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Care of the Soul, Emotions, Midlife, Mindset and Thinking, Nourishing Practices - Habits, Personal Growth, Releasing Resistance, Self Compassion, Self Leadership, Self Trust, Uncategorized

Midlife Can Cause Your Confidence to Wobble: Here’s Why and What to Do About It

November 26, 2024

Feeling Like Youโ€™ve Lost Your Confidence in Midlife? It can be discombobulating. Hereโ€™s Whyโ€”and What to Do About It. Itโ€™s not uncommon to feel a loss of confidence, especially during times of transition, change, or stress. What we call “confidence” in the past was often… [read more]

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Behind the Curtain, Care of the Soul, Life Coaching, Midlife, Soul-Full Living, Wild Edges of Being Human

Midlife Wandering – Where Am I Going

August 29, 2024

Almost two years ago, my book on learning to live with an unarmored heart was published. 2 years ago yesterday, I had an NSTMI heart attack and spent three days in the hospital while the doctors tried to figure out what was going on. Talk… [read more]

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Achievement and Success, ADHD Women, Authentic Leadership, Behind the Curtain, Coaching, Deconstructing Systems, Marketing Tips, Self Trust, Small Biz Support, Soul-Full Success

Attractor vs Enroller: A Distinction for Us Both

August 25, 2024

A distinction for your consideration: Attractor vs. Enroller   Yesterday was a bingo ball day where all my ideas just bounced around in the bingo ball hopper – none fully dropped into the final chute. I looked through some recent journals to slow down and… [read more]

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Authentic Leadership, Creative Living, Creative Practice, Deconstructing Systems, Leadership, My Mentors, Recovering People Pleaser, Self Leadership, Self Trust

Do your Leaders Invite You to Self Trust Like Rick Rubin (And Me)

August 22, 2024

SELF- Trust:   As a coach- my clients often hear me say:   You can accept, modify, or reject Iโ€™ll lay this idea/suggestion on the table, and you can pick it up or leave it there. I am not the boss of you. I believe… [read more]

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Authentic Leadership, Behind the Curtain, Care of the Soul, Compassionate Inquiry, Deconstructing Systems, HEART, journal, Life Coaching, Personal, Personal Growth, Self Trust, Soul-Full Living, Soul-Full Success, Wild Edges of Being Human

UNLEARNING (In my journal)

August 7, 2024

  Today is one of those days when all the dots connect, and I can see how the past has led me to now. My now is ordinary; there is no monumental milestone or achievement. There is nothing to brag about, nothing you will admire… [read more]

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Breath is your BFF, Personal Growth, Releasing Resistance, The Body Always Knows, Unarmored, Wild Edges of Being Human

We Can’t Learn When We Are In A Reactive State

June 27, 2024

  There is an OBVIOUS inflamed and injured nervous system state – with an obvious acute injury. We can see and soften when the injury is obvious. Oh wow!! Your arm got sliced off. Thatโ€™s gonna take some time to heal- and we can conjure… [read more]

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Behind the Curtain, journal, Wild Edges of Being Human, Writing Life

You’re Doing it Wrong – From the Archives

June 25, 2024

Originally written June25, 2022   ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ช๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—ก๐—š! Does anyone else have an old trauma-based sensitivity to this phrase? I have been a puppet to these strings.   And Iโ€™m certain Iโ€™ve expressed โ€œYou are doing it wrongโ€ here and in person more… [read more]

by allisoncrow 
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Behind the Curtain, Emotions, Grief, journal, Life, Nourishing Practices - Habits, Sacred Journeys

On Grief – From The Archives

June 18, 2024

This was in my Facebook memories today – and I thought it would be nice here on my own home turf.   From June 18, 2021 Good morning.   Yesterday was heavy. And full of grief. Grief is the one I really want to avoidโ€ฆ. I… [read more]

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๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง ๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฑ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ž๐โ€”theyโ€™re messages from different parts of you. Rather than labeling them as good or bad, approach them with curiosity. Each emotion is a part of your system trying to communicate something important about your needs. By listening with empathy to these parts, you deepen your understanding of yourself and build emotional intelligence. This practice of compassionate inquiry helps you strengthen your connection to your internal experience and empowers you to respond in a way that aligns with your true Self.
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Overthink Much? I have this mental ideal that is Overthink Much?

I have this mental ideal that is embedded in my brain that I would be able to wake up and move forward with all my intentions.  I can see the clear direction and simple steps. I can envision all the "results" and the relief I make up those results would bring. 

One of the things I'm teaching myself to do - is try to write more from a professional voice for you instead of blab in inner processing out on this little white pop-up box. 

How's that working, Alli?

Buahahahah.... all my sweet and striving little parts trying to hold my life closely to that ideal.  I sense the squirm of these parts in my body even when my "thinking" is clear.

I now know this to be a signal for me to slow down and meet those parts with calm and curiosity. First, I must get past one of my sneakiest and most powerful partsโ€”my "awareness" part. This is not Awareness from my core self. 
In IFS - we call these self-like parts. The distinction is that the awareness part carries the burden and tone of "You're doing it wrong."

I asked my clients to notice the part of them that is "mindful and self-aware." What are the words that the voice uses? What is its tone? 

Is it SELF-calm and compassionate, deeply connected? Or is it cognitive and managerial with a motive? 

OOOOF...sending sweet love and compassion to all my thinking, overthinking, and trying-to-get-it-right-for-some-imaginaryideal-parts, and to yours. 

These parts need our somatic connection and attunement. They do not need judgment and alienation. They are scared and holding ages of fear and pain. 

Hello, inner managers, and judgers, and thinkers.  I see you.  I am here for you.  I see your skills.  You have done nothing wrong.  No matter what you feel, you deserve more love, not less.  Let's just breathe together, and then you can share your fears and concerns.  I am here for you.  I will not leave you.
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In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads In the IFS community, we call triggers "trailheads" or say, "This part of me is really activated." Identifying and caring for emotionally reactive parts gives us the opportunity to respond with intention rather than impulsively. By practicing emotional regulation and internal partswork, you can create space between stimulus and response, allowing for more thoughtful and grounded decision-making.
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For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and b For me, it was the fear I would disintegrate and be insignificant.  For many, it's attached to conditional love.  IFS coaching helped me in places typical coaching couldn't.  It helped me compassionately understand and connect with these parts - and ya know what? They began to relax, build trust, and step back, leaving space for my natural creativity, grounded confidence, and clarity to lead in my work & life.  This is available to you.  #ifscoaching
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