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The Pressure to Always Be Nexting

April 14, 2016

Everywhere I look there is the pressure to get to the NEXT level.
Next this, next that.  No celebration, move on…bigger bigger bigger. Hustle Hustle Hustle.

How does that make your body feel? Seriously, check in….feel, is there lightness and excitement, or is there constriction and a pit of nausea in your tummy.  Either one is ok, and if you feel a constriction, keep reading.  Or if you just want to hear a fun story.

I’m here to tell you there is another way.

When I was a school teacher (yes for 5 years in a small Catholic school in ATX), I was asked to be the coach of the 7/8th grade boy’s basketball team. There was an A-Team that was all about results and achievement. And the B Team- well, we just were out to have fun and do a good job. I practiced with my team, I coached more than basketball to these young men. I coached life and heart and soul.

My guys LOVED being on my team. We won. We had fun. The A-Team guys were drawn to us. They would come and tell me, Coach Crow, I wanna be on your team. I asked why and was met with answers about the energy and fun we were having. And how there just wasn’t that crushing pressure to perform…. and we were winning. I wasn’t an ass coach, firm, boundaried, but willing to smile and enjoy or experience that season.

This morning I’m thinking about what I want for my work, for my life. I’ve re-read my Sacred Fool card (a guiding energy for me -about accessing lightness of spirit, wisdom, and heart, being powerful without being obsessed with power, permission to be fully myself, and the ability to be free).

What I don’t want: Striving, hustle, constriction, comparisonitis, overachieving, exhaustion, panic attacks at 1 or 4 am.

What is it about this life that we are conditioned to NEXT ourselves. Next, Next, Next. Like there is some station to get to on this journey of life. And if we happen to get somewhere…we must get to the NEXT LEVEL, or the NEXT phase.

Nexting makes me feel constriction.
Unfolding feels yummy.

And then there is always the tax bill. I realize that the story I make up in my mind about the annual tax bill is a TRIGGER for me stepping into NEXTING. And since 2003 when I’ve had my first big ass tax bill instead of a refund, I’ve always managed to create the money for the tax bill. It is ALWAYS created.

Being a coach, and into personal growth is wrought with Nexting, and expansion, and growth, and getting to the next level.

I’m not gonna lie, the last 3 years of my work have been the MOST fun and profitable and easy. Before then I efforted and strove, and created, and served, and strategized, and coached, and planned and implemented and hustled –until my soul was dreary and parched. And then… I started painting. Playing.

It was like the B-Team all over again. Let’s do a good job, have fun, be playful, and create —

More is not better, better is better. And every day I’m tempted to MORE, to NEXT. My mind is a little fucker….poking at me with it’s knowledge and skill and insatiable thirst for more.

And my spirit is loving what is.

One day, my husband told me: “Allison, you know I chose you and love you because you are into personal and spiritual growth. And… You work soooo hard at it. I don’t work at it at all, and I still grow.” Dang, he is right. Just like nature — the trees don’t hustle yet they still grow. The flowers don’t NEXT and they still bloom.

I want to be like nature and flow and not like the machine I was or am tempted to be. I don’t’ mind inspired work and action and I must choose unfolding instead of NEXTING. And there is a fine line. I’m not talking sitting on the couch having bonbons….and waiting for life to show up. And I am talking about dreaming and playing and following the feel good of inspired action and spontaneous creation.

Being prosperous is important to me. Being well and happy is important to me. And I’m determined to listen within instead of to mass media and the majority of my coachy/online biz facebook feed. I’m figuring out how to do that one day at a time.

There is NOTHING wrong with the A Team— I’m just not That hungry. It is breaking my body, my spirit to even try to be on the A team anymore.  I am enough.  BE Team…. I’m in.  All In.   To each his or her own.

If you want to join me, on The B Team..or what we are calling The BE Team.…..fill out the form below and I will add you to the private group on FB via your email. Here you will find a community that supports growth from a place of enoughness.  We will use creativity, fun and love to meet our challenges.  We will help one another remember that we don’t have to be striving hustling overachievers….together, we will create a new definition of success.

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  1. Laura Haviland says: November 15, 2016 at 10:36 am

    Thank you for enlightening my soul..you have opened my eyes.
    So excited to begin this learning journey with lovely you.
    Best wishes heartfelt wishes.xoxo

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My word of the year this year chose me, I didn’t My word of the year this year chose me, I didn’t choose it.

The word?

JOY.

It feels so fitting this week, as I played with what I was going to share with you on the podcast, the word “joyful” just kept coming up with “ambition” and I loved the way “joyful ambition” sounded.

It made me think about what’s required to have joyful ambition, what ambition really is, and how we can let it be fully part of us.

I’m sharing my reflections around these questions and YOUR amazing responses to my question of “what is ambition” (SO COOL to hear from you all, thank you for sharing your thoughts!) on the show today.

It’s my hope that this episode will help respark the ambition inside you if needed and will encourage you to allow yourself to be the ambitious person that you are.

Listen at the link in my bio, or wherever you usually enjoy the show, and if you want to add your definition of ambition to my collection, share with me below!
Hey.... be sure and #rest. Profound engagement req Hey.... be sure and #rest. Profound engagement requires profound DISengagement and downtime. I don’t know about you, but I’ve been requiring much more rest these last few weeks.

