Healing and Hope after Hard Journies with Colette Nies Von Hanna

Navigating Life’s Challenges: A Conversation with Colette Nies Von Hanna

Join me for a conversation with long-time family friend Colette Nies Von Hanna, who shares her journey and insights on being human. Colette, an organic gardener, socio-ecological feminist theologian, and energy researcher from New Braunfels, Texas, discusses the interconnection of ecological trauma and personal experiences. She reflects on her career shifts, including a political run, her academic pursuits, and community gardening efforts involving personal, professional, and spiritual growth. Colette shares her struggle with cancel culture, dealing with political and personal attacks, and the importance of self-awareness in activism and community involvement. She emphasizes the importance of resilience, authenticity, and vision despite facing extreme adversity and the challenges of social expectations.

Colette Nies Von Hanna, MSSW, MDIV

Activist, Socio-Ecological Feminist Theologian, Energy Researcher, Social Worker, Chaplain, 3rd Gen Organic Gardener, Aspiring Urban Farmer, Adoptive Mom, River-Goer, Rabble-Rouser, Bleeding Heart, who loves strong coffee and long naps.

The quote mentioned from my friend Justin’s LinkedIn page:  

“To the people who are emotionally sensitive, who care so much about everything no matter how hard they try not to, who notice even the smallest things and take everything to the heart, the struggle is valid. I hope you get surrounded with people who are kind enough to understand you and even if you can’t expect everyone to adjust for you, I hope you get extra patience from this world.”

— Kylie Yzobelle

Key Topics and Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:08 Colette’s Background and Work

03:48 Personal and Professional Challenges

07:02 Running for Office and Facing Adversity

09:27 Navigating Political, Academic, and Spiritual Struggles

13:01 Reflections on Pain, Privilege, and Growth

25:14 Systemic Issues and Personal Resilience

29:46 The Weight of Awareness

30:38 Embracing Sadness and Hope

32:14 Understanding Bypassing

33:25 Facing Trauma and Healing

36:21 The Journey from Head to Heart

37:35 Learning to Feel and Express Emotions

48:13 Building a SELF-Centered Legacy

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Welcome back! In today’s episode, I delve into lessons I’ve learned from one of my favorite teachers and approaches ~ Gabor Maté and Compassionate Inquiry. 

I explore his method as a facilitator, the importance of gaining consent, his views on addiction as attempts to solve suffering, and authenticity versus attachment. Reflecting on his teachings, I discuss the impact of the “still-face experiment” and how connection to self is crucial in our healing journeys. I’ll also share insights on over-functioning as a coping mechanism and Gabor’s perspective on thriving in a sick world. Join me as we reconnect with ourselves and each other.

00:00 Introduction to Gabor Maté and Compassionate Inquiry

00:45 Facilitation Techniques and Interruptions

02:37 The Role of Consent in Facilitation

03:07 Understanding Addiction and Suffering

06:56 The Still Face Experiment

10:23 Authenticity vs. Attachment

18:01 Overfunctioning and Coping Mechanisms

20:46 The Impact of a Sick World on Emotional Health

22:45 Present Moment Awareness and Self-Connection

The Still Face Experiment: https://youtu.be/YTTSXc6sARg?si=9a1-oDJfE69BESL-

Gabor Maté Website: https://drgabormate.com/

The Myth Of Normal: https://amzn.to/3zoVdmc

Compassionate Inquiry: https://compassionateinquiry.com/

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* Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison /coachingwallison/

* Internal Family Systems Coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview /ifs/

* Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Allison shares her personal journey of reinventing herself and her business,
discussing her struggles, coping mechanisms, and the need for genuine connections.

She emphasizes the importance of understanding one’s needs and cycles, challenging toxic individualism,
and finding what works authentically for oneself in business and life.

Key Topics and Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to the Live Session: Embracing Spring and Personal Insights

00:45 Journey Through Deep Self-Care and Spiritual Awakening

02:51 Understanding Coping Mechanisms and Embracing Humaness

04:34 The Transformation: From Personal Struggles to Spiritual Reintegration

07:57 Rebuilding Business and Personal Growth Amidst Challenges

12:02 Embracing Prosperity and Connection: A New Approach to Business

18:35 Breaking Free from Conventional Rules: Authentic Content Creation

20:39 Navigating the Achievement Phase: Letting Go of Old Paradigms

22:09 The One-to-Many Model and Its Limitations

23:54 Unlocking the Power of Personal Reinvention

24:37 Navigating Business with Personalized Strategies

26:20 Embracing Individuality in Business and Life

30:13 Challenging Societal Norms and Personal Development Myths

36:17 Understanding Variance and Supporting Personal Ebbs and Flows

42:14 Rebloom: Embracing Sovereignty and Spring Renewal

Mentioned In The Episode: 

The Post about Poker and Variation from my colleague, Mike Harris 

The Self-Lead Humans in Business Facebook Group 

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Resources:

• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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It’s Road Riff time – Ease from the Inside Out.

I’ve had some really interesting, unusual resistance around content creation
and I didn’t have an “episode,” but I did have a drive into town 

Stream of Consciousness with a Purpose and More at Ease

I want to be more at ease this year from the inside
It’s one of the core goals of how and who I want to be 

This riff is inspired by Gabor Mate, Authenticity & Internal Family Systems

Love, 

Allison

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Resources:

• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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I’m just going to allow myself to be imperfect in getting back into the routine

I love creating content for y’all 
I’ve always loved creating content for y’all
and I’ve had some procrastination parts come up lately

I had all these plans and was taking no action – Highly unusual for me. 

After a couple of weeks of this procrastination, I sat down to do my parts work practices as I normally do, and my shoulders were aching
and I decided to see if it was a part.

 I slowed down and connected with myself and my body.
Hello, shoulders. I see you.
Hello, tightness, stiffness and pain. I see you

What is it you want me to know?nbsp;

Enjoy this episode and a few of the deeper things I’ve learned from this thing called life over the last few months.

Love, 

Allison

Prefer Video Watch this episode on my YouTube Channel here:

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Resources:

• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems Coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Hello Hello Humans!

I feel like a little kid getting back on a bicycle,
It’s been a couple of months since I podcasted. 

Bug Soup is the time during chrysalis when the caterpillar disintegrates and devolves 
and physically, materially turns into an gooey mess before it regenerates into the butterflies that bless us all. 

It’s a metaphor for a stage of creation and a stage of life.  

Who else is in and has been in Bug Soup?

I have been for quite some time. 

It feels like whack a mole and it is just life. 

I just want to acknowledge the humanity of seasons of Bug Soup no matter what causes them. 

Love, 

Allison

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Resources:

• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems Coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Hello Humans!

Thank you for your grace while I took some time and space. 

For the last four years I have been in writing practice with my publisher and write as a group

One of my former clients and now friend and fellow author colleague has released her book
with Compassionate Mind Collaborative Publishing.

I want you to get her book and let it touch your heart. 

Art is About Being Whole: A Memoir By Cindy Ingram

It is a visual and word soulful treat. 

Love, 

Allison

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Resources:

• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems Coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Hello Human Podcast Listeners!

Today I want to share a little behind the scenes ADHD update.

This is kind of personal.

It’s a behind the scenes episodes of being a small business owner,
being a coaching practice owner who is also navigating the Wild Edges of Being Human.

Many of you know the diagnosis of my ADHD over 18 months ago
and the acclimation to that both education, identity, meds, the support I need has been way different journey then I would have ever imagined.

The diagnosis label is one thing and the aftermath is interesting. 

This morning I woke up feeling more ME then I have in a long time. 

Love,

Allison

Other ADHD Episodes and Posts:

• EMOTIONS, ADHD & MOTIVATION – A CONVERGENCE OF IDEAS

• ADHD JOURNAL UPDATE – MED CHANGES AND INSIGHTS

• BEHIND THE SCENES OF ADHD

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 Resources:

• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems Coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Hello Humans, another Road Riff Episode!

I use to consider myself an optimist. 

I still tend to have some of these qualities.

I tend to see the best in people.
I’m able to see the best in people.
Sometimes to my detriment.

My identity for many many years was built around making other people feel good.  

As I allow myself to be more human, as I drop the masks that I lived in to be save, I no longer claim to be an optimist.
Here’s why and what I claim to be instead

Love,

Allison

The ACA Bill of rights I mentioned in the episode

• Allisons ACA Bill of Rights Journal Pages

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 Resources:

• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems Coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Emotions, ADHD & Motivation – A Convergence of Ideas

Hi Y’all!

I’ve been meaning to do an ADHD podcast for over a year and I saw this quote today by Tami Simon from Sounds True,

“Sometimes only the answer is found through living life.”

When I give myself the time and space to live life, the connections reveal themselves. And unmixing my internalized-for-51-years identity as it overlaps with ADHD has been a bit of a rumble for me lately. 

While not solely about ADHD, I have had some recent insights that really landed as I continue on my learning and practicing of IFS, some  deeper study of the Enneagram (because those dang test never tell me the same number). This episode is a grand convergence of ideas connecting emotions, ADHD, and motivation–seen from a deeper than usual lens. 

Love, 

Allison

• The Enneagram Insights I’ve gained have been from listening to Suzanne Stabile’s podcast, The Enneagram Journey, and reading her book The Path Between Us. 
• I’m also reading Sari Solden’s Book (the revised and expanded version) Women With Attention Deficit Disorder Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life 

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• Visit: Website: www.allisoncrow.com
• Find out more about 1:1 coaching with Allison
• Internal Family Systems Coaching and a brief IFS Model Overview
• Get your copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Episode 204 Heather Doyle Frasier: The Practice of Compassionate Writing

Writer, Coach, Renaissance Woman, Lover of Books
Publisher of Compassionate Mind Collaborative and a singer. 

After having worked in the traditional publishing industry as a development editor,
Heather saw the humanity missing from the industry.

Meet my book coach, publisher, and friend. 

Writing is such a vulnerable raw experience.
Even when you feel like you have this covered something is going to come up during the process that is difficult and challenging. 

Merging her industry experience with coaching based in Compassionate Mind Training,
Heather creates a space and a loving mandate in her own publishing company.

Love, 

Allison

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Resources:

Heather’s Info:

Website Home:  https://www.cmcollab.com/

Offerings for writing and publishing  https://www.cmcollab.com/writing-your-book

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/compassionatewriter

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/cmcollaborative

Get a copy of UNARMORED: Finding Home in the Wild Edge of Being Human

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Episode 203 – The Practice of Connection over Control

Another road riff episode!

It’s Sunday morning, 8:23 am as I record this and I’m heading out to my therapeutic horseback riding lessons. After a difficult week, I’ve got some insights and lessons settling into my bones.  There might be a few tears! 

Y’all know everything has an analogy, right?
It’s not even an analogy, life just repeats itself in so many patterns and I see and experience the patterns and love sharing these connections with you – so that we can all SELF-connect a bit more deeply in our lives. (PS…seeing and making connections is an ADHD thing). 

Today’s episode topic is control or connection and the lessons the horses and life are teaching me.

The skills of connection over control and protection are new for many of us and they require compassionate practice. 

Time on task gives us the experience of moving from controlling a situation to connecting and moving through it.
It takes us from trying to do something to becoming one with doing something.  I hope you enjoy the episode – from my tender heart to yours. 

Love,

Allison Crow

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Resources:

Elizabeth Gilbert: Creative Living Beyond Fear

• Website and things to see and read
• 1:1 Coaching 
• Book you will love: Unarmored: Finding Home in the Wild Edges of Being Human 

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Hello Humans, I’m here with one of my mentors and teachers Chris Zydel.

She is the Wild Heart Queen of Creative Juices Arts and has a wonderful book out, 
Conversations with the Brush: Wisdom Tales from the Intuitive Painting Heart

Today we’re having a specific conversation about Becoming Crone in the context of being a business owner. 

