Your Inner Critic, Inner Judger, and Shoulding parts need your love and affection – not banishment or elimination. I’ve found it easier to give my affectionate presence to my anxious and depressed parts. Perhaps it is because I have been aware of them for… [read more]
The #1 Thing That Keeps People Stuck
Coaching is an art and science of behavior change, and wouldn’t it be fun if it were actually as easy as “change your thinking, change your life?” (And yes, I believed it was that simple for years- I’m sorry). Just changing our thinking is a… [read more]
How Internal Family Systems Coaching Impacted My CliftonStrengths Finder Results
How #internalfamilysystems and #ifscoaching impacted my #strengthsfinder results. I found this FASCINATING! Last fall, I had the opportunity to take my CliftonStrengths assessment again. While I had my previous results, I KNEW things would show up differently because I AM DIFFERENT. I am different from the young, eager woman striving for… [read more]
The Problem with “BE LOVE” for Recovering People Pleasers
The Problem with “BE LOVE” for Recovering People Pleasers Photos: The ACA Bill of Rights. The photos are of my handwritten version, and you can find the pdf version on the ACA website. The second photo is my visual reminder to be clear on… [read more]
Wild Edge Of Being Human: Musings on Grief.
Grief does not feel like the wisest business strategy lately – Especially as a coach – A small protector part of me -influenced by “perfection only” past mentors, feels this deep obligation to be cheery and “positive.” (Those same mentors always “shoulded” that concise was… [read more]
New Years Goals? Not Yet
New Year Goals? A Business Plan? Not Yet. The magic space that is my office… here at this desk and in these journals, and even at this computer where I get to connect with my clients and friends. I still haven’t really… [read more]
Recovering Overachiever Complete
Yes, it’s the time of year when I think about what I desire for the year ahead. And the slowness and space help me FEEL and notice my cravings (the deeper under the “don’t feel” cravings)…. and my feelings actually give me so much information…. [read more]
How did I do it? Secrets to Making Your Dreams Happen.
How Did I Do It? Don’t let the photo fool you: This was a big year for me. 3 MAJOR milestones accomplished. In May, my pool was built- If you know me, this was my dream – not a family dream – so… [read more]