Your Inner Critic, Inner Judger, and Shoulding parts need your love and affection – not banishment or elimination. I’ve found it easier to give my affectionate presence to my anxious and depressed parts. Perhaps it is because I have been aware of them for… [read more]
What to Know About the Place Between Where You are and Where You Want to Go
In conversation with my coach (and my therapist) – when I tap into the clarity of where I’m pulled to BECOME, the light shows up in my eyes in one instant, and then in the next, I hit the gaping space between where I am… [read more]
The #1 Thing That Keeps People Stuck
Coaching is an art and science of behavior change, and wouldn’t it be fun if it were actually as easy as “change your thinking, change your life?” (And yes, I believed it was that simple for years- I’m sorry). Just changing our thinking is a… [read more]
How Internal Family Systems Coaching Impacted My CliftonStrengths Finder Results
How #internalfamilysystems and #ifscoaching impacted my #strengthsfinder results. I found this FASCINATING! Last fall, I had the opportunity to take my CliftonStrengths assessment again. While I had my previous results, I KNEW things would show up differently because I AM DIFFERENT. I am different from the young, eager woman striving for… [read more]
Trust Your Practices and Process over the Man Made Dates
I can trust practices and processes. When I try to shove them into a calendar or deadline – the processes and practices get detoured by “I’m doing it wrong.” I have nurturing practices -that I KNOW bring me to clarity, confidence, and action. I have… [read more]
Wild Edge Of Being Human: Musings on Grief.
Grief does not feel like the wisest business strategy lately – Especially as a coach – A small protector part of me -influenced by “perfection only” past mentors, feels this deep obligation to be cheery and “positive.” (Those same mentors always “shoulded” that concise was… [read more]
New Years Goals? Not Yet
New Year Goals? A Business Plan? Not Yet. The magic space that is my office… here at this desk and in these journals, and even at this computer where I get to connect with my clients and friends. I still haven’t really… [read more]
Step into the Making to Get Out of Your Head
It’s post-book launch. I still show up for my writing practice group most days. My favorite dog has died, the year has ended, and my nervous system is slowly recuperating from a year of challenge after challenge. My writing coach asks each of us, “What… [read more]