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Two Trees & What They May Have To Do With Your Business

October 16, 2017

 

The 1st photo is an ancient established oak in the yard of the 75 yr old historic house we sold and left just 3 months ago. A place that not only held my family, but also many sacred sister and wild painting retreats for my business. 

And today that tree represents my old way of working with clients. It was a perfect and beautiful tree and structure (and home) …. it took time to grow and build and develop– it was strong and perfect — until I got the directive from my Inner Wisdom — time to change everything.

What??? Leave the big beautiful home and established trees and that glorious and luxurious pool? Leave the super high fee realm of coaching and build an entirely new structure?

Yep.

The idea is exciting. The vision is enthralling and fun.

And then, there is the reality of an entirely new ways of living and working. The implementation and delivery of such a big change.

After first investing in a major move and major new way of working– my doubts grew huge and tormented me. What if I’d really fucked up? What it I seriously just walked away from an awesome life/work arrangement and this new one fails.

I must be insane. Is that going backward? Will I lose all my clients and credibility? Will I screw my business and lifestyle up? This way won’t work- it can’t- not for you. And you certainly can’t make it work without all the pain pressure marketing and funnels and a huge list or FB ads galore.

Allison, you are about to screw everything up- I heard my inner doubt say. Many times.

And yet, between all the “what ifs” was always the true beat of my heart— leading the way to that which I couldn’t not (double negative intentional for emphasis) at least try.

 

This 2nd photo is one of our new trees, also an oak, on our new grass in our new and empty backyard. So new, none of it exists in satellite photos.

Moving house is easy for me. But removing old and proven ways of working with people, honestly, I had hoped it could, but if it didn’t work- I could really have made a costly mistake.

And for a while, in my mind, both before and after opening the doors to www.soulfullsuccess.info I was wanting my new business model to be like the old, big, and established tree. After all, I’ve been doing this coaching and training thing rather successfully for over 12 years.

My ego and pride had a field day with me especially around lowering my fees. I even made up a dumb story that I don’t fit in with my old high-end world friends anymore.

And still, I heard my heart whisper, “remember how I told you that the theme of 2017 would be ~begin again~.”

Sure enough. Begin again, Allison. You can resist it. Or go with it.

Lightbulb moment! I have to let my new business model be in Launch Phase- a beginner. Just like the baby tree that is in my backyard. It requires extra love and water and support- and I never demand or doubt that that tree, will one day grow exactly as tall as it needs to hang a swing, house the birds, and provide shade for my yard.

I am allowing my new business and coaching incarnation to be brand new- just g grinning.

Like this little tree.

I’m over the freakout. Little tree thank you.

And guess what? It’s only been open for 20 days. And every day or so, 1-2 new members join. The roots are taking hold now that I’m letting it be new.

It’s exciting.

And I’m so thankful for the first followers, and the already piles of messages I have that say, “in already this short amount of time, these calls, and classes, and this coaching – has made my life/work better.”

I’m not usually into a game of more. My tagline these days is “more is not better, better is better.”

Now I’m giving better than I ever have for way less than I’ve ever charged, so MORE people can experience better life and better work- from the inside out. So MORE people can experience the benefit of exquisite coaching.

And it’s working. On all fronts.

A beginner all over again, and still your favorite life coach, 

 

 

 

You can join me at www.soulfullsuccess.info and I’d be delighted to support you and have you as part of the beautiful new way of coaching and community we are growing together.

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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

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How's that working, Alli?

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I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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