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Friday Night Wine Downโ€ฆ. the most important skill ANYONE can master

June 1, 2018

Friday Night Wine Downโ€ฆ. the most important skill ANYONE can master <3

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    1. Diane Bleck says: June 1, 2018 at 11:20 pm

      Hi honey. Got my wine on the deck!

    2. Diane Bleck says: June 1, 2018 at 11:21 pm

      Been praying for your family.

    3. Diane Bleck says: June 1, 2018 at 11:22 pm

      Yes. Doubt comes every day. And I had a bully email today โ€“ ooff!!

    4. Diane Bleck says: June 1, 2018 at 11:23 pm

      Hi Michelle!

    5. Michelle Bastian says: June 1, 2018 at 11:23 pm

      Hello beautiful!

    6. Michelle Bastian says: June 1, 2018 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Diane ?

    7. Michelle Bastian says: June 1, 2018 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Diane

    8. Diane Bleck says: June 1, 2018 at 11:24 pm

      H.A.L.T.

    9. Michelle Bastian says: June 1, 2018 at 11:24 pm

      I do that too!! With my car!

    10. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:26 pm

      Hi! Iโ€™m having wine too

    11. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:26 pm

      Cheers

    12. Eric Luczak says: June 1, 2018 at 11:27 pm

      Ha I wanted to go get my masters in Social Work but ended up not doing it

    13. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:27 pm

      LOLOL, cracked me up!

    14. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:33 pm

      Risk taking is so scary!

    15. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:33 pm

      Eeeekkkkkk!

    16. Freddie Kemp says: June 1, 2018 at 11:33 pm

      Fuck it โ€“ letโ€™s do it!

    17. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:33 pm

      Fear!

    18. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:34 pm

      Itโ€™s shutting down

    19. Michele Lehmann Brown says: June 1, 2018 at 11:34 pm

      Brain tries to protect me and shut down taking the risk

    20. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:34 pm

      Finding all the reasons why itโ€™s a bad idea

    21. Freddie Kemp says: June 1, 2018 at 11:35 pm

      Awesome โ€“ I wanna do those flying those suits

    22. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:36 pm

      Iโ€™m gonna run

    23. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:36 pm

      :p

    24. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:37 pm

      Lol.. fuck itโ€ฆ.

    25. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:37 pm

      I donโ€™t want a damn job again..

    26. Michelle Bastian says: June 1, 2018 at 11:38 pm

      Yes! My run is arguing with myself internally

    27. Lynette McCormack says: June 1, 2018 at 11:39 pm

      Biggest Hugs!

    28. Freddie Kemp says: June 1, 2018 at 11:40 pm

      I watched Hans Zimmer masterclass and heโ€™s v comfortable NOT knowing how to score a movie at the outset. His thinking I could relate toโ€ฆ he then bit by bit figures out new ideas ?

    29. Freddie Kemp says: June 1, 2018 at 11:40 pm

      I watched Hans Zimmer masterclass and heโ€™s v comfortable NOT knowing how to score a movie at the outset. His thinking I could relate toโ€ฆ he then bit by bit figures out new ideas

    30. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:42 pm

      But did you die???

    31. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:44 pm

      And you can live through it

    32. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:46 pm

      They make you fell like crap though..lol

    33. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:47 pm

      O god that is soooooo me!

    34. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:48 pm

      Lol, so true

    35. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:49 pm

      Thatโ€™s what Iโ€™m gambling on right nowโ€ฆ I MIGHT win

    36. Anita Barfoot Berg says: June 1, 2018 at 11:50 pm

      Hey ?

    37. Stacy Petrossian says: June 1, 2018 at 11:50 pm

      Hello โค๏ธ

    38. Anita Barfoot Berg says: June 1, 2018 at 11:51 pm

      Sure does

    39. Anita Barfoot Berg says: June 1, 2018 at 11:52 pm

      They are just lessons ?

    40. Anita Barfoot Berg says: June 1, 2018 at 11:52 pm

      They are just lessons

    41. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:52 pm

      Everything happens for a reason, and every reason has a purpose

    42. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:53 pm

      And a lesson to learn

    43. Chaand Malik says: June 1, 2018 at 11:55 pm

      โค โค โค โค โค โค

    44. Kristie Taylor says: June 1, 2018 at 11:59 pm

      He knew

    45. Kristie Taylor says: June 2, 2018 at 12:03 am

      Hi nerd!

    46. Amina Aitsi-Selmi says: June 2, 2018 at 12:03 am

      Thanks for sharing with us Allison.

    47. Kristie Taylor says: June 2, 2018 at 12:04 am

      Thank you sweetie! You definitely helped me

    48. Amina Aitsi-Selmi says: June 2, 2018 at 12:04 am

      I have a good couch

    49. Freddie Kemp says: June 2, 2018 at 12:04 am

      Make it happen!

    50. Freddie Kemp says: June 2, 2018 at 12:04 am

      Name a date, letโ€™s do it!

    51. Michelle Jeanette says: June 2, 2018 at 12:05 am

      Hi hunee

    52. Michelle Jeanette says: June 2, 2018 at 12:05 am

      Happy Friday Happy Hour

    53. Michelle Jeanette says: June 2, 2018 at 12:05 am

      What you planning???

