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Better Life Better Work Episode# 29: Expert Series w Varian Brandon

July 13, 2018

Better Life Better Work Episode# 29: Expert Series w Varian Brandon

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Advanced Personal Development Life Coach for Experienced Business Owners & Execs๐Ÿ’›Author, Art, & Dogs

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next article: Ep 29: Better Life Better Work Insights w/ Varian Brandon

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  1. Anonymous says: July 9, 2018 at 10:33 pm

    Is that CST?

  2. Allison Crow says: July 10, 2018 at 4:00 pm

    Yes Kay Blond – Holistic Coach Blending Career & Life into Harmony Central

  3. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:05 pm

    Hello beautiful ladies ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:10 pm

    Love your realness ??

  5. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:10 pm

    Love your realness

  6. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    Good morning ladies ???

  7. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:14 pm

    Such great information! Thank you for sharing!

  8. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    Two goddesses

  9. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:17 pm

    I wanna be in that circle ?

  10. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:22 pm

    Inspiring conversation, as always! ???

  11. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:22 pm

    Inspiring conversation, as always!

  12. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:28 pm

    Yes!!! A different perspective on the pain… Not outsource… Life changing… New programming ?

  13. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:29 pm

    The brain is a puppy…. Perfect!

  14. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:47 pm

    God bless you both ???? loving all this… Thank you xo

  15. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:55 pm

    Yes…. Spirit inside

  16. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:56 pm

    Be still and know?

  17. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 4:59 pm

    Hi Loves!!!

  18. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 6:27 pm

    I canโ€™t believe I forgot. Watching the replay!

  19. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 6:31 pm

    I loved that conversation!

  20. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 6:33 pm

    I wore my โ€œunoffendableโ€ shirt yesterday!

  21. Anonymous says: July 13, 2018 at 6:47 pm

    Luv ya!

  22. Anonymous says: July 14, 2018 at 12:27 am

    You two slayed it!

  23. Anonymous says: July 14, 2018 at 1:18 am

    Thank you for streaming

  24. Diane Reiner says: July 14, 2018 at 2:04 am

    Hello

  25. Anonymous says: July 24, 2018 at 3:09 pm

    ????

  26. Allison Crow says: July 12, 2019 at 2:05 pm

    Who is that woman with the blonde hair! ???

  27. Allison Crow: SoulFull Living: Coaching & Strategy for Life & Business says: July 12, 2019 at 2:05 pm

    Who is that woman with the blonde hair!

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
This sweet girl. Only a few taco Tuesdayโ€™s left This sweet girl. Only a few taco Tuesdayโ€™s left before they move across the state.
In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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