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No bad days. More about my current failure. And how it’s totally ok. And how you are not alone.Don’t mind me shoveling chocolate down my face … or my crack drawers

July 12, 2017

No bad days. More about my current failure. And how it’s totally ok. And how you are not alone.

Don’t mind me shoveling chocolate down my face … or my crack drawers

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  1. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    Active surrender is NOW. Now. Now. Now.

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:12 pm

      now. now. now. now..

  2. Sherri A Nicholas says: June 6, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    …Stillness is what happens when the rubber ball hits the ground….

  3. Megan Winkler says: June 6, 2017 at 6:31 pm

    Gotta go honey! Love you!! <3

  4. Sherri A Nicholas says: June 6, 2017 at 6:31 pm

    The ball bounces ….. just wait

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:09 pm

      every time. I always say there is ebb and flow…this is just an ebb…a bigger one than usual…but the flow always comes back.

  5. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:33 pm

    My story. Your story. Our story.

  6. Sherri A Nicholas says: June 6, 2017 at 6:33 pm

    ….. the ground hurts …. it’s ok ….. don’t forget you’re rubber …..

  7. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:34 pm

    Eyes wide open to the story.

  8. Marica Moseley says: June 6, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    I feel you, sister. We are with you, too.

  9. Theresa Marie Falvey says: June 6, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    I love Spagetti:)

  10. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    Beloved to yourself. Whole self. With courage and truth.

  11. Marica Moseley says: June 6, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    Haha. Throwing all the things at the wall.

  12. Theresa Marie Falvey says: June 6, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    Hell YEAH!!!!

  13. Theresa Marie Falvey says: June 6, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    NO worries you do YOU! I honor you either way!

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:16 pm

      I meant to reach out to you and the other 2 first before mentioning..thanks for trusting me. Will contact you next Monday or Tuesday. Message me your number

  14. Alexandra Serediuc says: June 6, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    I have so much love in my heart for you Just had to say it

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:05 pm

      you encourage me so much!

  15. Ana Caragea says: June 6, 2017 at 6:38 pm

    Yes Mandy, I totally agree with you!

  16. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:38 pm

    Allowing

  17. Jenny Stritzl Crane says: June 6, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    Your house is awesome!

  18. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:41 pm

    Not so easy to allow the shit

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      I hear it makes good fertalizer

  19. Jenny Stritzl Crane says: June 6, 2017 at 6:41 pm

    You know my past

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:11 pm

      I love you woman!

  20. Yaquese Welcher says: June 6, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    Health. And guess what? I’m learning to listen to my body. I’ve released alot of stuff. It teaches me new ways of emoting. ?

  21. Yaquese Welcher says: June 6, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    Health. And guess what? I’m learning to listen to my body. I’ve released alot of stuff. It teaches me new ways of emoting.

  22. Tracy Weiss says: June 6, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    I’m in that same place. I’m wondering what I am suppose to be hearing because I’m not hearing things how I usually do.

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:05 pm

      maybe we need hearing aids! bahaha.

  23. Yaquese Welcher says: June 6, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    New ways.

  24. Jenny Stritzl Crane says: June 6, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    I love you ? everything you say is what is running through my veins ?

  25. Jenny Stritzl Crane says: June 6, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    I love you everything you say is what is running through my veins

  26. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:45 pm

    God does use you?❀️??

  27. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:45 pm

    God does use you

  28. Yaquese Welcher says: June 6, 2017 at 6:45 pm

    You are being real. Transparent. That’s what people need.

  29. Michelle McMahon Stephens says: June 6, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Thank you for being you πŸ™‚

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:08 pm

      πŸ™‚ Its all I know how to be! Love you

  30. David Stone says: June 6, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    “Every walk is a kind of crusade” – Thoreau

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:11 pm

      thank you for your calm supportive presence here today

    • David Stone says: June 6, 2017 at 7:33 pm

      Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability Allison Crow ??? #AllIsWell

    • David Stone says: June 6, 2017 at 7:33 pm

      Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability Allison Crow #AllIsWell

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:34 pm

      David Stone it is well.

  31. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    Thank you. Me too.

  32. Mandy Marshall says: June 6, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    You make me feel heard & understood. ???

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      I’m so glad it helps you in any way. You are not alone.

  33. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    When a horse sucks wind it calms themselves. Interesting?

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:08 pm

      interesting……

  34. Yaquese Welcher says: June 6, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    If we don’t adapt we die. Yes!

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:08 pm

      been happening since the beginning of the universe….

  35. Yaquese Welcher says: June 6, 2017 at 6:52 pm

    Love what is. I love it!

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:07 pm

      that is a Byron Katie staple..and it saves my life every day.

  36. Alexandra Serediuc says: June 6, 2017 at 6:52 pm

    50% glorious, 50% shitty life. Aaa orgasm!

  37. Christy Chick Nash says: June 6, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    I love this connecting time. Thx Allison for bringing us here together. With all the glory and sh

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:07 pm

      the glory and the shit…and we can handle it all!

  38. Kathy Brown says: June 6, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    Lol! “I sent out an email but there was nothing in it becuz you’re not going to buy anything any ways.” hilarious! Cudn’t stop laughing. ?

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 7:05 pm

      I just wanna send love notes!

  39. Kathy Brown says: June 6, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    Lol! “I sent out an email but there was nothing in it becuz you’re not going to buy anything any ways.” hilarious! Cudn’t stop laughing.

  40. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 7:17 pm

    fuck yeah

  41. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 7:18 pm

    hard

  42. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    booty!!!!