My tired lil brain likes to try and use that weariness to “should” on me... tell me I’m falling behind. Does your brain start to spin when you are tired? Yep. That’s not a sign to push through.... that’s a sign to slow down. 

You are NOT behind, you are not gonna miss out on anything. It’s important To sustain your body and soul.

This morning it was nice to put the phone and computer away for a while and play 18 holes of nature frisbee golf.... just to be outside. This afternoon is naps and chill time. Work can wait till Monday .... especially if your soul needs a bit of rest.

If you’re on fire and it feels good, go fast. You do YOU. No comparison or competition.

Xoxox,
Oh and do drink some water! Hydration helps.
Do you know how to feel good? Even better, do you Do you know how to feel good? Even better, do you know how to feel difficult emotions?  Grab you a copy of my Feel Good Guide!  The link is in my bio! 
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#feelgoodguide #breatheyall #howtofeelbetter #manageemotions #selfleadership #mindset #lifecoachingforwomen #overwhelmedbylife #slowdowntospeedup #betterlifebetterwork #authenticandmbtious #transparentleadership
Don't forget... We "breathe y'all" so we can get Don't forget...

We "breathe y'all" so we can get back to center, to get back to ambition, to get back to BEing.

So breathe y'all, we're here and we're doing our very best.

Authentic & Ambitious,

Allison
I remember the first time I shared something from I remember the first time I shared something from behind the curtain of my life on a public stage. 

2008. It was in Austin, at the convention center Hilton. I was on stage, on a panel of successful Productivity coaches. 

I shared something about my mental health.... struggling for a lifetime with depression and anxiety....AND managing to run a successful coaching practice. 

After that session - I had a line 50 yards long of other coaches from around the country lined up to meet me.  All they wanted to say was, “thank you.... me too... you give me hope.”

A few days later I was talking with my mentor and the CEO of our coaching org.  I mentioned the impact my unusual (at the time authenticity was not cool) share... and she looked at me with steel, disapproving eyes, “I would have NEVER...” she barked at me. 

Well I did. And my heart 𝑘𝑛𝑒𝑤, other people needed to know that there were humans behind the leadership curtain.  Real live people, with messy, real lives, figuring out a way to thrive and prosper, not financially and emotionally. 

It only took two more years of wrist slapping and disapproval (I made them too much money for them to kick me out) at that company to get the guts to go out on my own. 

Unemcumbered, free to be me. 

It hasn’t always been pretty, or professional, and I’m SURE it has cost me business. But it has never cost me my soul. It has never cost me the gift of being fully me. 

And even that took practice and exploration. 

Be with people, clients, jobs, family, and friends, that you can be your full self with. 

Be outrageously authentic and your ambitions will be fulfilled. 

💛,
Your favorite life and business coach. 
Allison.
Doors closing! Y'all know how much I love my Soul Doors closing!

Y'all know how much I love my Soul-Full Success program.

It's truly a place where my Soulies and I grow, learn and SUPPORT each other.

It's where we can ask questions like: What do you want to create? What do you want to be known for? Who are you becoming in 2021? Where specifically do you want to stretch and grow?

I'm so damn proud of this community and all the work, both for Life and Biz, that Soulies put in.

And in order to create the sacred space that is Soul-Full Success, I can't continuously let people join.

So I'll be closing the doors to join us tonight, so I can focus on supporting those who are in the community.

I don't say this to scare or taunt you, I say this to be honest and transparent and hopefully motivate you if this is something you have been thinking about.

I want the RIGHT people in Soul-Full Success. Those that are ready to do the inner and outer work. Those that are looking for more authenticity and ambition in their life. Those that are ready to show up for themselves, their business, and their gifts.

If this is you, apply to join us at the link in my bio. If this isn't you, thanks for following along anyways, happy to share this space with you!
Here’s some truth: I’ve been told: * Your re Here’s some truth:

I’ve been told:

* Your relationship with your husband is awful. I can’t have you as a coach.  Oh. And why would anyone pay 188/month for your coaching. That’s insane. 

* I think you are codependent and need me to suffer. It’s all about you. 

* This podcast is awful. Why is all that noise in the background? Is she writing. I can hear markers squeak, squeak, squeak.  Horrible. 

* You are too authentic. 

* It’s your fault my marriage is a mess. 

* I wouldn’t wish friendship with you on my worst enemy.

* You are a liberal Satanist snowflake

* You are an asshole. 
♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎♒︎

.... to these people.... all these things are true and I’m ok with it. 

Stop stopping because of those who won’t align with you.  Keep sharing your heart and showing your work for the ones that need what you are sharing. 

Ps:
I AM a liberal snowflake. 
I believe in Aliens 👽 and Ghosts 👻 and NDE.
I watch way too much tv and I love it. 
I “hear” things audibly many people don’t. 
I see colors on people when I look. 
I believe in science and in the climate crisis. 
Human behavior fascinates me. 
I have a hot temper. Way less worse than it used to be. 
I believe in alternative and western medicine. 
I voted for Hillary. 
I am a better coach than I am friend. 
I am an asshole. Totally. 
I really hate Amazon but clearly I value convenience and comfort more than justice. 
My coaching is 333$/month or 18k+ a year. 
And....
I put pineapple on my pizza. 

I love me. 
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