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Behind the Scenes of a Leader Meltdown: What happens when you let your self feel it all and fall apart.

April 7, 2020

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  1. M.A. Goldman says: April 7, 2020 at 4:04 pm

    Hey you.

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:35 pm

      M.A. Goldman hey champ.

  2. Farrah Brown La Pan says: April 7, 2020 at 4:07 pm

    Hey coach ??

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:35 pm

      Farrah Brown La Pan hey champ!!

  3. Farrah Brown La Pan says: April 7, 2020 at 4:07 pm

    Hey coach

  4. Hank Avink says: April 7, 2020 at 4:10 pm

    I use the word triggers

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:36 pm

      Hank Avink yep yep! ???

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:36 pm

      Hank Avink yep yep!

  5. Hank Avink says: April 7, 2020 at 4:11 pm

    Love you friend…Gotta jump.

  6. Colette Nies says: April 7, 2020 at 4:13 pm

    What is disc profile?

  7. David Lea says: April 7, 2020 at 4:17 pm

    β€œRage is my grief”. Wow – thanks for sharing, Allison! My grief is self-pity and taking things too personally…?

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:36 pm

      David Lea I’ve got a bit of those too.

  8. David Lea says: April 7, 2020 at 4:17 pm

    β€œRage is my grief”. Wow – thanks for sharing, Allison! My grief is self-pity and taking things too personally…

  9. Allan Santos says: April 7, 2020 at 4:23 pm

    Upfull!!!❀️?

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:36 pm

      Allan Santos hi Allan ?

  10. Allan Santos says: April 7, 2020 at 4:23 pm

    Upfull!!!

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:36 pm

      Allan Santos hi Allan

  11. Kelly Ferguson says: April 7, 2020 at 4:25 pm

    our bodies are so wise

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:37 pm

      Kelly Ferguson the wisest.

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:37 pm

      Kelly Ferguson I’m not sure how wise talking about poop is. Oh well. ?

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:37 pm

      Kelly Ferguson I’m not sure how wise talking about poop is. Oh well.

  12. Farrah Brown La Pan says: April 7, 2020 at 4:31 pm

    Yes, you are an amazing coach.

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:38 pm

      Farrah Brown La Pan thank you.

  13. Farrah Brown La Pan says: April 7, 2020 at 4:32 pm

    I love that you’re real.

  14. Kelly Ferguson says: April 7, 2020 at 4:32 pm

    coaches in touch with all of their humanness are the best coaches

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:38 pm

      Kelly Ferguson thank you for that reinforcement ?

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:38 pm

      Kelly Ferguson thank you for that reinforcement

  15. Malinda Baum says: April 7, 2020 at 4:33 pm

    Having someone lead from a place of being human is important to me

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:38 pm

      Malinda Baum thank you. ?

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:38 pm

      Malinda Baum thank you.

  16. Leslie Typrin says: April 7, 2020 at 4:35 pm

    I felt exactly the same yesterday. I just couldn’t do anything. It was so heavy. And I made my bed today too – which I never do ?❀️

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:38 pm

      Leslie Typrin all the R A N G E of feeling.

    • Leslie Typrin says: April 7, 2020 at 9:05 pm

      Allison Crow absolutely ?

  17. Leslie Typrin says: April 7, 2020 at 4:35 pm

    I felt exactly the same yesterday. I just couldn’t do anything. It was so heavy. And I made my bed today too – which I never do

    • Leslie Typrin says: April 7, 2020 at 9:05 pm

      Allison Crow absolutely

  18. Christina Edwards says: April 7, 2020 at 4:36 pm

    I Love that, *Big Emotional Shit*

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:39 pm

      Christina Edwards super classy. I know. But so true. ?

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:39 pm

      Christina Edwards super classy. I know. But so true.

  19. Christina Edwards says: April 7, 2020 at 4:39 pm

    Haahaha. That is great. Pull the bottom drawer out on the vanity and put your feet yp on it.

  20. Christina Edwards says: April 7, 2020 at 4:40 pm

    The problem with that is that when we change our thoughts we ignore our circumstances. *YES*

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:40 pm

      Christina Edwards only afternoon we process the emotion can it truly be helpful.

  21. Christina Edwards says: April 7, 2020 at 4:45 pm

    Agree 100%. I have mastered the ability to not feel.

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:40 pm

      Christina Edwards it’s so easy. All of humanity outsources feeling uncomfortable for survival!

    • Christina Edwards says: April 7, 2020 at 10:41 pm

      Allison Crow Some of us live in Survival mode. Giggles. Working on finding living mode.
      Have a blessed day

  22. Malinda Baum says: April 7, 2020 at 4:48 pm

    I am with you Christina

  23. Annette Stahl says: April 7, 2020 at 4:54 pm

    ? love your self compassion – β€œwhen the awareness arises”

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:41 pm

      Annette Stahl awareness has to be gentle for me.

  24. Annette Stahl says: April 7, 2020 at 4:54 pm

    love your self compassion – β€œwhen the awareness arises”

  25. Annette Stahl says: April 7, 2020 at 4:55 pm

    ? when β€œI want to escape is when I need to lean in”

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:41 pm

      Annette Stahl yep. ?

