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Self-celebrating vs self-depreciating

April 14, 2019

Self-celebrating vs self-depreciating

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Advanced Personal Development Life Coach for Experienced Business Owners & Execs๐Ÿ’›Author, Art, & Dogs

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  1. Liza Boubari says: August 13, 2018 at 3:17 pm

    Love the hair thing!!!

  2. Kristen Kosinski says: August 13, 2018 at 3:17 pm

    I watched it last night!!! Amazing.

  3. Beth Weiss Wolberg says: August 13, 2018 at 3:21 pm

    Fatal Attraction

  4. Anna Bingamon says: August 13, 2018 at 3:22 pm

    Being natural

  5. Megan Winkler says: August 13, 2018 at 3:23 pm

    It’s amazing! When the thumbnail of your video popped up, the first thing I saw was your hair and my first thought was, “Oh damn! She’s on fire today!” Your hair = vibrancy, electricity, goddess energy AF. ?

  6. Megan Winkler says: August 13, 2018 at 3:23 pm

    It’s amazing! When the thumbnail of your video popped up, the first thing I saw was your hair and my first thought was, “Oh damn! She’s on fire today!” Your hair = vibrancy, electricity, goddess energy AF.

  7. Lisa Howard Colpo says: August 13, 2018 at 3:25 pm

    Celebrate you love yourself the way you are

  8. Monica Weakley says: August 13, 2018 at 3:25 pm

    Your hair looks kickass!!??

    • Allison Crow says: August 13, 2018 at 3:40 pm

      nothing is as kick ass as that ELEPHANT encounter!!! and, thank you.

  9. Monica Weakley says: August 13, 2018 at 3:25 pm

    Your hair looks kickass!!

  10. Megan Winkler says: August 13, 2018 at 3:26 pm

    I feel that so much!

  11. Liat Raz says: August 13, 2018 at 3:38 pm

    You have great hair!! I’m experiencing continuous hair loss now and losing so much of the full curls that I had and I wish I enjoyed them more before…

    • Allison Crow says: August 13, 2018 at 5:58 pm

      Oh no! Yes. I wonโ€™t take it for granted! I have a client who is experiencing severe hair loss and she just decided to say duck it and went wild with fun wigs!

  12. Sarah Babros says: August 13, 2018 at 3:39 pm

    I was talking to my friend yesterday about this. Girl with curls have a bond. Growing up SUCKED.

  13. Sarah Babros says: August 13, 2018 at 3:40 pm

    Donโ€™t tame the beast! Let it free!

  14. Helen May says: August 13, 2018 at 3:40 pm

    Love that hair!!!!

  15. Tracey Lee Wallace says: August 13, 2018 at 4:24 pm

    Replay – love that wild big feisty hair. Feels like wild abandon goddess energy. I love you Boo! It is the the sexiest version of you I have experienced. xxoo

  16. Tracey Lee Wallace says: August 13, 2018 at 4:27 pm

    FUCK-N-A RIGHT ROCK THAT HAIR!!!

  17. Tressa Brandenburg Ellis says: August 13, 2018 at 4:42 pm

    I love your hair!! Iโ€™m personally on a mission to being big hair back! Lol!

  18. Ana Caragea says: August 13, 2018 at 6:59 pm

    So true! My favourite life coach! ??

  19. Ana Caragea says: August 13, 2018 at 6:59 pm

    So true! My favourite life coach!

  20. Ana Caragea says: August 13, 2018 at 7:01 pm

    Your hair is beautiful ??

  21. Ana Caragea says: August 13, 2018 at 7:01 pm

    Your hair is beautiful

  22. Sue Keely says: August 13, 2018 at 7:58 pm

    Big Hair Glory!

  23. Sue Keely says: August 13, 2018 at 8:00 pm

    And me, with perfectly straight hair always wanted curls…and now I mostly โค๏ธ my hair.

  24. Sue Keely says: August 13, 2018 at 8:00 pm

    And me, with perfectly straight hair always wanted curls…and now I mostly my hair.

  25. Diane Bleck says: August 13, 2018 at 8:48 pm

    You look gorgeous!!

  26. Tiffany Weiss says: August 14, 2018 at 11:25 am

    Good morning

  27. Anita Barfoot Berg says: August 14, 2018 at 2:53 pm

    Thanks for the reality check. Curly hair girl myself. Your comment about โ€œtamingโ€ it really struck me. ? thanks for that deep thought ?

  28. Anita Barfoot Berg says: August 14, 2018 at 2:53 pm

    Thanks for the reality check. Curly hair girl myself. Your comment about โ€œtamingโ€ it really struck me. thanks for that deep thought

  29. Joelle Collins Bohart says: September 17, 2018 at 11:56 am

    Take up all the space Allison!

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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