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Life Coaching, Mindset and Thinking, Releasing Resistance, Renewal, Transformation, Uncategorized

Your Life is A Pile of Dirt

October 14, 2016

YOUR LIFE IS A PILE OF DIRT:

 

Yes…. and believe it or not, this dirt is something. It is in progress. This lot has changed EVERY DAY for the last 2-3 months. It started out a broken down empty house….and then was raised….and then they started shoving dirt around. And they move more dirt, and when I walk by, I can’t see any method to the madness. I just see dirt being pushed around…and I KNOW they are building something.

 

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I know that it will be something that I love and appreciate and enjoy…and will frequent often being just 1 block from my house. And right now…it looks and feels like dirt. It is a PROCESS not an event.

It is BECOMING.

and you, dear one…DEAR ONE…you are becoming. I know it feels like you are being pushed around and dug up by life at times. One day you know what is up…and the next you feel like giving up. But you are in process…and all this dirt shoving and moving and digging…is creating you. it is YOU creating. Can you enjoy the becoming? Can you enjoy the glorious dirt.

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When I walk by, I notice new things. Like the rebar they finally put in to the long trenches they scooped out – no doubt with one of those big rough machines. I know they need this to be strong… and solid ground…and so they dug down deep. And then they scooped that dirt out and bent steel into the long forms….so that what ever they are building…is STURDY…made to last.

You job is to show up. Let your dirt be pushed around. I promise, it is all working for you in Divine order. Find the joy in the becoming….. <3 Allison

 

originally posted on fb….. October 14 2014

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