SELF- Trust: As a coach- my clients often hear me say: You can accept, modify, or reject I’ll lay this idea/suggestion on the table, and you can pick it up or leave it there. I am not the boss of you. I believe… [read more]
SELF-Trust Takes Time
Self-trust takes time; it is a practice, not an event. Navigating self-trust isn’t always easy. It’s about finding your footing amidst the pressures of fitting into the molds the world shapes for us—often at the expense of our authenticity. Let’s talk people-pleasing. It’s a tune… [read more]
Tanya Markul Poem That Says So Much
“When I realized my pain came from wanting to be liked, I began to love myself. When I realised my pain came from wanting to be acknowledged, I started to see who I really was…” This poem by Tanya Markul is a beautiful expression… [read more]
On the Front Porch with Protective Parts
As a trained #internalfamilysystems coach (vs. a therapist) who works with very smart, head-led, and strategic business owners – we do a ton of what I call Front porch work. My specific amazing clients have protectors & internal that use fierce but publicly… [read more]
Fierce Personal Protector Parts – Internal Family Systems
Imagine a very quiet secret service protector. She is quiet but consistently over my right shoulder. Her presence is thick and always there. But she isn’t on guard for outside threats; she is monitoring my behavior, my productivity, my processes, and my very existence. Most… [read more]
My Words are a Lamp and a Light
Call me blasphemous. I lifted this photo from my friend and fellow writer Angie Mattson Stegall. When I first saw it, my heart opened, and I gasped with recognition. Scripture, in the traditional sense, only ever oppressed me, but writing every single day, exploring the… [read more]
Roy Fucking Kent and Oscar the Grouch – My Muses
I’ve been experimenting with something entirely new on behalf of ALL my parts. Especially the ones I’ve suppressed most of my life. I always imagined that I was a bit like Ted Lasso- but I think the real me is more Roy Fucking Kent. … [read more]
You Think Too Much
No shit. I am 1000000% aware of this. And I’m done being ashamed of my overthinking parts. Before I get to making my list of the things I adore and love about “thinking too much,” – let me tell anyone who considers saying this to… [read more]