Crone. Menopause. Reinvention. Business.

Love,

Allison

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Resources: 

CreativeJuicesArts.com

Keep Painting Cards

Conversations with the Brush: Wisdom Tales from the Intuitive Painting Heart

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Hello Humans, today we are jamming with fellow reinventor Cindy Ingram.

Cindy has a book coming out later in the year and today we are going to talk a little bit more about reinvention. 

Reinvention shows up on the outside but it’s usually because things happen on the inside. 

Originally choosing her work based on how it felt,
Cindy shows a certain level of self trust to choose those kind of things when we might think we need to do something different. 

“It has to feel right whatever I’m doing” – Cindy Ingram

And it takes a big leap to move careers with full on structural reinvention.

Love,

Allison

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Dreaming in Spanish with Sara Alvarado (and writing your story).

Live, it’s Allison Crow and Sara Alvarado!

We are going to be talking about telling your story and Sara’s new book,
Dreaming In Spanish: An Unexpected Love Story in Puerto Vallarta.

I adored this book! And I really did start thinking in Spanish after reading it.  It’s a story of healing, of unexpected and profound love. It’s a story of combining cultures and families, and so much more.  I hope you will enjoy this conversation and I know you will love Sara’s book. 

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Dreaming In Spanish: An Unexpected Love Story in Puerto Vallarta

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Over the last 18 years, specifically coaching, I have worked with so many business owners.

Thousands and thousands of business owners everywhere from brand new business owners learning how to do things to business owners in achievement phase.

These days I tend to work with extremely experienced high revenue business owners. 
I also work with caring people.

I work with people who are heart-centered, who have passion, & who care.

Most of my clients might say, or at some point say, it’s not about the money.
Listen at one point I said it’s not about the money and I’ll never forget my close friend that said, “Oh yes it is.” 

Let me tell you why.

Love,

Allison

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Hello Humans!  Who else has been wild edging through transitions and wobbles!  I made you a check in episode – to let you know a bit of the behind the scenes as we sort our shit out with laughter and compassion! Lots of little bite sized good things in this episode! Enjoy! 

Love, Allison 

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Welcome!

Recently I made a giant decision in my business AND I’ve been known to make giant decisions.
The last time was in 2011 and the time before that was in 2009.

I do remember the last two times and I remember the emotional difficulty of the last two times.

No, I’m not freaking out and the reason I’m not freaking out,

I know how to manage my scared parts so much better than the last time I made a big decision like this,
I live below my means

AND

I can do this because I have the skills.

Love,

Allison

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I’m Allison Crow and we are interrupting your often frequently deep and emotional philosophical personal development contact for a business check.

This is a podcast for business owners.

Welcome to those who aren’t business owners. If you listen, that’s fun!

I’m gonna be discussing what I’m noticing in the market, right!?

What I’m noticing in the economic climate, what I’m noticing in sales and what some of my research and peers are showing me around sales.

Then the second half is things you can do to shore up and be successful in a shifting economy and a shifting market.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Apply to become a member of the Soulies Self-Leadership Coaching Membership, where we have weekly life and business coaching calls for small business owners and a community of Soul-Full humans doing this thing called life.  

Book a One on One Connection/Discovery Session

Support Rescue Dogs:
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Hey, this is Allison and this is a two part episode.

The first part I recorded as a road riff, and it’s about the magic of getting out of the house.
Then stay tuned for what the Magic Act really was.

I wanna tell you what the magic was and it wasn’t what we expect.

Love,

Allison

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PS:  Camp Cultivate is May 7-11 in the Austin, Texas area- we will be exploring the theme of The Wild Edge of Being Human and how to actually BE in the edges.  It’s a small and intimate event this year.  Find out more at Camp Cultivate 2023

Apply to become a member of the Soulies Self-Leadership Coaching Membership, where we have weekly life and business coaching calls for small business owners and a community of Soul-Full humans doing this thing called life.  

You Can Message Me:

allison@allisoncrow.com
IG: @allison_crow
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Ah, the imperfection of the human experience. You are not doing it wrong if it feels hard, or bad, or disconnected.  You are not screwing up your kids, you didn’t marry the wrong person, and your business is not destined for failure. I see so many clients struggle with the normal human imperfection of life – we make up these stories and live in a society that imposes the outcome of perfection. When it isn’t the fairy tale, we suffer more than we need to because we don’t know how to be in the wild edges of being human.   I hate the phrase “love what is.” It feels so “bypassy” – and there is a way to “BE with” that IS loving what is – it is the verb of love – not the fluffy ideal of love.  

Come play with me in the imperfection of this glorious thing called life.  

PS:  Camp Cultivate is May 7-11 in the Austin, Texas area- we will be exploring the theme of The Wild Edge of Being Human and how to actually BE in the edges.  It’s a small and intimate event this year.  Find out more at Camp Cultivate 2023

Grab your free Life AND Business Values Clarification Guide here. 

Apply to become a member of the Soulies Self-Leadership Coaching Membership, where we have weekly life and business coaching calls for small business owners and a community of Soul-Full humans doing this thing called life.  

Love, Allison 

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This is the wild edge of being human, a podcast for business owners.

I wanna talk about recovering from difficult seasons and transitioning out of a difficult season,
and wouldn’t it be nice if just one day the hard stopped and the ease started again?
But that’s not generally how it works.

Y’all know that everybody has seasons where life just beats you down.

I think there is a difference between standing in the suffering and rubbing it all over your face and glorifying the suffering,
but we are human beings even if we’re spiritual beings having a human experience.

We are human and we are here living this human life and that means it is full of blessings and it is full of challenges and hard shit.

There’s no going back. There’s only becoming who you are.

Love, 

Allison

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Resources:

Soulies Coaching Membership: Soulies: Self Leadership Society

My Book:  Unarmored: Finding Home in The Wild Edges of Being Human.

Live Coaching Retreat & Event:  Camp Cultivate in May 7-11

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Hello, Soul-full humans.

Today we are talking about coping skills and self-trust.

Coaching is an art and science of behavior.
Wouldn’t it be fun if we were actually as easy as change your thinking, change your life,
and yes, I used to believe it was that simple for many years.

I’m so sorry. I didn’t know what I know now.
Just changing our thinking can be a gross oversimplification.
It leaves millions of people frustrated and fleeced.

One of many significant determiners, not the only one, but one of many is not just our thinking or our emotions,
but actually our habitual and subconscious attempts not to feel shame, rejection, fear, sadness, disconnection, and other uncomfortable or painful emotions.

These attempts show up as coping mechanisms that serve as armored protection from these feelings.

Cheers to you on your journey of SELF-Trust.  

And #icanhelpwiththat – if you are ready to build your self-trust skills, here are a few ways I can support you:

This is the work I am helping my business owner clients do. These are the conversations in my book Unarmored: Finding Home in The Wild Edges of Being Human. This is some of the focus of my live event Camp Cultivate in May, and this is the foundation from which we do group life and business coaching in my small membership program, Soulies: Self Leadership Society. 

Love, 

Allison

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Today’s episode is about the practice of tending.

I wanna tell you a story of how I went from depression to the most creative productivity in a very holy way, not a way of scarcity.

Though I might feel a bit rusty and stiff,
tending with love to the practices that invoke blessing outside and inside are what create the experiences that I actually want to live.

Life’s success isn’t about big moments, it’s about regular tending.

What wants to be tended in your inner world, especially in your heart?
What wants to be tended to in your body?
What wants to be tended to in your relationships?
What wants to be tended to in your business?

Tending is the act that invokes the blessing you are waiting for. 

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Camp Cultivate link

Soulies Coaching Membership Application and Information page 

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Hey Hey, This is Episode 190 and it’s the truck episode. Yup, I’m in the truck. 

Today’s episode on this little road riff is about validation.

I’ve had some pretty profound and powerful insights about validation over the last couple years
and I come to you as someone whose little parts inside were so hungry for validation most of my life & still are. 

They were burdened with their need for validation. Validation from others. Validation for connection.
Validation of approval. Validation of agreement. Validation of my complaints.

There’s something around invisibility for me.

There’s something around the most wounded parts of me, frankly, that is sourced from going to a religious school.
I was taught that my validation was in my goodness, my behavior and the avoidance of sin.

There’s a couple things that I was taught over and over again in my school setting that made the little girl in me believe that if I were bad or if I were displeasing, that I would disappear. Literally evaporate.

So I’ve made those connections now and I can see so many ways where I spent most of my life.

Validation is a legitimate need and I am learning to become that source of self acknowledgement.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hello, Soul-Full People.

Today I have something special for you. I am doing some recordings for my marketing team that are excerpts from my book:

Unarmored, Finding Home In The Wild Edges Of Being Human

While there won’t be an audio book for a while,
the hard back and digital copies of the book are coming out next week on December 6th.

I’m super excited & I wanted to give all my podcast listeners some sneak audio listens.

So today I’m gonna be sharing some excerpts from the book.

I have no idea what order they were actually in but I hope they will touch your heart.
I hope they will wet your appetite and get you excited for this book that is coming out.

I so appreciate your support and your excitement and your encouragement and your time and attention
to listening to the work that I create that is for all of us on this human journey.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

To find out more about the book & get on the list:
allisoncrow.com/unarmoredthebook

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hello human, it’s Allison.

I see this thing that so many people are doing. I do it to myself too, and I’m working on changing this thing.

I just see so much suffering on top of suffering and I see so much judgment.

There’s a couple of core and identity beliefs I hear come through my clients, most human beings & even super successful people on a regular basis.

It’s not from their true self, it’s a part, but that part says you’re doing it wrong, you’re doing it wrong.

The part shoulds, “you should this.”

There is so much obligation and self-judgment.

What if you didn’t judge it That circumstance, that already miserable thing that happened.

What if you didn’t judge it.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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This one is good!

I got some good shit for you today.

Okay Allison, what does the Wild Edge of Being Human have to do with business?

This is the way it’s always been and it’s taken me almost 18 years to get some language for it.

I don’t know if you know, but I am a strategic process expert.

Whatever you think I’m an expert at. What it really is, is strategy.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hey, hey, Soul-Full people on The Wild Edge of Being Human.

Today I want to talk about the illustrious alignment.

I wanna talk about today is some bullshit I see people doing to themselves in the personal development industry.

I get it. I’ve done it to myself and I’m completely over it.

It’s about pointing out some suffering that we are stepping in to suffering that need not be.

There’s not enoughness this, you’re doing it wrong.

This white knuckling, gripping to grow, gripping to get an alignment and it’s actually the thing that’s keeping you from finding your flow and your alignment.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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I’ve got some stories I want to tell y’all.

This story has to do with the number one thing I see every day in the service based business world that service based business owners are not doing. 

Oprah ain’t coming. Oprah ain’t coming.

No one is coming to pick you out of obscurity and so it is your job to bet on yourself.

Love,

Allison

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Let’s talk about The Wild Edge Of Being Human.

Hello, soul-full listeners. My name is Allison Crow and I’m just gonna hop into it.

Today I’m gonna share a little bit about the zeitgeist of The Wild Edge of Being Human but first I wanna tell you where I see my people suffering.

I see my people suffering in the narrows.

Person after person after person after person suffering in the shoulds & in the “You’re doing it wrong” stories they tell themselves in their heads.

I see my people suffering in the way they force themself with shame to get back in alignment.

I see my people suffering for not being at the lesson of a difficulty quite yet.
I see my people suffering with the second sword of judgment

The Wild Edges of Being Human is about the space you have yet to really let yourself compassionately go.

You’ve been forcing yourself into the narrow and rigid, either/or, into the goodness or badness or positive or negative or failure or success.

You’ve been forcing yourself into the polarities instead of compassionately allowing for nuance.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Victoria’s Secret song lyrics by Jax

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Good Morning Soul-Full Business Owners!

