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Achievement and Success, Better Life Better Work Show, Mindset and Thinking, Podcast, Releasing Resistance, Soul-Full Success

3 Tips For Wise Surrender With Kay Blond

April 29, 2019

Special Guest Host Kay Blond

When you get the wind knocked out of you how do you get up?

I had a new business that was a year old and it was going through a shift and I was scared.
Allison asked, β€œIn my entire career as an entrepreneur had I ever not paid my bills.” I thought about it and the answer was, β€œNo.”
There was the proof.

  • God Always Provides

Take a breath
Step away from the wheel and surrender
Surrender to a higher being (for me that’s God)
Surrender to my inner voice
Surrender control to your higher being and inner voice, that’s the sweet spot.

  • Trust yourself, you have your own back.
    You can do hard things you have proof.

Take the time to give yourself credit for the things you have accomplished in life. We are so focused on what we haven’t accomplished and all the things we β€œshould” be doing and β€œhave” to be doing that we forget to love and praise on ourselves.

  • All the results you have in your life today are because of the thoughts that you have.

Be aware of what you are thinking about and knowing that is the directive of your life allows you to think differently.
Be Open and listen to your heart, your soul and your inner voice.  It’s a kinder and more peaceful place to be.

You can build the most amazing business in life by listening to your own thoughts.

Referenced: The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed To Transform Your Life (Before 8AM) – Hal Elrod

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𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛π₯𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 π›πž 𝐟𝐒𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 πšπ―π¨π’ππžπβ€”they’re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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