  43. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    no reach around

  44. Cara Wykowski says: June 6, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    Luv u! ❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️

  45. Cara Wykowski says: June 6, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    Luv u!

  46. Cara Wykowski says: June 6, 2017 at 7:47 pm

    Resist- less, huh? Sitting with discomfort is what we all need to learn.

  47. Cara Wykowski says: June 6, 2017 at 7:53 pm

    My day job biz is slow- people keep delaying big decisions

  48. Cara Wykowski says: June 6, 2017 at 8:03 pm

    Watch Downward Dog on Hulu!!

  49. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 8:06 pm

    truf

  50. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 8:09 pm

    its delightful to experience your loving. Me too, Al.

  51. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 8:27 pm

    Yeah, those sobs are gold. Don’t feel like that in action, but after.

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 8:28 pm

      Yes. During it is terrifying. And after. I’m so much lighter today.

    • Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 8:28 pm

      It’s been a fuckery fest for sure.

  52. Carla O'Brien says: June 6, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    Me too sick of it

  53. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 8:34 pm

    I have eyelash guilt a little.

  54. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 8:37 pm

    I hate it when my volcano top blows.

  55. Rebecca Davidson says: June 6, 2017 at 8:39 pm

    use me in ways that pay me well

  56. Paula Roelands says: June 6, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    Put.The.candy.bar.down! ?

    • Allison Crow says: June 6, 2017 at 9:42 pm

      Hahah. It was yummy.

  57. Paula Roelands says: June 6, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    Put.The.candy.bar.down!

  58. Angela Paris says: June 6, 2017 at 10:23 pm

    I love your pink bandana!

  59. Angela Paris says: June 6, 2017 at 11:31 pm

    Stop in the stillness! Enjoy it! ?

  60. Angela Paris says: June 6, 2017 at 11:31 pm

    Stop in the stillness! Enjoy it!

  61. Angela Paris says: June 7, 2017 at 12:51 am

    This journey is not about us totally. We sometimes go thru things to help others. Maybe God is taking you to the next level, but prior to that you have to struggle and survive and then thrive to show His glory!❀

  62. Angela Paris says: June 7, 2017 at 12:51 am

    This journey is not about us totally. We sometimes go thru things to help others. Maybe God is taking you to the next level, but prior to that you have to struggle and survive and then thrive to show His glory!

  63. Allison Crow says: June 7, 2017 at 12:54 am

    Vanessa Horn

  64. Paige Spiers Gorman says: June 7, 2017 at 2:08 am

    Saturation changing

  65. Randi Radul says: June 7, 2017 at 2:39 am

    I’m one of your four people!!!! Please go ahead! We’ll figure it out together!

    • Allison Crow says: June 7, 2017 at 2:41 am

      Yes we will! I’ll be in touch Monday or Tuesday. Xoxoxo

    • Randi Radul says: June 7, 2017 at 2:57 am

      Allison Crow sending lots of love! ?

    • Randi Radul says: June 7, 2017 at 2:57 am

      Allison Crow sending lots of love!

  66. Paige Spiers Gorman says: June 7, 2017 at 2:51 am

    Bigger impact

  67. Carl Contino says: June 7, 2017 at 10:05 am

    I just so so SO so appreciate your beautiful rawthenticity Allison. … food for the soul

  68. Nut Tmu-Ankh SaNut says: June 7, 2017 at 3:02 pm

    The mind that needs fixing ain’t the One that creates anyway.

  69. Catherine Schoen says: June 8, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    One stop shop

  70. Catherine Schoen says: June 8, 2017 at 7:59 pm

    That’s right

  71. Catherine Schoen says: June 8, 2017 at 8:06 pm

    Boy do I know that

  72. Catherine Schoen says: June 8, 2017 at 8:17 pm

    So human

  73. Catherine Schoen says: June 8, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    Right on

  74. Catherine Schoen says: June 8, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Jumping off for an appointment ❀️❀️❀️❀️

  75. Catherine Schoen says: June 8, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Jumping off for an appointment

  76. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    be a nun, hilarious!

  77. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 3:54 pm

    its not only mindset shit, its emotions dear Allison Crow! emotions that have been downgraded and stuffed under the carpet, not on purpose but as a survival mechanism. now u r not in survival mode, so they are coming out to be expressed and healed and sourced for gifts. i do this exact kind of work with peope if you are interested.

  78. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    you are mid process, and hats off to you for sharing it honestly. sending you great compassion for your heart.

  79. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 3:58 pm

    “fix your mindset” NO. feel, release and process emotions – the ONLY sustainable way.

  80. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    honor the fucking human experience!

  81. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:27 pm

    facing the abyss!

  82. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:27 pm

    exactly I said abyss you say void. yes.

  83. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    yes letting go is provoking saddness for u.

  84. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    compassion for others!

  85. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    compassion for experiencing failure.

  86. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:31 pm

    and what happens with emotions that u feel – u hurry not to feel them and think up solutions…yes active surrender, beautiful.

  87. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:32 pm

    PLAY is the solution, if we just allow it and yes scary as shit.

  88. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    my story is about you – beautiful.

  89. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    yes, I am a fixer too, not fixing feels like disintegrating.

  90. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    green juice – hahaha, lolo.

  91. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    yep let it all fall apart, so scary. i get it. i am in it.

  92. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:40 pm

    loving and yummy – going to one on one, i love it that is your heart speaking.

  93. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:42 pm

    nobody talks what failure is. very true.

  94. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:43 pm

    allow love when failure comes.

  95. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:46 pm

    Its hard and we’ll figure it out.

  96. Dunja Radosavljevic says: June 12, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    thank you for this.

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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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