It’s Allison Crow, I’m recording episode number 183 of my podcast and my podcast is debuting with a new name:

The Wild Edge of Being Human, A Podcast for Soul-Full Small Business Owners

I’ve known that this episode needed to go out today, and I’ve been shoulding all over myself about it.

Like I really need to do this debut episode making sense and explaining the name change and what The Wild Edge of Being Human actually means and I just got stuck.

So here’s an interesting that happened, I came in & I decided.

I came to sit down at my desk and at my desk is the glorious residue from yesterday’s creative spell.
I was like, why don’t I just do an episode on values.
Creating your values list and your credibility list, because I updated mine yesterday.

The new updated version is on my website in a couple places, and it’s something I taught my clients last week and that’s what feels easy and in flow and creative and where the mojo is.

And then it hit me.

This is what The Wild Edge of Being Human is about.
The nuance of the nuance of not following the shoulds, the nuance of following your creativity instead of the rules or the structure. 

Believe me, I love having systems but I don’t recommend creating systems for creativity.

I recommend creating using creativity and anytime I’ve got those shoulds in there, the system is not supporting my creativity.

Love,

Allison

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Okay, There are two parts to this episode.

There is the before Santa Fe part, there is the after Santa Fe part and I do not find it coincidental.
There’s before heart attack and after heart attack.
And so this is a two part episode. All in one episode.

This is the final episode of The Better Life, Better Work Show.

Next week when you tune back It will be a new podcast title.

Love,

Allison

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This is episode 181 of the Better Life Better Work show.

I’m Alison Crow and I am here in my office, not in my truck, miraculously.
I am in my office painting and drawing for my forthcoming book.

We have a December 6th publish date. It’ll be ready before then, but I didn’t wanna publish in November.
I don’t know why. Just the energies of December 1st week of December felt really good to me.

So, you can expect my glorious book in December, I’m excited, the title is called Unarmed.
We do not have a subtitle yet.

What I wanna do today is give you a little bit of an update, both personally and professionally.
It has been, for me, a really emotional summer.

And there is a part of me that as I get calm and grounded,
and as I have been through the unhinged swampy swamp bug soup of the summer of 2022,
I’m ready.

I’m ready to take stock. I’m ready to clear the clutter. Definitely ready to clear the clutter.
I am ready to hone in on some of the beautiful things I wanna share with you.

Love,

Allison

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I would like to have calm and happy.

Calm is one of my gateway, entry ways, of cultivating self energy, of cultivating source energy & of cultivating presence.

As many of you know, but I’m gonna go ahead and repeat over and over and over again, for those of us, all of us in the front, in the middle, in the back on the sides, not even here, that need to be reminded because we weren’t reminded from birth that…

A calm, nervous system is everything I know.

Your nervous system, that is connected to your brain and  runs through your entire body can be in a state of calm and relaxation and regulation.

It can also be slightly aroused, alerted on anticipatory noticing that something might be up and then it can be completely fucking hijacked.

Calm is primary

Love,

Allison

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What’s up?nbsp;I wanna share something.

This is a recording of a video I did last year that popped up in my memories on Facebook and the second I started listening I knew I had to share this content with you because I still see it happen.

I know this episode will help you and hopefully put a gently loving fire under your booty.  

I don’t think a lot of people realize what the direct expense of sometimes getting businesses is and what sometimes the indirect expense of getting business is.

You don’t have to do ads. You can, if you want, you don’t have to do cold calls, but you know what you gotta do?

You gotta show up in the room!

When you’re watching, you’re only getting what you can get, you’re not giving what you can give.

You don’t have to talk about your work but who you be in the room builds trust.

You build trust and it leads to more sales. 

Love,

Allison

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It’s another car episode. 

Today I wanna just do a little riff on Unarmored, Unarmored Being, Unarmored Leadership. 

I am definitely no master, but I am committed to the path.

I’m gonna tell you what y’all…
You commit to an authentic soulful life. I don’t know what it means for you. 
I can tell you that for me an authentic life means being committed to a true life. 

To this glorious human life that has shown up in the themes of my work over the last few years as:
Both/And, Woman of Range, Authentic and Ambitious, More is Not Better Better is Better, Feel it All & Lead Your Parts. 

Unarmored is worth it and it’s intense sometimes.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Here comes another car episode!

Last week was intense.

Last week was the week that the Supreme Court of the United States really overreached
and not just one decision, Roe V Wade, but in many decisions. 

It just shows me how much we trust “the systems.” 

We trust faith.
We trust faith because we were told everything will work out.

We have this innate belief in the highest good of all happening and for many, many, many years
I was what I call a delusional optimist.

I didn’t know I was delusional then, but I was an optimist.
Y’all I am a glass half full gal and now I’m not, but I am.
Um, so it’s interesting, right?

I just have a fire in my belly I wanna share with y’all about self trust.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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This is Alison Crow and Karen Goldfinger Baker and this is episode number 176 of the Better Life Better Work Show.
I have one of my favorite unfuckery guests here.

We’re gonna be talking about Leadership Trauma. I have my own version of what leadership trauma is because I experienced it and Karen has a different concept hypothesis that she’s gonna share with us.

Enjoy!

Love,

Allison

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Resources:
Karen Goldfinger Baker
Trauma Hiders Club Podcast with Karen Goldfinger Baker
Facebook: Trauma Hiders Club Podcast
Instagram: Karen Goldfinger Baker

Books Mentioned:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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I’m here with Dr. Erin M Baker,  Dr. E is a fellow coach and this episode is another IFS Jam – where we just visit and exchange ideas and stories about Internal Family Systems Coaching, nuances we are learning through experience, and valuable updates on how this work is serving our clients and ourselves.  So much is out in the world about IFS as a therapy modality, and it is a legit coaching modality, too.  

Enjoy our conversation!

Love,

Allison

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Resources:
Dr. Erin M Baker

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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I have a quick episode for you today. I want to share an important IFS tip, especially for those who have kind of doing their own lay work and you haven’t had official training. 

This is one of the best, most important things that my very first IFS coach slash therapist shared with me on our second session, almost in passing, but it changed everything.

In IFS there is a distinction between care taking parts and self energy, capital S E L F. 

My very first exposure to IFS was with leadership coach, Rebecca Ching. 

On our second call, she was like, oh, by the way, don’t coach your parts.

Now I can translate that to don’t teach your parts, don’t parent your parts and don’t coach your parts.
There is a presence, an acclimation with self energy, that is so powerful for all these parts that try to control and fix everything.

These are called Care Taking Parts.

Model of SELF-Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles of IFS

To slow the process down and to allow yourself and your parts to attune. Energetically & physically, without words for a moment just to be in the presence. Just the powerful witness and listening will soften the tension in these parts and they will relax and let self lead.

There are eight “C”s of Self:

Calm, Connected. Compassionate. Curious. Confident. Creative. Clear. and Courageous.
There is no specific order.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:
Rebecca Ching, LMFT, Leadership Developer

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Ep 173 of the Better Life Better Work Show and today’s podcast topic is about why I made the shift full-on into IFS coaching.

Yes, IFS is used in therapeutic settings.  It originated years ago in the clinical realm and has since spread to education, medicine, business, and coaching.  

When my coach/therapist/leadership coach introduced me to IFS by giving me a handful of books the first one I read was
Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. 

2 pages in and I felt the openness and shift in my whole being. 

Since then, and after over 18 months of intense training and study, with my coaches, and the IFS Institue, I’ve been profoundly impacted by the effectiveness of using this framework.  I’ve experienced the results as a client, and I’ve seen the shifts in my business-owner clients. So much of coaching tends to push task-first tactics…and IFS helps me and my clients build SELF-Trust and relationships first.  

So many of the things small business owners struggle with are held brilliantly through the IFS lens.
Building #selfleadership works personally and professionally.

Enjoy the episode. 

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model by Ph.D. Richard C. Schwartz

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Today this little episode is about what gives me hope when the world is shit and it doesn’t come from a place of airy fairy, it comes from a place of sitting with despair. 

Yesterday was a day where physically and emotionally and in the world I felt despair and today I feel totally different because I remember a few things. 

I want to be somebody who swings wide. 

I want to be somebody, a woman of range, and I want to be somebody who is engaged in both the despair and the hope of this glorious life that we live.

And

When I both pull out and get really broad, I remember and see that there is also good.
There is really hard and there is good.

And

When I can really give myself presence and connection, hope comes back.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hey, this is Alison Crow, welcome to the Better Life Better Work Show. This is episode number 171. It’s been a while since I’ve recorded an official podcast. I’ve done some driving in the car updates and honestly I feel wobbly and out of practice and there’s a lot going on in the world and there’s a lot going on in my life and there’s a lot going on in my family and there’s a lot going on when I talk to my clients.

Like there is so much going on. 

Good, disruptive, personal, professional and so I’m calling it wonky times and today’s podcast episode is probably, as all of mine are, perfectly imperfect.

So with that today, what I’m going to share with you is a concept that I’m chewing like a cow chewing on her cud. I’m marinating in standard operating procedures for wonky times.

Standard operating procedures aren’t about what we do every day.

They’re about how we operate and what procedures do we use under certain circumstances
It’s thick, it’s unusual circumstances and for some reason, which is perfectly normal, all these things are happening at once, which is okay.

Maybe it’s happening at once to you.

Hello. I see you. I’m here for you. You are not alone. 

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hey, it’s going to be another on the road podcast with Alison Crow,
your favorite life and business coach, your favorite Self Leadership coach.

I know that I’ve been a little AWOL and here’s what we’re going to do today.

I’m going to give you an update.

I feel like sharing with you some real life things that are going on behind the scenes.

Y’all know as business owners there are things that happen in your life that impact the rest of your life,
your family, business, et cetera.

I don’t feel like a victim. I feel like a human being, living life.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

EP 104: You are a Gardener Not a Machine

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Last night I went to bed, um, feeling the weight of the world, feeling the experience of caring too much and not being able to help enough. 

I’ve talked to a couple of clients this week that have also felt the weight of responsibility and have so much going on in both their personal lives and in the world and then they feel guilty for complaining.

Many of my loving, wonderful heart-centered people are over-functioning. 

You are carrying responsibilities, especially emotionally that are not yours, because you are afraid of the disconnection that may come when you disappoint people.

One minute you’re fine and then the next minute at 11 o’clock in bed, you’re laying in bed feeling like, oh my God, I care too much.

I want to share something with you that absolutely helps this.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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I feel something strange and what I feel that is strange is because of my one thing, a slight perspective shift, nurturing practices.

Some may call them habits but habits feel a little too harsh for me.

You can’t really change your thinking and it’s really difficult to change your actions when your nervous system is fried.
I’ve spent the last five years slowing the fuck down, slowing down, slowing down.

We tend to go fast so that we don’t have to connect with ourselves.

It took me three years of slowing down physically to be able to start to emotionally really connect inside.
What came out of that?

Presence, presence with myself. 

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Welcome to another riding in the car at the episode with Allison. 
So it is, this is episode number 167

Everybody is struggling with something you don’t know about. 

There’s a lot of stuff going on so I just want to acknowledge your humanness with so much compassion. 

I see it everywhere, human beings trying to escape their own truth, trying to escape their connection with themselves because 50% of being human is really difficult and we have been trained to avoid and to bypass and to not feel.

Our humanness is holy and I’m really passionate about this. 

It has been my purpose all along. It may have come in different names, but my purpose is to give my clients the luxury experience of coming home to themselves.

Come home to you.

I don’t know what that means to you. What it means to come home to me is that as I welcome myself I find that I have more compassion for the world about me & around me.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hey, Hey, I have an important distinction for my recovering overachiever, high performing Gen X business people who also grew up or maybe are still in faith-based communities.

Faith versus trust. 

We mix those two up. We mix faith and trust up. Faith is something we have in religion. Faith is something we have in magic. Faith is something we have even in quantum physics.

Faith is evidence and belief in the unseen. 

