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How the brain reacts when you do something you have never done before.

March 28, 2018

How the brain reacts when you do something you have never done before.

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  1. Donna Kalantar says: March 28, 2018 at 9:49 pm

    Replay hello ? Allison

  2. Donna Kalantar says: March 28, 2018 at 9:49 pm

    Replay hello Allison

  3. Sharon Aldridge Sleighter says: March 28, 2018 at 9:52 pm

    I am a shutter downer.

  4. Tracey Lee Wallace says: March 28, 2018 at 9:52 pm

    Youโ€™re busting through your high water mark.

  5. Amy Klco says: March 28, 2018 at 9:52 pm

    Thanks for mentioned “freezer.” Most people only says “fight or fight.” Me, I’m a freezer. I get overwhelmed and it’s totally dear in the headlights…

  6. Tracey Lee Wallace says: March 28, 2018 at 9:57 pm

    Distraction!!!!!

  7. Tracey Lee Wallace says: March 28, 2018 at 9:57 pm

    No distraction. No delay.

  8. Cristina Palma says: March 28, 2018 at 9:58 pm

    I am just getting it!! โ€œoutsourcing discomfortโ€!! Now I am finally understanding it..

  9. Cristina Palma says: March 28, 2018 at 9:58 pm

    outsourcing discomfort..with food, with shopping, by moaning…

  10. Tracey Lee Wallace says: March 28, 2018 at 10:00 pm

    Interestingly it is death. Death of the old way.

  11. Cristina Palma says: March 28, 2018 at 10:00 pm

    …by blaming others…(my partner) lol

  12. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:00 pm

    Red zone alert!

  13. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:03 pm

    Iโ€™m totally experiencing that right now. It sucks

  14. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:06 pm

    You are reminding me that creative solutions canโ€™t come from the red zone. Just did my Second masterclass and it didnโ€™t create the outcomes I wanted. So I want to freak out but I know itโ€™s not helpings. And I just remembered that I canโ€™t find a creative solution if Iโ€™m stressed.

  15. Jane Bell Lassiter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:07 pm

    I agree wholeheartedly… I ? Matt!

  16. Jane Bell Lassiter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:07 pm

    I agree wholeheartedly… I Matt!

  17. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:08 pm

    Iโ€™m in the bath.

  18. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:08 pm

    Favorite green zone activity.

  19. Cristina Palma says: March 28, 2018 at 10:08 pm

    This is bringing awareness of where I am โ€œoutsourcingโ€ right now..

  20. Tracey Lee Wallace says: March 28, 2018 at 10:08 pm

    I love the power of the word โ€˜yetโ€™

  21. Cristina Palma says: March 28, 2018 at 10:08 pm

    my body is screaming for change!

  22. Sharon Aldridge Sleighter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:09 pm

    I’m here because I feel so overwhelmed by current changes.

  23. Jane Bell Lassiter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:10 pm

    I wear a bracelet with 5 beads to remind me to take 5 deep breaths.

  24. Tracey Lee Wallace says: March 28, 2018 at 10:10 pm

    Gotta run. Client time. ? โŒโญ•๏ธ

  25. Tracey Lee Wallace says: March 28, 2018 at 10:10 pm

    Gotta run. Client time.

  26. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:11 pm

    I love that Jane! I just looked up the number 5 and it means the merging of heaven on earth!

  27. Sharon Aldridge Sleighter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:11 pm

    New relationship. I have my first date tomorrow….

  28. Jane Bell Lassiter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:11 pm

    Very cool, Isabelle!

  29. Sharon Aldridge Sleighter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:12 pm

    I get that.

  30. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:13 pm

    The problem is I donโ€™t use anything to outsource the discomfort anymore! So I just have to be with it and manage it internally! Good news bad news right?

  31. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:15 pm

    Acknowledging it. Hearing you.

  32. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:16 pm

    Iโ€™ll do free writing when I get out of bath. Thank you for that.

  33. Sharon Aldridge Sleighter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:17 pm

    27 years

  34. Jane Bell Lassiter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:17 pm

    I’ve been using my words more… when I’m stressed at work I’m learning to announce to my team, “I’m not handling my stress well at the moment. All is well. I’m just not having a great day. I will be back! Hang with me, please.” It has worked wonders!!!

  35. Isabelle Tierney says: March 28, 2018 at 10:17 pm

    Iโ€™m going to go! Letโ€™s connect later! Love you!

  36. Sharon Aldridge Sleighter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:18 pm

    Stephen Hawking.

  37. Amy Klco says: March 28, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    I’m getting really good at telling my fiance “Sorry, I’m getting triggered right now. Forgive me. I’ll get past this…” And he understands. ๐Ÿ™‚

  38. Jane Bell Lassiter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    Yes, Amy!!! So good. ?

  39. Jane Bell Lassiter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    Yes, Amy!!! So good.

  40. Sharon Aldridge Sleighter says: March 28, 2018 at 10:23 pm

    True.

  41. Deidra Towns says: March 28, 2018 at 10:40 pm

    Hi from the replay

  42. Vivian Rich says: March 28, 2018 at 11:21 pm

    Hi from replay

    • Allison Crow says: March 28, 2018 at 11:21 pm

      thanks for stopping in!

  43. Vivian Rich says: March 28, 2018 at 11:22 pm

    Go with your instincts…they never fail.

  44. Deidra Towns says: March 28, 2018 at 11:40 pm

    Self soothing!!!!

  45. Helen May says: March 29, 2018 at 9:16 am

    Replay viewer – hi Allison!

  46. Helen May says: March 29, 2018 at 9:37 am

    have loved Matt Kahn for many years!!

  47. Deidra Towns says: March 29, 2018 at 12:24 pm

    Funny… Iโ€™d never heard of Matt Kahn until you mentioned him. Then when I watched the Wednesday service at Agape (Michael Beckwithโ€™s Church) he was the speaker.

    #synchronicity

  48. Leslie Typrin says: March 31, 2018 at 3:34 pm

    Hi replay!

  49. Joelle Collins Bohart says: April 1, 2018 at 10:18 pm

    Great topic on replay Allison

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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