    54. Michelle Bastian says: June 2, 2018 at 12:05 am

      Love this! And definitely this last month for me both physically and mentally has been tough. Heck the last 48hrs has been toughโ€ฆand now I need to say there there I see you, with my feelings.

      • Allison Crow says: June 2, 2018 at 12:16 am

        Yesโ€ฆbe so tender with your thoughts and feelings. In my experience they tend to soften when we are tender.

      • Michelle Bastian says: June 2, 2018 at 12:21 am

        They have. Throughout today Iโ€™ve challenged the negatives with truths. I have been extremely gentle today. I am 3 weeks out from a huge spinal fusion surgery. I ran into issues. Today, I took a breath and said, itโ€™s okay to take care of you, itโ€™s okay to ask for help, you are worth it. I now have pain meds back on board. And my mind is in a much better place today. And so I continueโ€ฆ

      • Allison Crow says: June 2, 2018 at 12:48 am

        Michelle Bastian yes. It takes time. Your body has been through a major ordeal.

    55. Freddie Kemp says: June 2, 2018 at 12:05 am

      Norwegian airlines is super cheap from London

    56. Kristie Taylor says: June 2, 2018 at 12:05 am

      We could incorporate an art retreat

    57. Michelle Jeanette says: June 2, 2018 at 12:06 am

      Thank God for family!???

    58. Amina Aitsi-Selmi says: June 2, 2018 at 12:06 am

      Septemberโ€™s a big bโ€™dayโ€ฆWould love to celebrate on a circular couch in the sun having deep conversations and laughing. Love you,
      Allison.

      • Allison Crow says: June 2, 2018 at 12:09 am

        Lets do it!

    59. Damon Proeger says: June 2, 2018 at 12:07 am

      Lol! Cedar Park

    60. Michelle Jeanette says: June 2, 2018 at 12:07 am

      Love you too!!!

    61. Michelle Jeanette says: June 2, 2018 at 12:08 am

      Breathe it inโ€ฆ All is well

    62. Kristie Taylor says: June 2, 2018 at 12:08 am

      Cheers!

    63. Helen May says: June 2, 2018 at 12:11 am

      Sorry to have missed you Allison!

    64. Helen May says: June 2, 2018 at 12:12 am

      Sending loving your way!

    65. Kimberly Mae LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 12:17 am

      so many big hugs, Beautiful lady!!!!!

    66. Kimberly Mae LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 12:18 am

      OMG Doubt is so part of every day with me! o.O

    67. Kimberly Mae LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 12:30 am

      my brain shuts down

    68. Kimberly Mae LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 12:31 am

      overwhelm โ€” ugh โ€ฆ shutdown โ€ฆ procrastinate โ€ฆ kettle corn and Ancient Aliens

      • Allison Crow says: June 2, 2018 at 12:47 am

        I love ancient aliens!!!

      • Kimberly Mae LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 1:18 pm

        Right?!?!

    69. Kimberly Mae LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 1:30 am

      So so so much love and hugs, Allison!!!! I will fight tooth and nail to come see you in October <3 <3 <3

    70. Shannon Peebles says: June 2, 2018 at 1:51 am

      Hello from a Replay Viewer. ๐Ÿ˜€

    71. Shannon Peebles says: June 2, 2018 at 2:00 am

      Bwahahaha! I canโ€™t imagine you in that role of teaching women to be โ€œproper Christian Wives.โ€

    72. Shannon Peebles says: June 2, 2018 at 2:04 am

      <-- 38-year-old representin'!

    73. Shannon Peebles says: June 2, 2018 at 2:09 am

      My brain often goes into Freeze. I donโ€™t back away from the cliff, I stand 7 feet from the edge staring at it.

    74. Shannon Peebles says: June 2, 2018 at 2:17 am

      I wonโ€™t die. I DO get to write it off my taxes. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    75. Shannon Peebles says: June 2, 2018 at 2:38 am

      I have more friends in Austin than I do in Olympia. Hehehehe

    76. Shannon Peebles says: June 2, 2018 at 2:39 am

      Thank you, love! Iโ€m glad I got to watch the replay. <3

    77. KT Ronshausen says: June 2, 2018 at 12:45 pm

      SARK! One of my first as well ?

    78. KT Ronshausen says: June 2, 2018 at 12:45 pm

      SARK! One of my first as well

    79. Kimberly Mae LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 1:46 pm

      Allison, I just have to say that Iโ€™m so happy that you are in my life ????????โ€โ™€๏ธ

    80. Kimberly Gypsy LoSavio says: June 2, 2018 at 1:46 pm

      Allison, I just have to say that Iโ€™m so happy that you are in my life

    81. Margaret Hardway says: June 2, 2018 at 5:50 pm

      Happy Hour sounds good

    82. Margaret Hardway says: June 2, 2018 at 5:51 pm

      Camp starheart sounds extraordinary ?โญ๏ธโญ๏ธ

    83. Margaret Hardway says: June 2, 2018 at 5:51 pm

      Camp starheart sounds extraordinary

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    Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
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I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

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