Many of us that grew up with the language of, “Have faith in God and trust God” mix those two things up and because we’re taught at a very young age to have faith in something unseen, we don’t actually understand the power of why we can trust ourselves.

You can gather evidence of faith but trust takes time on task. 

I trust in the processes that I do to create the results. 

You actually can trust your results because you do put time and effort into the things that create your results.

This is just an invitation to begin the journey of what would it look like What would it sound like How would I be with myself?nbsp; What are, what are the things that I can do that I can trust?

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hello Hello! 

So here’s the thing… y’all know. Y’all know, don’t you?nbsp;

You know, you know exactly what you need to do to hit the result you need.
Let’s tell some fucking truth to yourself about why you’re not getting the results.

Tell yourself the truth about why you’re not getting the results that you want. 

You’re not getting the results that you want because you are letting your fears and your insecurities lead, instead of saying, fuck it I’m going to do the thing. 

Share your fucking work and show your fucking heart.

I want to hear your heart. I want to hear who you’re being in the world.
I want to hear what you crave. I want to hear what you struggle with. 
I want to hear what you’re overcoming

The number one thing I see that people screw up:

They do not decide to be visible. They do not decide to be visible as a way of being. 

The mistake you’re making is you’re not being visible. You’re not sharing your fucking heart. You’re not showing your fucking work.
You’re over-complicating it.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
www.coachwithallison.com

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Hey, Hey, it’s been a while since I recorded a podcast.

I pretty much have taken all of February off… little life drama in a couple of areas going on and I just made space for myself to not be constantly creating. So this is episode number 164 and today we’re going to talk about dumb goals. 

You’ve heard of smart goals: Specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time based. 

Yeah, I get it. If that works for you, this podcast may not be for you. This episode may not be for you. 
What’s the opposite of smart… dumb. We’re an acronym for goals. That works. 

Dumb Goals: Don’t Underestimate My Being

How do you set being goals?nbsp;

Being is about cultivating your identity, cultivating your beliefs & cultivating your energy.

How you adjust the way you be with yourself in the world takes time and practice. It takes presence.
It takes a willingness to come back to yourself over and over and over and over again… and it is the most glorious fucking journey I’ve ever been on.

And it is the most glorious fucking journey I invite you to be on.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/https://allison-crow.mykajabi.com/soulies-self-leadership-society-signup

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This episode is going to be a little different.

I have a bunch of little snack size insights for you all. 

When I’m on coaching calls, I have a stack of note cards and I write these little insights and ideas that I have and I wanted to share some of these shorter insights in the form of little appetizers. 

Okay, Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Internal Family Systems is an experiential model and I’m experiencing it many different ways.

I’m experiencing it as a student, in trainings and practicums. I’m experiencing it as a client and I have just started my own personal therapy with an IFS therapist. I am also doing IFS inspired coaching with my clients.

So I’m definitely into Self-Leadership and this week the insight around IFS was so dang juicy.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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Oh, I got something for you today. 

I want to talk about Internal safety and Self Leadership.

I’m working with my clients right now on some inner work that’s disguised as a visibility challenge.
This is a compassionate challenge that’s meant to bring up your shit so that we can love on it and then upgrade our beliefs.

For a lot of small business owners, especially heart-centered people, visibility is a big thing. 
For many people putting themselves out there and putting their work out there bumps up against a bunch of stuff.

I can’t guarantee external safety but what I can support you with and help you is cultivating internal safety.

I just want you to consider all the places you look for safety.
Are you looking for safety and the approval in the likes, in your sales numbers, in your weight?

All the love you want is inside of you, all the safety you want is inside of you.

In internal family systems, the parts of us that are scarcity and needy and all these other things, those are protectors. 
They’re trying to protect us from a threat they experience is real thus the phrase, Self Leadership.

How will you lead yourself In a chaotic world?

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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This is Episode Number 161 and the First Episode of 2022!

Y’all something’s clicked in.

I knew it would. Something’s clicked in over here at Allison Crow land, not just professionally, but personally. As I record this I am one month and one day from my 50th birthday.

I’ve had a few knowings most of my life and then those have come into clarity and resolution more recently. Today is one of those days where I can stand in the present moment and I can survey the world around me and I can survey my own personal history, my inner work, the whole thing and it all makes sense… and I know that is an extraordinary place to be.

If you’re not in a place like that, where you can connect all the dots and have complete trust and faith and almost a giddy self-knowing, then trust that it’s available to you. 

There certainly have been many times when I was in the dark shadow of not specifically knowing,
but I always held on to the deeper knowing.

So that’s what we’re going to talk about today… 

I’m having some major noticing that I can’t wait to share with you.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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Hello humans, soulful humans, human humans. 

I’m going to be sharing some lessons I learned and some things that I could think of that had a big impact on me this year that I think will also have a big impact on you.

I learn entirely too many lessons for any sane person. I do have a few things I want to share with you that were very, very impactful.

Now here’s the other paradigm I’m coming from at this moment. This weekend is Christmas and by the time you hear this Christmas may be over and New Years will be approaching. 

Some years I absolutely use the end of the year and the beginning of the year as a catalyst for change, reflection, et cetera.

I’m not necessarily saying that New Year’s day is just another day, although I kind of am saying it. This year I’m just a little less mountain top experience and more feet on the ground boring walks, but boring walks make a massive movement in my life. 

The things I have learned in no particular order

Boredom my dear friends is actually a beautiful luxury that your mind does not want to settle with. 

Receiving: I like reciprocal relationships. 

Wounds: Don’t buy or sell from your wounds, come from your creative self. 

No amount, no amount of money, no amount of clients can solve your inability to know and trust yourself.

2021, I both love you and I’m so ready for you to be over. 

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

Podcast Episode: How To Actually BE YOU
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-better-life-better-work-show/id1202587247?i=1000527016380

Branding with Jillian Dudek @ Brand Barre

Books:
You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For (Internal Family Systems) by Richard C. Schwartz

Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz

Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy – Jay Early

The Power of Receiving: A Revolutionary Approach to Giving Yourself the Life You Want and Deserve by Amanda Owen

Music:

Janet Jackson – What Have You Done For Me Lately

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I want to talk about curiosity today and I want to talk about curiosity when difficult emotions show up.

When comparison shows up.

When paradox, doubt.  When depression shows up. When overthinking shows up.
When perfectionism shows up. When shame shows up. When overwhelm or low energy shows up.
When procrastination shows up. When the frustration of being over committed shows up.

When you’re finding yourself really hypersensitive to rejection.

When you’re feeling burnout, anxiety, unable to sleep, or the simple, the simple, the simple clutter and overstimulation of the world we live in.When you find yourself people pleasing or over or under functioning. 

What’s your normal response

What have you been taught to do by society What is your subconscious automatic non-intentional response to these difficult emotions, experiences & states. What I want to offer today is the skill and the connection tool of building curiosity with these parts of yourself.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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Hello Soul-Full business owners.

There are all kinds of business owners out there and as long as people are ethical, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the different kinds of business owners. I want to share an insight, especially for you heart centered business owners who also want to do well in your business.

Fall in love with your work again and that will solve all your marketing problems. 

When I focus on the work, my clients, sharing my heart & showing my work, learning my work, embodying my work. When that’s the focus, I am inspired to build my business and to make offerings and to help people.

When I focus on what energizes me according to my personal values it increases my income.

My business building focus check today is: Readjust your focus and your priorities.

Focus on the work and the joy will come

When I love my work, I do all the things I already know how to do to build a million dollar business.

There’s a whole new wave of people who build a business to be doing work they love and earning money and I just want you to check in about your values and priorities. Valuing money first is not a problem if that’s your true value, if money is important to you, but if the work is more important to you, focus on the work and it will motivate you to make the money.

My second:  Create an excitement list, a focus list. What do I want to focus?nbsp;

It is so easy to sell something that you are passionately in love with. 

It is so easy for all the marketing to come up when you are energized and made alive by the work that you love that you are in love with. 

I created a 2022 excitement list. What am I excited about?

I have created more for my business. I have gotten more accomplished behind the scenes and the front of scenes from this one list and do you know there is not a to-do on this. 

Please set your goals based on excitement and creativity and joy and not performance. 

What is  your priority Which one is your north star For me, my north star is the work that I love

Create from your joy, your love, your interests, your values, instead of from your needing to prove yourself.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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Hello, Smart and Soulful Business Owners

I’ve been learning some stuff and I’m going to share it with you because I want you to learn it too and I don’t want it to have to take you 50 years to learn.

What I want to tell you is about these fucking fire ants. 

I’ve tried to use my brain to solve the problems of my heart and thus depression, thus anxiety, thus overthinking.

A couple of months ago, I hit some really deep pockets in my own personal work and there were parts of me that did not like that I was going down into my body to feel some shit I really needed to feel.  

I went over to my friend Laura’s house for a girl’s night and parked in her driveway. The next day I had ants all over my car, my truck was covered in ants, fire ants. It took me about a week to fully get rid of ants.

Then a few weeks later, I was really angry and my husband was struggling with some stuff too. I said, you know what I need to get some of this anger out so we go out to the lake by my house, we park the truck and we get out.

He’s angry and I’m angry. We’re not angry at each other and I said, “Hey, yell at the sky and the lake.”

He just looks at me like I’m fucking nuts and I’m yelling and I’m like, “Fuck so-and-so fuck and fuck so-and-so and this inner work is hard.”

All of a sudden I looked down and my tennis shoes and socks were covered in fire ants that were stinging me.

What is your instinct to get the fire ants off?nbsp;

Immediately, my whole body starts moving. I’m flapping, hitting my clothes to make them shake off, shaking my foot and also taking my hands to brush them off as fast as I can. 

My fire ant bites are still healing and I posted something like, “Trying to get rid of my rage and then I got bit from all these ants.” One of my clients was like, wow, you’ve got a lot of fire ant animal medicine. I wonder what the fire ants were trying to teach you.

I was like, “Nothing! My life is garbage! I just stand in fucking fire ants!

The other day I’m working my processes and I’m actually really listening to my emotions. I’m in partnership and in dialogue with them and I asked my depression, what information do you have for me?

And she says, “We are clogged with emotion and feeling. There are some things you actually need to feel and you need to stomp into the ground, you need to move this out of your body.” 

So I go for a walk. I’m walking and stomping and the more I’m complaining, the more the emotions well up and the more my brain sees the places my heart needs me to witness and discharge some of my grief.

Discharge it through tears, awareness isn’t enough. 

Yesterday I’m going back and debriefing my own experience of how did I clear that up so fast Wouldn’t it be nice if I could move emotions through me more quickly, because after I moved these emotions, I’ve experienced a lot of vitality and flow and clarity that I’ve been really missing for awhile.

When you unclog the your pipes, the water can flow and my body then reminds me of the fire ants.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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How the 8 Cs of Internal Family System can support your work.

IFS is a non pathologizing evidenced based model. It’s a means of working with our many thoughts, emotions, beliefs, behaviors and different parts of ourselves that make up the natural multiplicity of the human mind. It was developed by Richard Schwartz.

A part of me feels confident, a part of me feels insecure and a part of me knows this but why can’t I do it. 

For years many people I know including myself have already spoken to ourselves about a “part of me this and a part of me that.”

One of the things that Richard Schwartz realized is that there were 8 Cs of self energy.
Whenever he was talking with his clients and they seemed to be in a centered higher self state he noticed that they were Calm, Connected, Compassionate, Curious, Confident, Creative, Clear and Courageous. 

The idea of Internal Family Systems is to be Self Led.

Characteristics of SELF are the Cs.
When I focus on the energies of calm, connected, compassionate and curious, they are actually the energies and embodied behaviors I need to give myself and my parts so that I can be confident, creative, clear and courageous in my business. 

Here is the formula:

When I am able to be with all my thinking parts.
I can experience it from Self and notice my parts.

