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Drama and What it is Doing to Your SoulFull Business

October 15, 2020

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  1. Paula Roelands says: October 15, 2020 at 3:23 pm

    In situational circumstance drama

  2. Carolina Pérez says: October 15, 2020 at 3:24 pm

    Hola MTFK

  3. Carolina Pérez says: October 15, 2020 at 3:25 pm

    “Drama= the chosen response to a certain situation”

  4. Paula Roelands says: October 15, 2020 at 3:25 pm

    Hahaha ok im not flapping my arms

  5. Paula Roelands says: October 15, 2020 at 3:27 pm

    I’m talking about it to process…not sure if it’s helping or hurting but my rationale is better out than in and not hiding

  6. Paula Roelands says: October 15, 2020 at 3:29 pm

    Hi Leroy, Clemmo, and Rocky!

  7. Carolina Pérez says: October 15, 2020 at 3:30 pm

    You handled that better than ever

  8. Deidra Towns says: October 15, 2020 at 3:30 pm

    Oooh I’ve not heard of frothing… I’ve heard “fawn” ie people pleasing.

  9. Mary Tirrell says: October 15, 2020 at 3:31 pm

    i call it “freaking”

  10. Carolina Pérez says: October 15, 2020 at 3:31 pm

    “Recognition of drama= strong story or strong emotion”

  11. Mary Tirrell says: October 15, 2020 at 3:34 pm

    we need to overcome

  12. Carolina Pérez says: October 15, 2020 at 3:46 pm

    “Yes” and that’s why you are my favorite coach MTFK!

  13. Carolina Pérez says: October 15, 2020 at 3:49 pm

    “Be mindful of what works. Don’t be a cold bitch. Be mindful of your sabotage and be willing to do the boring part of your business!”

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝—they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful parts—my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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