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The Gift of Consistency

October 13, 2017

What got me here, won’t get me where I intend to go. I have some really strong muscles and skills and they have served me well. And as I’ve restructured my practice, I hear loudly, the call of CONSISTENCY calling me. HOLY SHIT – do I resist that. I’ve always been consistently inconsistent.

Today Hank Avink shared this phrase in a longer post:

“Know that you are only 5 years away from the exact life you desire. Be willing to think “Consistent” vs “Big”
If you’re consistent, your biggest challenge will be destructive abundance.”

I have always been able to play big. And I’m getting smaller and more consistent – because for me it = SUSTAINABILITY.

I think this is what Hank is saying when he says ‘destructive abundance’ – when we create abundance, the human tendency is to slow down or stop our consistency. And that leaves us having to hit a grand slam home run to catch up.

I see how this has caused problems in my work – especially when I hit health hic-ups. And…

I’m committing to strengthening my consistency muscles. They are puny now, and I’m building muscle by feeling into my natural cadences –my natural rhythms and implementing schedule and system around those cycles. I’m also committing to stockpile podcasts and content so that I can release weekly (this is an edge for me — that almost makes me cringe and if I’m not careful I can sabotage myself by treating this as an excuse.

In the past, I made up that consistently means DAILY or weekly. And that it came with obligation….and I see that my current rhythms actually show me MANY ways I am already that which I desire to be — and that I can do this with ease and grace, instead of force and masculine push.

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I have been able to create ONE thing in my business that supports the whole being of my work. And now, to support that one thing – I simply need to implement and be gently consistent with only 3 things.

My biggest obstacle is getting bored – so my other consistency goal is around filling my extra time with so much fucking fun and adventure and connection socially.

I’ve always been a sprinter…. and it served me – until it didn’t.

I will call these practices. Just like my spiritual practices, my creative, and self-care practices…., my green juice practice….

and so it is. AHO.

What about you….what practice, if you implemented and were consistent with – would dramatically change your life or work for the better?

And what do you have to believe to give yourself that gift?

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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