So from a place of the first four Cs…
I calm myself – Hello I see that you are here.
Compassion – I am here for you, what would you like me to know?
Curious – I start asking it questions.

When I was able to be the first 4Cs and listen to the parts old old old fears came up that have nothing to do with my business right now.

When I am able to respond to that part of me and witness their story and what they want me to know from that from calm, connected, compassionate, curious place then all the sudden that part of me that feels depressed literally begins to relax and says thank you for listening.

When I’m feeling off the first thing to do is to get Calm and get Curious and when I do that what happens is the confidence, creativity, clarity and courage rise up. 

WE can’t just snap into, “I’m gonna be courageous.”  We can take brave action and become courageous. Most of these parts are protective. They don’t want you to feel bad, break or get you rejected.  You know the parts that keep you invisible.  The parts that keep you from doing the things you know to support and sustain you.

When we are wanting to create confidence, creativity , clarity and courage to take beautiful loving bold action in our business if there is something in the way take the time to be calm connected compassionate and curious and it actually heals what those blocks are instead of shoving those blocks in a corner to get stronger later.

Instead of going away from resistance, we are learning to go towards the resistant parts and figure out what they need, what they are afraid of and how we can best support them… and when we do they chill out, step back and let Self lead.

I take the time to be calm connected compassionate and curious with those heavy parts in a 10 minute journal exercise and that leads me to being confident creative clear and courageous.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Two Coaches Nerd Out about Internal Family Systems with Dr. Erin M. Baker
/blbw149/

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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Hey Hey!

I am excited today to bring you this episode. It is actually a “how to” episode.

I want to share with you a tool I created that I use in my business that comes in handy when there are ebbs. 
All you need is a journal and your heart and your values and some things that you probably already know about your clients and customers.

How to create content gold especially when you don’t feel creative Share Your Heart Show Your Work Style.
For many years I had a program called Share Your Heart Show Your Work, it is a marketing class as a way of connecting and relating and serving your audience. 

Today I want to talk about my Content Gold Journal.

What’s in this journal, How to create your own and Why you want it.

I actually like creating my own content because I feel like it. 
I want the connection from my heart to come through my words or come through my images for my people, that’s the way I do things.

I use to just create on the whim, on the fly, and I got wrapped up into the days when I didn’t feel like posting or sharing or writing an email. 
I got into that mental anxiety about “I don’t know what to post,” or that whole “I haven’t posted in a few days” stress and this stopped that. 

The first thing I have in my Content Gold Journal is a series of “I Ams.” 

I always want to start with remembering my beliefs.
It helps me remember the place I want to come from when I’m marketing.

The very first list I have in here is my business brand values, my Core Values.  
I extrapolated on these in my journal so that I can see that list at anytime.
A while back I did a private branding values clarification session.
It really helped me get clarity on what I want to talk about with you, why I want to talk about it and communicating my values.
On my website is a download for a values clarification workbook. 

The second list is your client’s pains and problems.
I can give value to my clients so that in a post I can start out with the problem and lean towards a solution. 

Take your business values, offerings and the work that you do and you can begin to create little bullet point ideas in your journal.
You are giving yourself a content garden and you are planting seeds in your content journal to come back to later when you are wanting to create content.

What I like is not having to pull this out of my head and not having to plan ahead.

As a creative heart centered spirit, I’m a Gardner not a machine. 
I didn’t want to create in a mechanical way, but I don’t want to leave it just to inspiration. 

My Content Gold Journal is an inspiration book based on the topics and conversations and problems and solutions my ideal clients have and anytime I open it up it’s going to strike my inspiration. 

Create yourself a Content Gold Book so that on days when you’d like to love on your audience or give a little bit to your business and you’re not feeling creative or you’re feeling kind of puny, you can pull out your Content Gold Book and I guarantee you something will connect with your own heart and your own book and you can give that with minimal effort and energy to your audience.

Love,

Allison

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Resources:

Private Branding Sessions with my friend Tiffany Scott: 
Tiffany@YouMeSheCollective.com 

Core Values Workbook:
/corevalues/

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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Hey Hey Soulful Humans! 

I’m driving home through my hometown of Austin, Texas.
There is an energy I feel from driving through the center of this town that puts a smile on my face 🙂

Life Happens and I want to remind you:
You are a Soul-Full human living a human life.
You are a Soul-Full being living a human life.
From one human to another, I want to acknowledge your humanness.

You look at everything on your plate and some things get moved to the side for temporary reasons.
I need my load to be as reasonable as possible.
There is a part of my brain that is like you’re doing it wrong, there is a part of me that is very rigid.

The timelines are all artificial. I have control over the timelines. 

I can lovingly and powerfully remind you that you are human, you can decide what you can and can’t control…
and out of what you can control what you are willing to set down for a while?

What’s important and urgent What’s important and not urgent What’s urgent and not important What’s not urgent and not important?

What is in your load that is just a story?
What are you making up that you have to do?
What is the modification that you need to make?

There is an “over-hustling” that ends up with a negative balance, your emotional Profit and Loss.
What is the point in creating a fiscal financial profit if there is an emotional loss.

Give yourself permission to not compete with some made up expectation.

Wherever you are is perfect right now.
You are living your purpose by breathing right now.

Take off all the stories, take off all the contrived and give yourself permission to live the life and the energetic and physical and emotional balancing that feels right for you right now.

Love,

Allison

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Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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 Inner Authority. 

To what are you unconsciously or consciously giving your authority and autonomy.

By taking time to do some really deep inner work and listening to the parts of us that need our attention, we can begin to trace back to the moments we bent and died to the authorities imposed on us. 

Now I see all the places and systems and people and religions and practices and books and therapists and husbands and boyfriends and parents and teachers and movies to which I gave my inner authority.

People-pleasing starts young.

As a child, many of us meld to the authority around us.

There are all kinds of systems for all kinds of people.

As a child, I was brought up in the system that you are not good unless you give your authority away. 
So I realized in order to feel the safety and security of love and belonging I subconsciously modified my behavior for goodness to fit in for agreement. 

Agreement became my authority. 
Following the rules became my authority.
Doing it right became my authority.

Human Design – 
I have an open head center & I’m very empathic.
Because my nervous system felt so much uncertainty I fell in line.
Follow the model. 

I know I’m human and I know you’e human and that’s what I call Human Leadership, transparent leadership.
It’s not just “vulnerability,” it’s permission for us to be human and still function.

There is a difference between creating something and running away from something.
There is a difference between choosing from the place where we finally have the authority… and choosing from readiness.

I’m stepping into my readiness to stand in my own inner authority.

What are you giving authority and autonomy to that has not earned the right?
What are you giving your authority and autonomy to that is actually harming yourself?
What are you  giving you authority and inner autonomy to that is actually re-traumatizing your childhood wounds?

First step: Identify with compassion.

There is no shame in this, we all do it as human beings.

What are you giving your authority to over and over again that is causing you to not create the life or work that you want?
A relationship Your mother’s opinion What some doctor tells you? 

Pause for a minute and take me out of your ears, I am not your authority. 
I am here to point you to your self authority, your self leadership. 

I am here to help facilitate the relationship you have with yourself so that you can walk and move and relate and decide and sell and be moving in the world as your internal beautiful powerful human authority.

Love,

Allison

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References:

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

Get your Core Values Workbook – Do the exercise once each for life and for the Spirit of your business. 

/corevalues/

Human Design:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_Design

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Marinating, Meandering, – Knowing Yourself.  For the creative souls living in a linear world.

Today I want to touch on a few insights I’ve learned over the last couple of weeks.
Let’s talk a little bit about meandering.

I’ve been reading this book over and over – The Great Work Of Your Life by Stephen Cope.
As I’m listening to this book one day, My heart burst with a truth from inside –  I’m a poet and a philosopher and I’m always trying to put myself in this linear business world. 

I’m not a linear teacher. I’m not a linear leader. 
I give myself permission to meander… to let myself wander.. even in my podcast.

What if you gave yourself permission to be unfiltered  

For those of you who are fellow creative thinkers, outliers, and what I lovingly call “weirdos,” we “pretzel” ourselves for the pleasure of others versus showing up in our meandering philosophical idea ruminating selves. 

Meandering, sweet people, smart people. Round pegs in a square hole. 
Many of us feel like we don’t belong and yet, we can make ourselves fit in anywhere. 
I can be a chameleon and adapt. Where am I at home in my own skin Where are you at home in your own skin?

Marinating is where you are taking in the environment in which you sit.

When I marinate in music, in podcasts & in right-aligned communities – I am nourished.
And when I’m in communities it can be easy to bend to ideas and take on attitudes of the room.  me.

Be aware of where you are marinating.
Is it energizing you or exhausting you Is it depleting you or supporting you. 

What activities help you thrive?
From the earth comes the things that nourish me.
Another word for marinating may be nourishment.

What is your nourishment?
Where do you thrive What paradoxes do you need to thrive in?
What would be helpful for you to marinate in?

Permission to Meander in a Linear World. 

What will you do to support your meandering when you bump up against the lines of the earth, of the world, of the society, and of the business we are in?

Just be aware of that. 
Truly know yourself.

At some point we become aware and there is no looking back.
As you become aware of the world around you, it has to change. 

I hope instead of judging your meandering self, I hope you can find delight in your way of being and give yourself one more layer of permission to be yourself.

Love,

Allison

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References: 

The Great Work Of Your Life by Stephen Cope:
https://www.stephencope.com/shop/#books

Sue Revell: Woman On A Mission Podcast
https://womenonamissionwithsuerevell.libsyn.com/episode-07-why-more-isnt-better-with-allison-crow

Core Values Exercise:
Allisoncrow.com/corevalues

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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This morning I listened to a podcast that came out where I was the guest Sue Revell’s “Woman On A Mission Podcast.” We recorded it a few weeks or months ago.

It is both vulnerable and awkward and awesome to listen to myself and that’s what my episode is about today… in more ways than one.

So often we simply don’t listen to ourselves. 

I know that we have been discouraged from listening to ourselves – is it really self-absorbent?nbsp; We are trained to listen to the world and to somebody selling us shit and the patriarchy and to the control and power systems. What if we listened to ourselves What if we listened to our truth instead of the incessant shoulds of the world outside of us. 

There are parts of my internal family and just like any family member they want to be seen and heard and be significant and might need a little guidance after they’ve had permission to share their story. 

Thoughts are always parts wanting my attention and often wanting attention in a way that doesn’t feel good and for years I shoved all that stuff down and maybe you have, too, and in a lot of ways.

Today when I listened to my episode on the “Woman On A Mission Podcast” with Sue Revell, I was like, that is some good shit. I was compassionate with myself instead of critical. I listened to my wisdom on someone else’s podcast and it helped me remember who I am not professionally as a being inside. 

A couple of weeks ago listened to my procrastination episode with Dr. Christine Li and I was like, “Dang I need that.” 

You don’t have to be on a podcast to listen to your own wisdom.  

What I am learning in these themes is, Take some time to listen to yourself. 

What if you slowed down and really heard yourself… really hear… really listen… to the parts of you that need to be heard. 

If you are repulsed by the thought of listening to yourself, I see you, maybe just take a breath and be with that repulsed part.. as we say in my program “Hello, repulsed, I see you, I won’t leave you, I’m here for you.” 

At the end of the day, I’m still gonna check-in and listen to me… and throughout the day… I’m building a relationship to listening to my whole being.. not only my words, my body, my intuition, my nudges. 

Perhaps pause the podcast and sit in some silence.. no social media input.. be with yourself and see how that feels.. see what you notice. 

I am so curious about what would be possible for you if you are able to meet all the layers of you. I love it. it’s the journey of a lifetime.

