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Video: Your Deepest Primary Motivators – the KEY you didn’t know you had.

January 28, 2020

Your Deepest Primary Motivators – the KEY you didn’t know you had.

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  1. Sonja Dagny Yago says: January 28, 2020 at 6:43 pm

    Hi! We’re in sync! I was writing on the DISC today!

  2. Shannon Peebles says: January 28, 2020 at 6:43 pm

    I’m a people pleaser

  3. Sonja Dagny Yago says: January 28, 2020 at 6:44 pm

    High S here!

  4. Jackie Hall Gates says: January 28, 2020 at 6:44 pm

    So am I…. Sometimes

  5. Liza Boubari says: January 28, 2020 at 6:44 pm

    People person – not always p pleaser

  6. Sonja Dagny Yago says: January 28, 2020 at 6:48 pm

    Ahhhh!!!

  7. Sonja Dagny Yago says: January 28, 2020 at 6:48 pm

    Freeze

  8. Sonja Dagny Yago says: January 28, 2020 at 6:50 pm

    Not sustainable

  9. Shannon Peebles says: January 28, 2020 at 6:51 pm

    8-9 years old

  10. Shannon Peebles says: January 28, 2020 at 6:57 pm

    Tiny brave steps.

  11. Shannon Peebles says: January 28, 2020 at 6:57 pm

    I’ve been taking tiny brave steps lately

  12. Alisia Krastel says: January 28, 2020 at 6:58 pm

    TikTok has actually been fun

  13. Jackie Hall Gates says: January 28, 2020 at 6:58 pm

    I love that… Tiny brave steps.

  14. Shannon Peebles says: January 28, 2020 at 6:59 pm

    We cannot live a life to our fullest if we are constantly anticipating and avoiding our pain.

  15. Shannon Peebles says: January 28, 2020 at 6:59 pm

    I had already started typing it. 😉 I gotchu, girl

  16. Jackie Hall Gates says: January 28, 2020 at 7:00 pm

    Yes!!! You know it!!!

  17. Alisia Krastel says: January 28, 2020 at 7:04 pm

    Made me smile

  18. Jackie Hall Gates says: January 28, 2020 at 7:05 pm

    Thank you.?

  19. Sonja Dagny Yago says: January 28, 2020 at 7:08 pm

    I put out a video last week that included some aspects on how to grow/expand your comfort zone. Did you see it?

    • Allison Crow says: January 28, 2020 at 7:50 pm

      Oh No, I missed it. Will go and find!

    • Sonja Dagny Yago says: January 28, 2020 at 7:56 pm

      It’s the last half of this one:

      https://www.facebook.com/EmpathEnergyCoach/videos/691450844720761/

  20. Nycole Bubenko says: January 28, 2020 at 7:08 pm

    I love this ?

  21. Mary Tirrell says: January 28, 2020 at 7:12 pm

    Just catching the end. Will do replay in a little while.

  22. Nycole Bubenko says: January 28, 2020 at 7:14 pm

    Dance with discomfort. ?

  23. Nycole Bubenko says: January 28, 2020 at 7:14 pm

    Dance with discomfort.

  24. Cara Wykowski says: January 28, 2020 at 7:38 pm

    Hello there. Replay

  25. Steph Levine says: January 28, 2020 at 8:03 pm

    Yesssss!!! Just come to camp star heart

  26. Steph Levine says: January 28, 2020 at 8:26 pm

    AND what I love about doing hard things is it’s only hard until it isnr

  27. Steph Levine says: January 28, 2020 at 8:26 pm

    Isn’t

  28. Steph Levine says: January 28, 2020 at 8:27 pm

    You’ve held my hand virtually when I’ve “ made the call”

  29. Steph Levine says: January 28, 2020 at 8:34 pm

    Good stuffff

  30. Carolina Pérez says: January 28, 2020 at 8:34 pm

    Inam going to camp heart!?

  31. Carolina Pérez says: January 28, 2020 at 8:34 pm

    Inam going to camp heart!

  32. Carolina Pérez says: January 28, 2020 at 8:36 pm

    I can feel this is going to be sooo good

  33. Carolina Pérez says: January 28, 2020 at 8:45 pm

    ????I am still here with you! ?

  34. Carolina Pérez says: January 28, 2020 at 8:45 pm

    I am still here with you!

  35. Darlene Versak says: January 28, 2020 at 10:21 pm

    Hello, replay, thank you.

  36. Amy Klco says: January 29, 2020 at 4:05 am

    In my upcoming book “The Tender-Hearted Child,” I talk about this fear of going out of our comfort zone. I compare it to learning how to swim.

    Some people can learn by the strategy of “sink or swim.” But those of us who are more people-people (instead of task-oriented,) this can be too much for us, and that is okay! The trick is to NOT let ourselves just stay safely on the shore. You CAN learn to swim, but only if you take risks. But do it at your own pace.

  37. Mary Tirrell says: January 28, 2021 at 7:48 pm

    And you coach people who work for a company that works for NASA and the Pentagon!

  38. Shari Lueck says: January 31, 2021 at 2:39 pm

    Camp Star Heart?

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝—they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful parts—my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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