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How to Deal With Doubt

May 27, 2018

Oh, that tricky little bugger doubt. My coach teaches in business, there are math problems and drama problems. I notice that my drama problems (doubt, fear, overwhelm, time, procrastination, and confusion) keep me from solving my math problems. It is that simple. 

And the one that comes in for me MOST of all, and for many of my clients — is DOUBT. Not even fear. Just doubt.

I was smacked with doubt this week. And I’m learning that doubt is simply some conditioned thinking triggered by a neutral circumstance.

I used to freak out for days when doubt hit. I remember one leap I took about 5 years ago…and I was in a headspin for a week. Now my doubt last about a day….. here’s how I sooth and move through doubt so I can get my happy ass on the way to solving my math problems.

 

Breathe and notice. Breathe and notice. Release Judgement. “Even though I doubt I deserve more love, not less.” (Matt Kahn) and There, there, doubt – I see you- I will not leave you. I am here for you.

In a sacred container…. verbalize and release all the old stories and specific doubt…to the point I release the deepest tears about it. I’m not indulging here…but cleaning out. Allowing it to rise to the surface with the intention of releasing those stories not recreating them. When I get really honest –only then am I able to create a new agreement. I find, that forcing the old agreement, without allowing it to fully purge, that it comes back with a vengeance.

Don’t do it alone. I have a circle of trusted advisors. Yesterday I shared my heart with 3 specific people whom I knew could hold the energy I needed to release, and whom I knew to see me as the Divine Magician I AM.

And then again, I just breathe and begin to remember who I really am. I begin to rework the sentence in my mind and find a new thought pattern that feels true and good. I am able to learn new things, It always works out. Its what I do, take big risks for myself because I believe in myself, and usually, it pays off. I am able. Kaisen steps and joy in my heart I go forward.

Today is a new day. I remember, and I hope you do too.

If you are doubting….

I hope this helps you release the doubt and renew your mind. I have never met anyone who doesn’t experience doubt. And, I want to be someone who soothes and releases it instead of living by it.

On to the math problems, baby! I believe in you.

And if you would like exquisite community, premium life & business coaching at an insanely easy price – take a look at https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/ 

I’d love to be your coach.

– Your favorite life coach.

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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