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Something to remember about confidence…

January 27, 2020

Something to remember about confidence…

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  1. Allegra Kussman Stein says: January 27, 2020 at 4:06 pm

    ALLISON YOU ROCK AND I LOVE YOU!!!!

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:42 pm

      Woooot! I love you~ Good to see you over here in FB land!

  2. Lorea M. Sample says: January 27, 2020 at 4:07 pm

    Hey Allison!??

  3. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: January 27, 2020 at 4:07 pm

    Girl- I am so getting this!!

  4. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: January 27, 2020 at 4:11 pm

    Beginners mind is also an exciting time. Embrace that energy for those who are new.?

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:46 pm

      I realize how a challenge both invigorates and stresses me. When I was younger it just invigorated me!

  5. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: January 27, 2020 at 4:11 pm

    Beginners mind is also an exciting time. Embrace that energy for those who are new.

  6. Kelly Ferguson says: January 27, 2020 at 4:11 pm

    strong points

  7. Debora Brandon Bradley says: January 27, 2020 at 4:13 pm

    ??????

  8. Alisa Cadenhead says: January 27, 2020 at 4:14 pm

    Omg. I so needed to hear this today

  9. Debora Brandon Bradley says: January 27, 2020 at 4:16 pm

    This is a great reminder to help me to get going again.

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:42 pm

      Get it Debora Brandon Bradley!

  10. Denise Stricklin Ackerman says: January 27, 2020 at 4:16 pm

    Me too!! I was so confident when I did that. I love this Allison! Thank you for this topic.

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:42 pm

      I know you totally get this! You are not alone!

  11. Nyali Muir says: January 27, 2020 at 4:17 pm

    I’ve just hopped on so missed your earlier point but will go back to listen from the start

  12. Lorea M. Sample says: January 27, 2020 at 4:18 pm

    When I was younger all I had to do was have the thought about a thing and it was done… different now, but getting back to that.

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:34 pm

      Our brains literally change as we get older…we process more info and have different hormones and instead of thinking “the worst will never happen to me” we switch to “the worst could happen to me!” Let’s get back in the saddle together!

    • Lorea M. Sample says: January 27, 2020 at 4:41 pm

      Allison, yes let’s! I’ve been tapping into my inner little girl more and more lately! Thanks for this live!

  13. Lorea M. Sample says: January 27, 2020 at 4:19 pm

    Love your transparency…. thank you for this?

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:47 pm

      Sometimes I think – uh oh If I share this people won’t respect me…and then i remember…I respect me when I share A version of the real truth of success and leadership.

    • Lorea M. Sample says: January 27, 2020 at 4:52 pm

      Oh I get it, trust… but I fell in love with you at EXPAND for this very reason… I’m only attracted to authenticity. Thank you??

  14. Debora Brandon Bradley says: January 27, 2020 at 4:19 pm

    You can do it!!! You are a BOSS!

  15. Lorea M. Sample says: January 27, 2020 at 4:19 pm

    Love your transparency…. thank you for this

    • Lorea M. Sample says: January 27, 2020 at 4:52 pm

      Oh I get it, trust… but I fell in love with you at EXPAND for this very reason… I’m only attracted to authenticity. Thank you

  16. Nyali Muir says: January 27, 2020 at 4:19 pm

    Confidence muscle feeling a bit wobbly…starting my documentary series interviews in person this week. Excited too though.

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:41 pm

      I feel you! One courageous step at a time. You will build your confidence in no time.

  17. Brenda Nickolaus says: January 27, 2020 at 4:23 pm

    Great advice! Thank you!!!

  18. Nyali Muir says: January 27, 2020 at 4:23 pm

    Brilliant content thank you ??

  19. Nyali Muir says: January 27, 2020 at 4:23 pm

    Brilliant content thank you

  20. Brenda Nickolaus says: January 27, 2020 at 4:24 pm

    I did feel a little panic today!

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:48 pm

      Back to center…grounded and then go gently forward!

  21. Debora Brandon Bradley says: January 27, 2020 at 4:24 pm

    This was good!!!

  22. Nyali Muir says: January 27, 2020 at 4:25 pm

    Thanks Allison for sharing so vulnerably x

  23. Farrah Brown La Pan says: January 27, 2020 at 4:30 pm

    Hey, hey! ?

  24. Farrah Brown La Pan says: January 27, 2020 at 4:30 pm

    Hey, hey!

  25. Debora Brandon Bradley says: January 27, 2020 at 4:33 pm

    ????

  26. Deidra Towns says: January 27, 2020 at 4:43 pm

    Hey from the replay!

  27. Jody Caunter Garcia says: January 27, 2020 at 4:52 pm

    Iโ€™m curious, whatโ€™s with the F word reduction? ?

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:53 pm

      note- not elimination. Just reduction. I go back and forth. My filter adjusts.

  28. Jody Caunter Garcia says: January 27, 2020 at 4:52 pm

    Iโ€™m curious, whatโ€™s with the F word reduction?

  29. Richard Morgan says: January 27, 2020 at 4:56 pm

    I see no value in confidence. Simply do the thing. Let other people think about confidence… โค๏ธ

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:58 pm

      I love that view. Doing the thing is what work! Saturday I lay in bed and my prayer was, Spirit, help me not to try so hard! Just be.

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 4:58 pm

      and then do gently one step at a time.

    • Richard Morgan says: January 27, 2020 at 4:59 pm

      Allison, search for confidence and you will walk in the weeds…??โ€โ™‚๏ธ

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 6:33 pm

      Richard Morgan exactly. When I just keep doing my do confidence shows up!

  30. Richard Morgan says: January 27, 2020 at 4:56 pm

    I see no value in confidence. Simply do the thing. Let other people think about confidence…

    • Richard Morgan says: January 27, 2020 at 4:59 pm

      Allison, search for confidence and you will walk in the weeds…

  31. Jody Caunter Garcia says: January 27, 2020 at 5:04 pm

    You are helping me realize: be, DO, have. I need to leaning to the doing right now. And for the rest of the year. ?

    • Allison Crow says: January 27, 2020 at 6:17 pm

      Jody Caunter Garcia we are in do recovery. Because for one season it was out of integrity. But we can take it back and let it be SACRED.

  32. Jody Caunter Garcia says: January 27, 2020 at 5:04 pm

    You are helping me realize: be, DO, have. I need to leaning to the doing right now. And for the rest of the year.

  33. Tracey Lee Wallace says: January 27, 2020 at 9:21 pm

    Replay ???

  34. Tracey Lee Wallace says: January 27, 2020 at 9:45 pm

    FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

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How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

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OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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