Love,

Allison

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References: 

Sue Revell: Woman On A Mission Podcast
https://womenonamissionwithsuerevell.libsyn.com/episode-07-why-more-isnt-better-with-allison-crow

Dr. Christine Li – The Procrastination Coach and the Make Time for Success Podcast”
https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/move-away-from-fear-and-scarcity-to/

Internal Family Systems

Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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Welcome to episode 150 (159 really): 

This is a landmark episode. and it falls on the week of a landmark anniversary for me in business. 18 years of working for myself. How on earth did that happen?nbsp; As you will hear in this episode, one lesson at a time! 

But first…. Soul-Full Business owners, I want to thank you.  If you are new to the Better Life Better Work Show thank you and welcome. I know this isn’t a traditional podcast – and most of I all thank you for getting my unconventional ways.  My listeners and clients are experts in Borrowed Insight… I know you can hear a story and pull the pieces relevant to your own heart.  And if you’ve been here since the shaky, shitty beginnings 5 and a half years ago- extra thank you for sticking with me through the evolution.

Evolution – that’s is what it is all about, right?nbsp; Owning your own business is one of the greatest gold mines for personal growth. Today’s episode is a list of the overarching lessons of each year in business.  I invite you to do two things with this episode.  One – as I share my lessons, listen for your own.  Perhaps ours are similar or they overlap.  Notice the themes and how they align with the phases of business.  Launch, Growth and Achievement.

2nd…after the episode – take some time and map out YOUR years in business.  Make a list of YOUR big lessons. Notice your own accomplishments and how far you have come! Most of my achievement-level clients – the sisters in Spark, UNhustle, and Flow – have super successful businesses, and often they forget to remember how skilled and accomplished they really are.  You deserve to give your self credit, take stock, and fill your own bucket for the journey ahead. 

Finally, Know that in 2003 – I never anticipated being in business for myself.  I never expected to be even working a job (I always thought I would be a wife and mom and raise 5 kids) and here I am 2 marriages, zero pregnancies, and 5 incarnations of business later,

In September 2003,  when my husband of 2 years left… what was a WHIM – getting my real estate license- became the hard left turn to the work of my heart.  

Interesting to see…the early years were survival mode and fast skill-building. The middle years…growth and sustainability -figuring out how to BE ME… and the most recent years….depth, slowing down, self-trust & solidify.

Here are my OVERARCHING lessons of each year (certainty not the ONLY lessons):

2003 – Show Up For EVERYTHING – Negotiate for yourself from the start.

2004 – No Option B – Failure is not an option

2005 – Learn and master sales skills and time on task- do the boring shit. Relationship sales are way more pleasurable than cold calling.  Think smoking weed and drinking beer on the lake and match.com -great lead sources when you are single and in your early 30s!

2006 – You must believe in yourself – no one else can do it for you. Unconventional, no matter how successful, is frowned upon by many, -trust yourself anyway – reinvent the model.

2007 – Make it up and learn what you need to know. Relentlessly pursue the learning – teaching sales and marketing solidified my skills. 

2008 – What is working for the ones who succeed AND are happy: Inner work is where the successful people spend their energy and then they go do the task without question

2009 – Have a coach in your sphere have a coach out of your sphere – beware cult mentality.

2010 – Desconstruct automatic authority and find your own personal power, authority, and loyalty

2011 – Bet on yourself over and over

2012 – What is on your to FEEL LIST

2013 – Back to Basics – time on task, love on people connection & creation over transaction and production

2014 – Be You – Strip Down to your authentic self – you will find your people

2015 – A 40 something body will not tolerate bypassing and depressing down important work – no matter how fabulous your business and offers are on the outside.

2016 – Art heals – it shows you everything. Profit First and save for taxes with every single income deposit.

2017 – One thing

2018 – Sustainable over Stupendous sparkly bullshit

2019- Own Your Credibility

2020 – No more bypassing – FEEL IT ALL

2021  Self-Leadership and Emotional Management -When I was young I felt old and wise, and the older I get the younger and newer I feel.

I can’t wait to see what unfolds next.

Love,

Allison

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https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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On this episode, (recorded on a Friday afternoon, happy hour-style) Erin and I totally geek out about Internal Family Systems together. 

Dr. Erin M. Baker is an entrepreneurial coach and social psychologist, a self-leadership and business mentor to entrepreneurs and transformational leaders.

They are also one of my Internal Family Systems pals and I invite you to listen in to a conversation very much like the ones we have offline! 

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You can find Dr. Erin M Baker online at: 

• http://erinmbaker.com/
• https://www.facebook.com/erin.m.baker.33
• https://www.instagram.com/drerinmbaker/

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• Become a member of Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
  https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/
• Grab your Values Clarification Exercise: /corevalues/

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Today is a peak into a private one on one coaching session with my long time client Joelle Bohart.  This podcast and post is shared with full permission.

Joelle and I met many years ago back in the real estate days. She was a client back then for learning how to be a productivity coach and she has been a member of Soulies for a very long time… since the early days… and she is also a part of my Spark, Unhustle, and Flow Women’s Circle. 

Joelle and I have had many conversations about the relationship she’s had with her mom and the way she grew up. When I first met Joelle in real estate she was really putting on this perfectionist look right, be right, do right persona that wasn’t the authentic Joelle. 

She let go of that lady, let her hair go wild and curly, and started wearing colorful clothes and it’s been beautiful to watch her journey. In he last 3 years she was one of the top 10 globally in her real estate company. 

She’s been in Real Estate for 25-30 years and is also a certified Qoya teacher.

She and her husband moved this month from CA to TX, they sold their home and moved across the country to create a new life in Texas. Joelle is at a new space in her life where she doesn’t know if she’s going to pick up real estate here or completely reinvent herself and she’s giving herself permission to explore and create and just be but she’s also moved her Mother to Texas with her. 

Imagine a move across the country, a new city, and doing all the things you have to do including building a new house and temporarily living in a rental house. All these outer stimulations are causing some turbulence. 

So we pick up today with some very sweet parts work where we are not only acknowledging the inner child in her we are working with the relationship with her mother, which can be derogatory and reminded Joelle of when she was little.

We are helping her to get back to self-trust and self-leadership and soothing the parts of her that are feeling tender and frustrated and protected. 

Thank you, Joelle, for sharing so openly as you work through your burdens.  

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Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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There are a million reasons to not go forward.
There are reasons we can stop ourselves.

An 8/8 update recording on the New Moon – August 8, 2021.

I am going to put down my notes, drop into my body, connect with my heart and share my own update with you and some big changes that are happening in my business.

I wonder what you can learn about yourself from my update…

Yes, this is about me but it’s also about you.
I want you to borrow the insights.
I want you to borrow the wisdom.

What reasons are you giving yourself to stop… and some my be totally valid.

Since 2012 I have been focusing on self trust. No matter how good my business did there was always and inner self doubt, an inner insecurity and lack of self trust and it didn’t fit the longevity or history of my business… there was something inside. 

Before Self Trust, my mission was how can I make more money, be in flow and get more clients. 

I noticed in my early coaching the people doing the best were also doing the inner work, emotional work, spiritual work. 

I’ve always coached productivity and sales but I’ve had this knowing, I’ve been afraid and there have been a million reasons.

Today is the day I make the declaration that I am a Self Leadership & Life Coach! 

I am here to help you cultivate your being in the world.
I’m here to help you meet yourself.

I am here to teach you to meet and get to know and build a relationship with yourself so you can trust yourself..
I am here to help facilitate you to all of you. 

I council people back to themselves.
Skills without the embodying essence of who you be fall flat.

It’s not fun to do this difficult work by yourself,
I brought in a group setting.

Part of this process of meeting ourself, trusting ourself and being ourself is in community.

It’s to be witnessed by ourselves and to be witnessed by our peers so that we are belonging together as human beings and as as community we’re always drawing one another back to our true selves. 

You are the guru. You are the one that knows you the best. 

We don’t need any more ass kicking. We need to reclaim our internal authority. We need to reclaim our being.
Everything you want is inside of you, but we’ve been taught to give it up. 

I am here to help people get their autonomy back!

When I encourage those around me to check in, meet yourself, be with yourself, hold yourself in the wobbles then you can be yourself. 

Nothing will stop me from being me and helping you to meet and be yourself.

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Soulies Self-Leadership Society:
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

Painting – An Expressive Arts Retreat:
/wild-and-free-expressive-arts-retreat-with-allison/

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At the beginning of the year I hired a coach to work on self leadership and self trust and a whole new deepening of who I be is being cultivated. 

I love a good reset! Like when my Amazon fire stick stops working I just reset it or my computer starts going slow I just reboot it.

I am in a new phase of cultivating my meaningful work.

Any time we go through an expansion and evolution I think it’s normal for scarcity and doubt to flare up. I am so grateful for the flareups. I don’t bowl over them, I meet them with tenderness. There is opportunity with whole body healing and embodiment of that which we are cultivating. 

The embodiment piece – taking these things that I cultivate into my whole body. 

I’m moving closer to myself in a calm and curious way. 

Meeting the tenderness & listening.

Fear, comparison, anxiety & perfectionism are NOT moral failures. 

Instead of jumping over these tender parts and forcing myself into creativity and self trust, I notice I am embodying self trust by meeting those tender parts of myself. 

They say what you focus on expands. I call bullshit on that. What you ignore expands. 

When we jump over the difficult parts we end up at the same place over and over and that’s not a moral failure either. 

If you’re feeling wobbly slow down and check in below your head and check in with your own heart. 

What if you just sat and listened to your fears and listen does not mean believe? 

What if you really heard the parts of you that get into what people think, perfection, numbing, powerlessness, scarcity, fear, the need for certainty, exhaustion, comparison, production overdoing, over hustling, over performing, anxiety as a lifestyle, self doubt, shoulding all over yourself and being cool & always control? 

What if … I don’t want to let go.. I want to listen & nurture.. that’s how I cultivate. What if these aren’t negative emotions?
What if they are seed opportunities to cultivate something? 

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Reference Links:

Brene Brown
https://brenebrown.com/
https://brenebrown.com/wholehearted-inventory/

Allison Crow
Painting retreat – 2 spots left.
/wild-and-free-expressive-arts-retreat-with-allison/
Soulies  
https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

Video Episodes
https://www.facebook.com/allisoncrow/videos/356179269448343
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MfjXYscASY

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Today we’re chasing waterfalls… for real.

I’m taking you on a short road trip with me…. more play…less coachy coachy.  

Love, Allison 

3 Spots left at the fall painting retreat: /wild-and-free-expressive-arts-retreat-with-allison/

Join Soulies and nourish your soul:  https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

Get your values clarification Workbook: /corevalues/

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They say, don’t tell them about your work, demonstrate your work. I’ve been sharing some live sessions with my clients. This is an episode giving you a behind-the-scenes listen to my very own personal process. 

This is a very intimate share.  Take a peek at my own personal Self-Leadership process, straight from my journal. 

As usual, I share to model humanity – to let you know that even leaders have wonky moments – and here’s a genuine process I used in my journal to soothe and recenter.  I’ve been working via Internal Family Systems with my coach/therapist, while also being trained in the modality.  Thanks for listening and sharing if you know someone who would appreciate this episode.

Love, Allison

PS: In my group membership coaching program, we are doing lots of this deep inner work from an IFS informed place – I’d love to be your coach – check it out at https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/. 

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Welcome to episode 143:  Another in a series of live coaching sessions with my clients.  Brooke Genn is a long-time Soulie (Facebook website).  This episode is a perfect example of how often is what seen as a strategy session – is really a doorway to a deeper inner work session.  I love strategy and can often help my clients see strategic paths to profit and pleasure, and even more important, really digging deep underneath a “limiting belief” to heal and unhook the resistance and fear.  Enjoy this session.  Listen in and look for insights that you can borrow from Brooke’s session.  

Brooke is showing up with some blocks and confusion about creating a strategy for her Selfie Masterclass that would support her energy, finances, and busy retreat photography schedule. 
She wants to create a system or structure to make more from her offer that would allow her to scale it and be at home.

