeh says: January 5, 2018 at 4:09 pm

    Acknowledge the thought /message /fear then make a choice

  25. Ghada Bitar Khalifeh says: January 5, 2018 at 4:09 pm

    Have a great one

  26. Jody Caunter Garcia says: January 5, 2018 at 4:51 pm

    Same as you…already beating myself up about things not accomplished and doubting myself. ? Thank you for sharing! ?

  27. Jody Caunter Garcia says: January 5, 2018 at 4:51 pm

    Same as you…already beating myself up about things not accomplished and doubting myself. Thank you for sharing!

  28. Paula Roelands says: January 5, 2018 at 5:04 pm

    I am doubting that it’s possible for me to hone in on a specific expertise focus. Doubting has kept me in a holding pattern, not willing to land at the airport =D. I am choosing to hone in on a specific expertise as my focus….with space to diverge if and when an occasion asks for it. I am equipped with all I need to speak directly to a specific group of people I can help.

  29. Paula Roelands says: January 5, 2018 at 5:06 pm

    oh yeah and I don’t have to decide in concrete this week for the next 360 days.

  30. Lindsay Larcom Brooks says: January 5, 2018 at 5:19 pm

    My January 1st was also blank! ?? Thank you for the reminder that doubt and resistance, once acknowledged, are the BEST teachers. Lacy taught me “forget, remember, begin again,” and that helps me chose new thoughts. I think instead of resolutions at the New Year, we should make lists of all the delightful, amazing, earth-shattering shit we accomplished over the past year and reflect on our ever-growing abilities. That would surely kick any New Year doubt right is the butt ?❀

  31. Lindsay Larcom Brooks says: January 5, 2018 at 5:19 pm

    My January 1st was also blank! Thank you for the reminder that doubt and resistance, once acknowledged, are the BEST teachers. Lacy taught me “forget, remember, begin again,” and that helps me chose new thoughts. I think instead of resolutions at the New Year, we should make lists of all the delightful, amazing, earth-shattering shit we accomplished over the past year and reflect on our ever-growing abilities. That would surely kick any New Year doubt right is the butt

  32. Cara Wykowski says: January 5, 2018 at 10:05 pm

    Replay ?

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛π₯𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 π›πž 𝐟𝐒𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 πšπ―π¨π’ππžπβ€”they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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