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Marinating, Meandering – Knowing Yourself

October 10, 2021

 

Marinating, Meandering, – Knowing Yourself.  For the creative souls living in a linear world.

Today I want to touch on a few insights Iโ€™ve learned over the last couple of weeks.
Letโ€™s talk a little bit about meandering.

Iโ€™ve been reading this book over and over – The Great Work Of Your Life by Stephen Cope.
As Iโ€™m listening to this book one day, My heart burst with a truth from inside –  Iโ€™m a poet and a philosopher and Iโ€™m always trying to put myself in this linear business world. 

Iโ€™m not a linear teacher. Iโ€™m not a linear leader. 
I give myself permission to meanderโ€ฆ to let myself wander.. even in my podcast.

What if you gave yourself permission to be unfiltered?  


For those of you who are fellow creative thinkers, outliers, and what I lovingly call “weirdos,” we โ€œpretzelโ€ ourselves for the pleasure of others versus showing up in our meandering philosophical idea ruminating selves. 

Meandering, sweet people, smart people. Round pegs in a square hole. 
Many of us feel like we don’t belong and yet, we can make ourselves fit in anywhere. 
I can be a chameleon and adapt. Where am I at home in my own skin? Where are you at home in your own skin?

Marinating is where you are taking in the environment in which you sit.

When I marinate in music, in podcasts & in right-aligned communities – I am nourished.
And when I’m in communities it can be easy to bend to ideas and take on attitudes of the room.  me.

Be aware of where you are marinating.
Is it energizing you or exhausting you? Is it depleting you or supporting you. 

 

What activities help you thrive?
From the earth comes the things that nourish me.
Another word for marinating may be nourishment.

What is your nourishment?
Where do you thrive? What paradoxes do you need to thrive in?
What would be helpful for you to marinate in?

Permission to Meander in a Linear World. 

What will you do to support your meandering when you bump up against the lines of the earth, of the world, of the society, and of the business we are in?

Just be aware of that. 
Truly know yourself.

At some point we become aware and there is no looking back.
As you become aware of the world around you, it has to change. 

I hope instead of judging your meandering self, I hope you can find delight in your way of being and give yourself one more layer of permission to be yourself.

Love,

Allison

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References: 

The Great Work Of Your Life by Stephen Cope:
https://www.stephencope.com/shop/#books

Sue Revell: Woman On A Mission Podcast
https://womenonamissionwithsuerevell.libsyn.com/episode-07-why-more-isnt-better-with-allison-crow

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Allisoncrow.com/corevalues

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  1. Raeburn says: October 13, 2021 at 5:52 am

    Thanks Allison, for this blog

    The idea of self-actualization comes from the theory of human motivation. In a nutshell, it theorizes how to become the best version of yourselfโ€“ how to reach your full potential. The most popular theorist of self-actualization is Abraham Maslow. According to Maslow, focusing on achieving our potentials and serving others are the highest needs in his hierarchy of needs.

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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

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How's that working, Alli?

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I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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