  26. Annette Stahl says: April 7, 2020 at 4:55 pm

    when β€œI want to escape is when I need to lean in”

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:41 pm

      Annette Stahl yep.

  27. Annette Stahl says: April 7, 2020 at 4:55 pm

    So needed this today!! Thank you so much for your vulnerability and sharing!!

  28. Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 4:56 pm

    Jason Goldberg you are mentioned and acknowledged for this. Thank you for your Prayer yesterday.
    John Patrick Morgan you are also mentioned in this. Folding steel.

    • John Patrick Morgan says: April 7, 2020 at 6:18 pm

      Allison Sweet! I mentioned you in my live yesterday too!
      ? ? ???

    • John Patrick Morgan says: April 7, 2020 at 6:18 pm

      Allison Sweet! I mentioned you in my live yesterday too!

      • Jason Goldberg says: April 7, 2020 at 7:09 pm

        Allison Crow luv u boo

    • Jason Goldberg says: April 7, 2020 at 7:09 pm

      Allison Crow luv u boo ???

  29. Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 4:56 pm

    Sara Alvarado thank you for seeing me and witnessing me as a leader, a coach, a friend, and a fallible human.

  30. Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 6:24 pm

    Well-said! We are all “perfectly imperfect” and should be open to being vulnerable and authentic without worry of guilt or shame, just like one of my favorite recent authors BrenΓ© Brown would say. When an Aggie props up a Longhorn… She must be pretty awesome! ??

    • Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 10:17 pm

      I love how I made this comment during your session… And then you went and mentioned BrenΓ© there at the end. She’s a recent discovery for me. I send a lot of folks to her books and TED Talks… Did not know about her Podcast until today! Great job Allison Crow. ?

  31. Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 6:24 pm

    Well-said! We are all “perfectly imperfect” and should be open to being vulnerable and authentic without worry of guilt or shame, just like one of my favorite recent authors BrenΓ© Brown would say. When an Aggie props up a Longhorn… She must be pretty awesome!

    • Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 10:17 pm

      I love how I made this comment during your session… And then you went and mentioned BrenΓ© there at the end. She’s a recent discovery for me. I send a lot of folks to her books and TED Talks… Did not know about her Podcast until today! Great job Allison Crow.

  32. Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 6:26 pm

    Yep… When we want to escape, we might want to “lean into it” instead. Until we do… It owns us.

  33. Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 7:02 pm

    I was just saying I miss seeing you…and here you are! Thanks for your leadership…..replay.

  34. Jason Goldberg says: April 7, 2020 at 7:07 pm

    I like upful!!

  35. Jason Goldberg says: April 7, 2020 at 7:07 pm

    I had a REALLY good cry this morning! Felt so damn good!!!

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 7:49 pm

      Jason Goldberg thank you for sharing. And thank you for your prayer.

    • Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 8:54 pm

      Jason Goldberg we need a hugs button.

  36. Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 7:51 pm

    ???

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:31 pm

      Scott Minke classy, huh?

  37. Ana Caragea says: April 7, 2020 at 7:59 pm

    Thank you! You are my amazing mentor and I’m so grateful for your leadership ❀️❀️❀️

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:46 pm

      Ana Caragea thank you for that acknowledgment ❀️

  38. Ana Caragea says: April 7, 2020 at 7:59 pm

    Thank you! You are my amazing mentor and I’m so grateful for your leadership

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:46 pm

      Ana Caragea thank you for that acknowledgment

  39. Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 8:15 pm

    Always “Messy in the Middle” and we fall down, get back up, and grow! ?

  40. Scott Minke says: April 7, 2020 at 8:15 pm

    Always “Messy in the Middle” and we fall down, get back up, and grow!

  41. Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:35 pm

    Diane Reiner hello. ❀️

  42. Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 8:35 pm

    Diane Reiner hello.

  43. Ana Caragea says: April 7, 2020 at 8:39 pm

    Beautiful ❀️

  44. Ana Caragea says: April 7, 2020 at 8:40 pm

    Thank you! ❀️❀️❀️?

  45. Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 9:05 pm

    I love the synchronicity ….large intestine emotion in TCM theory is ….letting go.

  46. Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 9:12 pm

    Ain’t no real relatable coach that feels they have ALL their shit together all the time. If we think they do….I call but shit.

    • Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 9:14 pm

      Bull shit …I mean.

  47. Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 9:16 pm

    Lion for us all.

    • Allison Crow says: April 7, 2020 at 9:21 pm

      Laura Long

  48. Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 9:22 pm

    By passing the sensation of emotion feels like constapation of the energy system.

  49. Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 9:29 pm

    Guilt…I am not doing enough…brings up the old clogged energy of… therefore, I am not enough. That’s my constapation of the day. Tomorrow is a new poo day???

  50. Laura Long says: April 7, 2020 at 9:29 pm

    Guilt…I am not doing enough…brings up the old clogged energy of… therefore, I am not enough. That’s my constapation of the day. Tomorrow is a new poo day

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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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