Notes from the session: 

What do you mean by structure?
Why not just when you feel like doing it?
What about energy?

A lot of creatives need permission to always go with your flow.
Take a year or season and look.

What about a simple, visual calendar like this one I use that spaces your offerings out in seasons. 

Energetic Offering Calendar

Start to visually and energetically chunk out working with your energy and the seasons.
Get that down and then see what’s available.

Create an energetic calendar — it can help you with your marketing.
You don’t have to start marketing until you’re heading into that season.
When your energy doesn’t fit in the system that’s another resentment and that causes us not to full-on attract the clients.

Looking at recording it vs the value of being there to teach it live.
Record one and put it in your pocket
You can use it and then have a live session after they have taken it and you can do a condensed Q & A

Check-in with the wisdom of your body for pricing.

Limiting belief: People are only going to take this class if they have worked with me before, not strangers on the internet.

I feel tense in my lower neck.
Bring your attention into the lower neck into that brainy voice and take a breath… let it be separate from you.
Feel compassion towards it – this part of the brain that tightens your neck is scared.

What does it want you to know?

There is less risk and it’s safer to talk to clients that already know me.

What are you afraid would happen if you took the risk?

I have a fear that when you scale things it comes with headaches.
Scaling things comes with a lot more opinions.

This part of me is a little overwhelmed by the bigness and the people that don’t know me.
That part of you wants to feel heard and understood.

Check-in with the parts that are nervous about the risk.

Create a system that supports them.
A compassionate space for all these parts of yourself.

If you reverse engineer those limiting beliefs they are coming from parts of yourself.
Let those parts know that you will manage disappointment and conflict.
Their job is to be creative and playful.

Find the youngest love of your life and think, how would I love them and give that to yourself.

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If you feel an aligned pull to join our Soul-full Success Membership Community go to CoachWithAllison.Com

Expressive Arts Painting Retreat:
You Do Not Need To Be An Artist
In Expressive Arts – a painting process, not performance – we use art to create from our intuitive and uncovered selves. It is both a creative and personal process for the purpose of self-discovery and sacred expression, not for the purpose of performing or selling art. 
Message me to grab one of the last 3 spots.

Save the Date: Camp StarHeart Next Year May 1st – 4th:
Luxury, Hill Country, Texas Vibe

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Listen in on a live coaching session with one of my clients!

Megan is a current client, a member of Soulies, came to Camp StarHeart and is a Leader in our community.

We take a moment to connect our energies with gratitude & let the outside world fall away.
Check in with your intuition and listen to yourself.

I am a part of my business, but I’m not my business!

Now that I’ve disconnected my business from myself… now what do I want to do?
Play Create a course?

What’s important about Play?
What do I really want?

Drop down into your body, out of your head and notice what comes up… nothing is wrong.
What does living a creative life mean to you?

Balance between masculine, which is very structured,  and the Feminine which is less structured, more in the moment.

What would it look like to add more Feminine?nbsp;
Allowing myself & not guilting myself.

I can get caught up in the productivity ideal

Talk to that part and ask it to please give you some space.
What’s been working has been working and a shift is coming.

Keep listening, check in.

What do those parts want you to know?
Notice what comes up,

Connected to your compassion what’s possible going forward in the structure of your life?

It’s like gardening. What if you’re the gardener for all this empty space in your life… in your schedule?

There is room to change it up & the first thing to put in is your ME time.

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If you feel an aligned pull to join our Soul-full Success Membership Community go to CoachWithAllison.Com

Expressive Arts Painting Retreat:
You Do Not Need To Be An Artist
Expressive arts is a combination of creating to touch your own heart, to get to know yourself
It is not about the performance of art. It is not about creating art for an outcome.
Message me to grab one of the last 5 spots.

Camp StarHeart Next Year May 1st – 4th:
Luxury, Hill Country, Texas Vibe

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Be Yourself

How do you be you Everybody is saying, “Be You.”

We are doing this inner work of meeting ourselves so that we learn how to manage our emotions, so that we learn how to manage our thoughts, so that we learn how to have self compassion and so that we meet the parts of us.

We take on a lot of shit in this thing called ordinary everyday life.
It’s natural, it’s human, there is nothing wrong with you.
You deserve more love and compassion not less.

So how do you actually get to be yourself?
To be yourself, we have to trust ourselves.

No matter how experienced my clients are, the self doubt is relentless.
The self doubt and comparison and the compromising and people pleasing is relentless … it never let’s up.

How do we begin to trust ourselves?

Out there in the world we are trying to be ourselves but we don’t really know ourselves.
We are waiting on something outside of us and have forgotten how beautiful and resourceful and resilient and creative we are.

We are all artists. We are artists of life.
Over the last 7 years I have been meeting myself.
I no longer struggle with depression.
The reason I don’t struggle with depression anymore is because I don’t press anything down anymore.

Pause.. meet myself

What are the consequences of your shit What are the outcomes of your shit?
It is much easier to see someone else’s shit then love and meet my own shit.

Trust takes time. Trusting yourself is not an innate experience.
Trusting myself has helped me to Be Myself. That’s what Be You Means.

Self trust is not about material things.. it’s about who I be.

The natural evolution of trusting yourself is being yourself
But you have to meet yourself to trust yourself
So what’s possible if you trusted yourself?

Ask yourself:

What would I do if I trusted myself?
Is there a part of me that I really need to spend time with?

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If you feel an aligned pull to join our Soul-full Success Membership Community go to CoachWithAllison.Com

Expressive Arts Painting Retreat:
You Do Not Need To Be An Artist
Expressive arts is a combination of creating to touch your own heart, to get to know yourself
It is not about the performance of art. It is not about creating art for an outcome.
Message me to grab one of the last 5 spots.

Camp StarHeart Next Year May 1st – 4th:
Luxury, Hill Country, Texas Vibe

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Who else has felt really down and burnt out and exhausted and annoyed or discouraged with Social Media I know I have and that was a very strange feeling for me because I love and have loved Social Media.

If you’re up for reclaiming your love for social media, I want to share a few things with you.

Being Self Led – Self is our core highest energy

What if I were Self Led on Social Media, What if my marketing was Self Led on Social Media , What if I used Calm , Curious, Compassionate, Connected, Confident, Creativity, Courage & Clarity with leading the marking team, time & content on Social Media:

How you can support yourself in being Self Led:

• Clean Up Your Feed – If I see something that comes through my feed and my initial reaction is to feel bad about myself then I mute it/hide it
  When ads come up that trigger me, I hit the hide ad and hit “irrelevant
• I follow my hobbies
  My Facebook feed is full of  backyard birdwatching and nature
  My Instagram is full of Art and Funny Stuff

If it’s taking me out of Self, I don’t want to spend my time on it or have it subconsciously in my feed

My Divine Facebook Manager is in charge of Social Media

In your system, Which part of you is scrolling, Which part of you is creating
Are you creating from scarcity, obligation,  “I should be doing this,”
Or Calm Creativity Contribution Curiosity or Courage

If I’m leading from Self, I can do this My Way! You Do You!!

When I lead from Self I feel energized to create and energized to use the tools that I love! I am doing it from the place of sacred self remembering who I am, owning my credibility, owning my contribution, owning my gratitude..

Letting Self lead all of parts of my system has not only been helpful to managing stress and relationships
but also social media. I’m having a blast letting Self Energy be the leader!

I want you to Allow and get curious with yourself about what would it look like if you let your highest self lead in Social Media.

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Welcome Back! I’m going to share with you my deeply thought out and over time values..  one to give you permission to adopt them as yours if you align and two to use them as starting points to figure out what yours are in the world.

Relationships: People Matter – I matter, my people matter, the integrity that we are working with people vs sales at all costs

Personal Growth: The natural and beautiful evolution of becoming as a soul having a human experience

• Self Trust:  The client is resourceful, able and whole
  My job is to remind you who you are
• Self Leadership: Sacred Self aka Self Energy – when we are in situations which part of us do we want to lead Leading from our highest self & emotional management.

Creativity: Playful Process Creativity for the sake of the process not the performance or the product. Creative Being & Creative Doing.

Authenticity: Being and Doing and Expressing in alignment with your values vs performance. Authentic Expression & Being. What would I do if I was not afraid I would just be me.

Prosperity: Healing money stuff and creating prosperity financially, emotionally & holistically.

Fun, Play & Humor: When you’re running a small business you can forget to have fun.

Transparent Leadership: Goes along with authenticity.. when what is being preached from the stage is the same as behind the scenes. The Whole Truth.

We are Gardeners Not Machines: Working with people in a service based business. Cultivating with natural cycles & seasons.. navigating turbulent weather, drought, soil & harvest.

Better is Better More is Not Better: Cultivate Better

Holistic Coaching/Wellbeing: Those who do inner & outer work are the happiest and most financially successful. Programming = Thoughts = Feelings = Actions = Results.

Simplicity: How Simple Can You Let It Be?! Keep it simple sweetie.

Breathe Y’all: Breath reminds me I’m alive, to slow down, stop and be aware of the things that are automatically happening. Not just checking in with my thinking but to allow myself to embody a little slow down and a little awareness and whatever I’m sensing or feeling at the moment.  Life just works better.

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One lesson I’ve learned and re-learned over the years is the importance of values. 

Especially in business, our values are what can ground us when wobbly, give us clarity for the future, and what we can always reconfigure to fit our ever-changing BEING. 

Our brand values – not to be confused with core values – are so important in fact, that I’ve dedicated this entire show to them. 

I’m offering you a quick look into what they can do for your business, what my 5 brand values are, and a free guide to your own values that’s usually only available to my clients.

Looking to jump to a particular section Here is what happens in this episode: 

2:29 – An intro into what this business values thing is all about

3:12 – The gift I’ve made you around values exercises

12:46 – The difference between having a business that makes you money and one that your soul calls for 

14:03 – My 5 values 

32:00 – What do you value?nbsp;

Access your free values workbook I mention during the show.

Want exquisite, high-end, heartfelt, & authentic life/biz coaching and community at an insanely easy price – so you have room to ALSO invest in the growth of your business Check out Soul-Full Success Coaching Membership.

Ready for more?nbsp;Join my email community for more goodies or to just shoot me a message. 

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I’ve been in business for 17 years. 

17 years I’ve learned and unlearned and found a framework that’s worked for me. 

It’s one that allows me to keep myself balanced and sane and focused in my business. 

It’s one you can use too. 

It simply cultivates both the BEING and the DOING in our lives so we can really get to the secret sauce of what we have to offer this world. 

I’m giving you a quick rundown of this framework in this show, specifically I’ll share with you: 

1:01 – An announcement of my NEW masterclass (March 13,2021 – contact me if you want in)

2:03 – A deep dive into this business model that I use, starting with the “BEING” side

8:02 –  A look at the 4 pieces of the “DOING” side that creates a successful business

10:54 – How I want us to reclaim sales 

16:17 – How you can go deeper into all of these ideas 

This is just the tip of the iceberg, but it’s been the greatest framework for myself and my clients – would love to know what insights it brought forth for you. 

Want exquisite, high-end, heartfelt, & authentic life/biz coaching and community at an insanely easy price – so you have room to ALSO invest in the growth of your business Check out Soul-Full Success Coaching Membership.

Ready for more Join my email community for more goodies or to just shoot me a message. 

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Let me start by saying – I’m not a big pot smoker, I’m not into drugs, this isn’t part of my usual routine. 

But I accidently had a trip. 

I won’t give away the whole story (it’s more fun to listen to it) but one of the amazing things about it (maybe the only amazing thing) was the amount of lessons I took from it. 

Now, I’m not saying a trip is the way to gain your lessons, but I’m thankful there were some from mine. 

