For years I have been good at connecting with YOU, while still protecting and disconnecting from me. (This strategy is ineffective). My nervous system was conditioned to assess threat- yours is too… and because I didn’t know internal connection and safety – I tried to… [read more]
Drop Below Your Head to Inner Authority
Inner Authority: hello fellow recovering people pleasers. Hello, over-functioning and over-empathic leaders. All these things work until they don’t… and now here you are realizing so much of what made you successful was behavioral patterns born out of childhood trauma, emotional neglect…. And… [read more]
2 Coaches Nerd Out On IFS – A Happy Hour Chat with Dr. Erin M. Baker.
2 Coaches Nerd Out On IFS with Erin Baker Live recording of the Better Life Better Work Show! Connect on Facebook Share Free Share Your Heart Show Your Work Facebook Community Soulies Self-Leadership Coaching Membership
You are a Gardener Not a Machine
Oh, how the world wants to press us into the idea that we can behave and perform like a machine in life and business. You, my DEAR… and you are a dear one. You are a gardener, not a machine. This is your reminder to… [read more]
The Heartbreak of Losing Your Hobbies
You can’t remember the last time you painted, or went dancing, or threw some clay. Your crocheting yarns are in a basket in the back of the closet. Your oil paints are in storage…. (Most of these are stores my clients have told me….). Losing… [read more]
Being Smart, and where traditional coaching failed, and what helped.
For 49 years I’ve been too smart for my own good. I’m a lifelong student and always will be. My intellectual prowess has always given me a sense of safety and security. For most of my life, this was unconscious and now I see. I… [read more]