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  1. Wendy Johnson Burge says: July 12, 2020 at 11:11 pm

    Love the hair!!!

  2. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:12 pm

    Hey x

  3. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:13 pm

    I’d be all over that

  4. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:13 pm

    I love a shimmer

    • Rebecca Davidson says: July 13, 2020 at 2:09 am

      Me too.

  5. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:13 pm

    Cheers mofo

  6. Wendy Johnson Burge says: July 12, 2020 at 11:15 pm

    Right!!!

  7. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:20 pm

    I’m sending you a huge hug x

  8. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:22 pm

    Gut instinct re what you said…. I’m not so sure it’s discomfort… I think it’s more a need for certainty/control.

    • Vicky Hemming says: July 13, 2020 at 12:44 am

      I meant gut reaction to what you said and yes… it’s how we’re wired. Human psychology

  9. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:23 pm

    I don’t have time for boredom. Also, my home life isn’t that different

  10. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:23 pm

    We aren’t “go out and do shit” people most of the time

  11. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:23 pm

    I love boredom ideas thrive there

  12. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:23 pm

    Ha! We dpn

  13. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:24 pm

    We don’t have neighborhood pools up here

  14. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:24 pm

    Its too cold

  15. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:24 pm

    Oh,, gosh. I’m so sorry for your friend

  16. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:25 pm

    Chop wood carry water

  17. Anita Barfoot Berg says: July 12, 2020 at 11:27 pm

    Hey woman

  18. Maggie Grace says: July 12, 2020 at 11:27 pm

    Trying so hard to be bored

  19. Farrah Brown La Pan says: July 12, 2020 at 11:27 pm

    Yes! I tell the kids to let themselves be bored

  20. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:28 pm

    I’ve not been bored at all really

  21. Maggie Grace says: July 12, 2020 at 11:28 pm

    I have the luxury, just goes against my nature

  22. Farrah Brown La Pan says: July 12, 2020 at 11:28 pm

    How are they feeling? Your sister and fam?

  23. Maggie Grace says: July 12, 2020 at 11:29 pm

    Yes! Like busy is better

  24. Anita Barfoot Berg says: July 12, 2020 at 11:30 pm

    When boredom sets in, I move to appreciation. Feels better

  25. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:31 pm

    It’s ok to be bored

  26. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:31 pm

    We feel such an urge to fill every space in our lives

  27. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:33 pm

    I had a 40th covid birthday and I’m going to have a 20th covid wedding anniversary

  28. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:33 pm

    Not enough people are willing to be bored

  29. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:34 pm

    No, it’s MY 20th annivesary

  30. Shannon Peebles says: July 12, 2020 at 11:34 pm

    It’s totally going to be boring. LOL

  31. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:34 pm

    I may not have been bored… but There are recurring times where I’ve been hella lonely despite good digital social life… hence me hopping on fb post midnight for a little connection … it’s ok to be lonely (that’s my discomfort) #thistooshallpass

    • Teresa Pimenta says: July 13, 2020 at 3:42 pm

      Vicky Hemming I hear you

  32. Christy Chick Nash says: July 12, 2020 at 11:37 pm

    Hello fear. What do you want me to know ?

  33. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:37 pm

    No words

  34. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:37 pm

    I love liz Gilbert’s letter to fear

    • Allison Crow says: July 13, 2020 at 12:27 am

      Vicky Hemming I haven’t read or heard that.

      • Vicky Hemming says: July 13, 2020 at 12:43 am

        This is a lovely video with her narrative. I believe that it originally comes from big magic

        https://vimeo.com/169750602

        • Teresa Pimenta says: July 13, 2020 at 3:50 pm

          Vicky Hemming great video yep… That letter to fear is on the book BIG MAGIC

  35. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:38 pm

    For you

  36. Christy Chick Nash says: July 12, 2020 at 11:38 pm

    Love and grace to you and you all. Thank you

  37. Vicky Hemming says: July 12, 2020 at 11:39 pm

    Love you too x

  38. Sonja Dagny Yago says: July 12, 2020 at 11:43 pm

    Love the hair and the sparkle!

  39. Jennifer Halterman says: July 13, 2020 at 12:12 am

    Chop Wood, Carry Water! Amen!

  40. Jennifer Halterman says: July 13, 2020 at 12:24 am

    Love You Lady!

  41. Sonja Dagny Yago says: July 13, 2020 at 12:43 am

    I had my time with boredom, isolation, and uncertainty back in 2006-2014. It led to a deeper understanding of self, a deeper appreciation for “normal” and brain health and good energy, a much deeper relationship with Source, and a shift toward living much more consistently from love than I did before that challenging time.

    When you are alone with deep uncertainty and you want to live, you go deep within and when you go deep enough, there’s Source, the still quiet voice within, waiting for you to listen more deeply and sincerely than you ever did before. We’re all the same – divine spiritual beings having a physical experience. To become effective and deliberate creators aligned with the highest good of all involved, we must connect deeply within us to the part of us that is from Source.

    That’s my opinion and experience with it. I realize that may be too religious or spiritual for some and not all will resonate with it. That’s ok. My share is for those who do resonate. Here, boredom is the door. Knock and go in. Seek and you will find the Divine within.

    The Divine is subtle and easily missed when busy or agitated, especially to those untrained or unpracticed with connecting and relating. It takes the quiet boredom to slow down enough to listen and discern.

    Allison, loved your reference to living from discernment. Indeed! This IS the key! Every behavior or belief has its day as righteous and correct. It also has its day as evil or wrong.

    Discernment is living with wisdom, with the ability to see when up is up and when it is down because all of it is relative to context. The only absolutes are things will change, it’s all made up from Source, and we are co-creators with Source if we listen deeply and choose and commit to being a conscious divine partner with the intelligent, creative energy that is in all.

    Because of my experience, I believe the pandemic and this time in general is a phase of deep asking by Source. “Do you want to love here? To live here is to love here. Are you ready to love more? To love where and when you didn’t before?” Some consciously or unconsciously say “yes” and live on to learn and grow towards being a fuller and brighter expression of deep and authentic love. Others decide they would rather check out of physical experience and move on to learning, loving, and serving from the nonphysical. It may or may not be a conscious choice but it’s definitely a choice made by the Higher Self.

    Indeed, this is a time of deep spiritual growth. Details of it unfold differently for each person but unfold it does like a flower unfolding from a seed.

  42. Rebecca Davidson says: July 13, 2020 at 2:07 am

    Your nails look great!

    • Allison Crow says: July 13, 2020 at 3:45 pm

      Thank you. Regular polish. Regular nails. I was looking in to the whole Gel nails thing and hell no that looked toooo complicated.

  43. Laura Long says: July 13, 2020 at 6:36 pm

    Interesting …I might agree.

  44. Laura Long says: July 13, 2020 at 6:36 pm

    I am so bored on the weekends especially.

  45. Laura Long says: July 13, 2020 at 6:39 pm

    Defensive reactions seem like habitual patters, cultural even.

  46. Laura Long says: July 13, 2020 at 6:42 pm

    106 here…drains me.

  47. Laura Long says: July 13, 2020 at 7:16 pm

    The loneliness

  48. JC Williams says: July 16, 2020 at 6:48 am

    Gosh

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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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