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Look Wider Than It Hurts…

June 16, 2016

Wise words for a day and time like this: Mark Nepo

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  1. Sara Willerson says: June 16, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    YES!!!

  2. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 9:48 pm

    Hi ?

  3. LaTanya Hayward says: June 16, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    Hello Allison!

  4. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 9:49 pm

    Hehehe ?

  5. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 9:49 pm

    Hehehe

  6. Tammy Judd Jenny says: June 16, 2016 at 3:49 pm

    But your glasses are super cute too.

  7. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 3:49 pm

    I wear contacts

  8. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    I’m short sighted so yes

  9. LaTanya Hayward says: June 16, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    Allison what is the name of the wine you drink?

  10. LaTanya Hayward says: June 16, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    I remember you saying you found a wine that doesn’t give you a headache.

    • Allison Crow says: June 16, 2016 at 10:13 pm

      Barefoot Pinot Noir.

    • LaTanya Hayward says: June 16, 2016 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you. Wine gives me a headache too. I stopped buying it. I’ll try this one. πŸ™‚

    • Allison Crow says: June 16, 2016 at 10:23 pm

      Also drink lots of water. Maybe someday we will have a glass together. Cheers! And avoid merlot!

  11. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 9:51 pm

    Oh- you mean you need glasses to see up close… Like reading? I need for more than a metre away ?

    • Allison Crow says: June 16, 2016 at 10:14 pm

      Yes. That is what bill had lasix for. I can’t read my books, devices or computer. I can see an ant speaking sign language a mile away.

    • Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 11:04 pm

      According to this you can wear contacts for long sightedness πŸ™‚

      https://www.acuvue.co.uk/eye-problems/short-and-long-sightedness?gclid=Cj0KEQjwnIm7BRDSs42KxLS8-6YBEiQAfDWP6AOulueKUc4l5mRgjsvEgXZ-TROU3WgUzeDL3fOcc6oaAnv08P8HAQ

    • Allison Crow says: June 16, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Vicky Hemming ooooohhhh and I can get super green contacts!

    • Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 11:11 pm

      Um… I find coloured contacts creepy ? hahaha

    • Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 11:12 pm

      Especially the ones people wear for Halloween

  12. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 9:51 pm

    Oh- you mean you need glasses to see up close… Like reading? I need for more than a metre away

    • Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 11:11 pm

      Um… I find coloured contacts creepy hahaha

  13. Vicky Hemming says: June 16, 2016 at 3:53 pm

    Ooooh that’s powerful and soooooo true!

  14. Malinda Baum says: June 16, 2016 at 3:55 pm

    good news doesnt sell sadly

  15. Bill Flanigin says: June 16, 2016 at 3:57 pm

    Colby has a no hitter

  16. Max Ing says: June 16, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    Lie to your heart and say all is well . ??

  17. R Singh says: June 16, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    Lie to your heart and say all is well .

  18. Max Ing says: June 16, 2016 at 9:58 pm

    Hey bill ??

    • Allison Crow says: June 16, 2016 at 10:15 pm

      I love how you are a Bill Flan Fan!

    • Allison Crow says: June 16, 2016 at 10:15 pm

      Dr Pepper t shirt!!!

    • Max Ing says: June 16, 2016 at 10:16 pm

      Yes ! i am ??

  19. R Singh says: June 16, 2016 at 9:58 pm

    Hey bill

    • R Singh says: June 16, 2016 at 10:16 pm

      Yes ! i am

  20. Max Ing says: June 16, 2016 at 3:59 pm

    so good to catch you live missed you

  21. Tammy Judd Jenny says: June 16, 2016 at 4:00 pm

    ❀️

  22. Sara Willerson says: June 16, 2016 at 4:01 pm

    Thank you! XO

  23. Jennifer Palmer says: June 16, 2016 at 4:01 pm

    How does one join the B team?

  24. Mike Schlegel says: June 16, 2016 at 4:01 pm

    Yay! #GoodShitLive

  25. Jennifer Palmer says: June 16, 2016 at 4:01 pm

    Thank you!

  26. Allison Crow says: June 16, 2016 at 4:02 pm

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheBeTeamClub/

  27. Malinda Baum says: June 16, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    of course I would =)

  28. Mike Schlegel says: June 16, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    Hmmm…

  29. Mike Schlegel says: June 16, 2016 at 4:05 pm

    My video is cutting out. Gonna pop off. Great to see you! #StayAwesome

  30. LaTanya Hayward says: June 16, 2016 at 4:05 pm

    There is?

  31. Malinda Baum says: June 16, 2016 at 4:06 pm

    =)

  32. Jayne Daly says: June 16, 2016 at 5:51 pm

    Hi

  33. Jayne Daly says: June 16, 2016 at 5:51 pm

    Oh yes!!

  34. Jayne Daly says: June 16, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    You kill me

  35. Laura Long says: June 16, 2016 at 6:38 pm

    That is perfect for the times lately, and any time really! We are more than this….more than this splenter. We have to shut off the “everything” after we move through it. So glad you remind us we can hold it and then expand the view. I think we are truly the “larger view”.

  36. Jane Bell Lassiter says: June 16, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    <3

  37. Max Ing says: June 17, 2016 at 4:36 am

    Hello ????

  38. Mandy Lehto says: June 16, 2016 at 11:32 pm

    Love that, “You must look wider than what hurts…”

  39. Nadine Larder says: June 17, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    Awesome talk! Awesome reminders and …ummmm….you’re awesome!

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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsβ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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