Sensitivity and Overthinking. These two qualities are deep in the cells in my body and way of being. They are not only my biggest struggles. They are also my truly greatest strengths. They do not always fit nicely in a โcontained & performative culture.โ … [read more]
My Coach Told Me I Was Settling
In my dreams, Iโm not ever in a fancy hotel or a swanky luxury location. Iโm certainly not in a formal dress and heels. Never in my real dreams did I dream of wealth the way it is sold to me. Never in my… [read more]
Building Capacity for Deeper Work – Self Leadership
For years I have been good at connecting with YOU, while still protecting and disconnecting from me. (This strategy is ineffective). My nervous system was conditioned to assess threat- yours is tooโฆ and because I didnโt know internal connection and safety – I tried to… [read more]
Drop Below Your Head to Inner Authority
Inner Authority: hello fellow recovering people pleasers. Hello, over-functioning and over-empathic leaders. All these things work until they donโtโฆ and now here you are realizing so much of what made you successful was behavioral patterns born out of childhood trauma, emotional neglectโฆ. And… [read more]
2 Coaches Nerd Out On IFS – A Happy Hour Chat with Dr. Erin M. Baker.
2 Coaches Nerd Out On IFS with Erin Baker Live recording of the Better Life Better Work Show! Connect on Facebook Share Free Share Your Heart Show Your Work Facebook Community Soulies Self-Leadership Coaching Membership
You are a Gardener Not a Machine
Oh, how the world wants to press us into the idea that we can behave and perform like a machine in life and business. You, my DEARโฆ and you are a dear one. You are a gardener, not a machine. This is your reminder to… [read more]
The Heartbreak of Losing Your Hobbies
You canโt remember the last time you painted, or went dancing, or threw some clay. Your crocheting yarns are in a basket in the back of the closet. Your oil paints are in storageโฆ. (Most of these are stores my clients have told meโฆ.). Losing… [read more]
Being Smart, and where traditional coaching failed, and what helped.
For 49 years Iโve been too smart for my own good. Iโm a lifelong student and always will be. My intellectual prowess has always given me a sense of safety and security. For most of my life, this was unconscious and now I see. I… [read more]