Without giving too much away, here is what happens in this crazy episode: 

3:11 – A little realistic history of my drug use to set the stage

4:43 – What happened (how I ended up on this trip)

5:17 – Lesson #1 from my trip

9:11 – Another big life lesson that was so obvious after this trip

10:46 – The biggest lesson that came through loud and clear 

13:32 – What kept replaying in my head during the trip

14:12 – How this all applies to our lives

This is a very different episode for me, I can’t believe I’ve shared it actually, but I have nothing to lose in being real and showing my heart to you, so here it is. 

Want exquisite, high-end, heartfelt, & authentic life/biz coaching and community at an insanely easy price – so you have room to ALSO invest in the growth of your business Check out Soul-Full Success Coaching Membership.

Ready for more Join my email community for more goodies or to just shoot me a message. 

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I want to share a valuable truth with you today: 

You have everything you need. 

I’m realizing that there is a lot of noise out there. 

Noise that we are missing out, that should/could do more, that we aren’t as good as, etc. 

It’s so easy for us humans, especially us business owners, to fall into this noise. 

In this episode it’s my intention to remind you that you have everything you need, to help you reconnect with yourself and your business. 

I’ll do that by sharing these things with you: 

2:47 – One the most detrimental things to us small business owners

3:35 – A guided mini-meditation 

9:32 – A reminder that you know what works and an example of what works for me

16:20 – My reminder for you

21:01 – What I Know is true for me and may be for you too

The truth is that you can ignore the noise. Listen within, it’s all there. 

Want exquisite, high-end, heartfelt, & authentic life/biz coaching and community at an insanely easy price – so you have room to ALSO invest in the growth of your business Check out Soul-Full Success Coaching Membership.

Ready for more Join my email community for more goodies or to just shoot me a message. 

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Bet on Yourself Again & Again 

Stop stopping yourself.

I said it. 

It’s time to stop stopping yourself. 

The truth is, we are the ones holding ourselves back. 

We are the ones not giving ourselves permission, waiting to be rescued, looking to something else for our purpose. 

We’ve got to start betting on ourselves. 

I started years ago and it’s changed my world. 

You can too. 

Start by listening to this episode where I share more about betting on yourself, specifically I’ll share: 

2:42 – A hoky little story about a fantasy I had (I swear it related to betting on yourself)

4:43 – How I know no one is coming to give us our purpose permission, or rescue us

5:32 – What I mean by betting on yourself 

6:21 – What mental trick is happening when you don’t bet on yourself

8:52 -:What betting on ourselves really is anyways

9:15 – The bets I’ve made on myself 

16:38 – A question for you around you betting on yourself

It’s time to bet on you – again and again. Let’s see where that takes you instead. 

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Are you a self-leader?nbsp;

What does that mean to you?nbsp;

For me, being a self-leader is what allows me to move from crappy to sassy. 

It’s the reason I can take ownership of my thoughts, actions, and feelings. 

In fact, I find it to be very powerful and one of the best gifts we can give ourselves. 

You can have this gift too. 

I’m sharing how and what I know to be true about what self-leaders do in this podcast. Plus, I throw in a pretty great gardening analogy I think will stick with you. 

If you want more details, here’s what you can expect in this show: 

2:18 – What is self-leadership is and what self-leaders do 

3:47 – The #1 rule in coaching

4:00 – The first of 3 stories I’ll share related to self-leadership, this one I find very powerful

5:20 – Story # 2, this one is personal to me

7:30 – The 3rd story I’ll share that happened with my coach

8:16 – Our job as coaches and leaders and CEOs

9:00 – Why self-leadership is one of the best gifts you can give yourself 

11:25 – Why “how-to” isn’t the answer

13:00 – A few additional thoughts on self-leadership

21: 27 – The fun gardening analogy to self-leadership I promised

Enjoy this episode to get your dose of self-care through self-leadership today and if you have thoughts on what a self-leader does that I missed, I’d LOVE to hear from you.

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How familiar are you with your cycles of expansion and contraction?nbsp;

I find myself in an upleveling season right now…and with that comes pitfalls. 

I’ve seen and experienced these uplevel cycles many times before and have come to learn some pitfalls that come along with them. 

I want to save you some time and misery, so I’m sharing these 3 major pitfalls, and what you can do instead, on this podcast episode. 

If you want to just jump into each, here’s what I cover: 

2:00 – The uplevels I’m going through right now

2:47 – The first pitfall to watch out for

4:19 – The second pitfall (this one’s all about outsourcing)

6:17 – The third pitfall (hint: it’s comparison)

6:58 – What usually happens in an uplevel

10:01 – What to ask yourself to help you with these pitfalls, especially #3

13:20 – A quick recap of each pitfall and what to do instead

I hope you enjoy it regardless of which season you are in (upleveling or not) and would love to hear your own insights around your uplevels, share with me below!

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Have you ever belonged to a mastermind group or considered it?nbsp;

If so, this episode is one I think you’ll enjoy. 

I’m breaking down the lessons I’ve learned from belonging to (many) mastermind groups, including high-level ones, over the years. 

There’s a LOT I share in this episode, but just to give you an idea, I share: 

2:50 – What is a high level mastermind and the ones I’ve participated in

8:20 – The first of my 3 lessons

16:46 – A realization of the backbone of my business 

23:17 – The lesson I really wanted to talk to you about 

33:39 – My personal lesson

34:30 – A recap of the 3 main lessons learned 

Whether you are in a mastermind or not, I hope this episode reminds you of who you BE and that you’ve got this – whatever it is you are desiring now. 

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How GOOD can you let it be?nbsp;

I was asked this poignant question a few years ago and it really helped me see that sometimes I was shutting out the good with the bad. 

I wasn’t allowing the good. 

The same has felt true for my own ambition. 

The truth is that my ambition has scared me. 

That’s no longer the case. Now, I see “joyful ambition” as a possibility for me – for all of us. 

I’m sharing how this is true and what’s required for it to happen on the podcast this week. 

Specifically in this episode, I’ll share with you: 

0.55 – My word of the year (it chose me, I didn’t choose it)

1:57 – I ask you to consider, are you shutting down the *good* things along with the bad?nbsp;

2:19 – How I felt about ambition before

3:26 – The definition of ambition and why I love it

5:50 – Some common phrases people say about ambition (these are fascinating!)

9:16 – 3 things required for joyful ambition 

I share all this in hopes of resparking your ambition if needed, and encouraging you to allow yourself to be the ambitious person you are. 

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Do you know which phase of business you are in?nbsp;

You will after listening to this episode! 

I’m breaking down the 3 core phases of business so you can determine which you are in and have some guidance and framework for where to focus and how to create your unique strategies for each phase. 

These have been so helpful for myself and my clients and helping us understand our business’ needs. I hope you will find them useful too. 

In this episode I’ll cover: 

1:08: Why I’m sharing these phases with you 

1:54: Where this concept of 3 phases of business comes from 

2:39: The first of the 3 phases

13:49: Phase 2 and what this phase means for your business

31:23: Phase 3 and how you shift in this phase

45:39: A bonus – what phase 3 develops into

PS – Missed joining Soul-Full Success (my online coaching community for life + biz) Not to worry, you can join the waitlist here!

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Are you ready to take aligned action (aka be a DOER) in your business?nbsp;

If you are as ambitious as I think you are, I bet the answer is yes. 

Sometimes we get stuck in the “BE” part of ourselves, dreaming of our desires and who we are becoming that we disconnect from the DO part. 

I offer you my knowledge and support in how you can enjoy both the BE and the DO (and the HAVE) in this episode. 

Specifically, I’ll share with you:

1:14: The “Be, Do, Have” framework

2:26: What I want us authentic and ambitious people to “take back” that will actually help us create in our life and work

4:15: How we can create more aligned ambition and achievement 

6:41: What I do when I’m really committed

11:29: Some of the ways I sell in an aligned way

13:25: My prayer and hope for you for this new year

14:01 A question for you to ask to help you become a more aligned DOER

You CAN be authentic and ambitious AND A DOER. 

Ready for more?nbsp;

You can join me inside Soul-Full Success, my coaching membership full of other authentic and ambitious DOERs, now to go deeper during our weekly life and biz calls!

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Let’s slow down for a moment together. 

As we come to the end of the year, I know many of us are racing to see 2020 end. 

I understand why we are doing this, but I want to also encourage you to pause for a moment and reflect. 

The truth is, January 1st can mean something big for us, or it doesn’t have to mean anything. 

We don’t know what may change in 2021. 

We can’t control most of it. 

We can, however, control how we slow down, what we give our attention to and think about, and who we want to be. 

Now is a great time to reflect on this year and who you want to BE in 2021. 

I’m even making it easier for you by giving you the 3 questions I’m reflecting on these days (including my fave leadership question!) on the podcast this week. 

Tune into this last episode of 2020 to give yourself the time to reflect (plus I’m dropping some big news about the show moving forward that you won’t want to miss) and if it feels right, share what pops up for you with me on Instagram or Facebook. 

See you in 2021. 

Love, 

As always, 

Authentic & Ambitious, 

Allison Crow

PS – If you didn’t hear, I opened the doors to Soul-Full Success (my coaching community) yesterday! If you want me to be your coach and want to be part of a community of other ambition and authentic humans, join us at https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

Referenced in Podcast:
Elyse Rich: Audio Engineer/Producer/DJ/Creator
ElyseRich.com

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I’m coming at you fired up about some lessons I learned in 2020. 

2020 has been a weird year, right With Covid and the election I spent a portion of 2020 stressed  and overthinking, but I’m glad I did. 

Because these lessons didn’t come easily, but they are BIG lessons. 

They’re big lessons for me, for you and for the world. 

Enjoy this little recap and dive into my 2020 lessons and if you reflect too, I bet you have quite a few lessons you learned this year as well. I’d love to hear them, share what feels right with me on Instagram or Facebook!

Love, 

As always, 

Authentic & Ambitious, 

Allison Crow

Referenced Podcast: ‎The Bold Money Revolution: Business Growth Without the Drama with Allison Crow on Apple Podcasts
Hosted by Tara Newman

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Did you pick a word of the year this year?nbsp;

I picked 3 (y’all know I’m not concise, why start now!). 

You may remember, they were :

Open Heart
Slow Tango
Big Profit

Of course, I thought I knew what those meant for me this year. Then 2020 happened. 

Now that I have actually experienced these words this year I have some reflections on them and what they really meant. 

Sharing this fun recap with you this week on the podcast and invite you to reflect back on your word of the year as well, did it mean what you thought it would?nbsp;

Love, 
As always, 
Authentic & Ambitious, 

Allison Crow

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Some things in the personal development world drive me nuts.

There are 3 things in particular that I’m just not down with. 

Not because I just have a pet peeve, but because they are promises that I KNOW lead to misery in my clients. 

They are ways of thinking and telling us to BE that just don’t jive with me. 

I’m gonna debunk these 3 places where I feel mainline personal development fails us today on the podcast. 

Take a listen to let me know if you’ve noticed these things too or if you’ve had negative experiences with them as well. Interested to hear your thoughts, message me on Instagram or Facebook with them. 

Love, 

As always, 

Authentic & Ambitious, 

Allison Crow

PS:  Part of the reason I’m sharing these thoughts with you today is because I am leaning IN to my ambitious and authentic self and she shares what’s on her mind. If you’re looking to embody your ambitious and authentic self (and get some awesome mindset mojo and business planning lessons), join me Saturday 12/12 for a ½ day workshop I’m calling “Mindset Church + Soul-Full 2021 Business Planning”. 

There is no sales page… just respond to this invite and I can let you know the details and how to register! 

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If you’re like me, you’re coming off a long weekend celebrating Thanksgiving in a way that’s not familiar. 

Maybe you created new traditions, or had another family Zoom, whatever it was, it probably wasn’t “normal’.

You may be naturally reflecting back on this year as well, and as we look back it’s easy for us to remember how awful 2020 was. 

I want to remind you that it was wonderful too. 

Not to diminish the challenges and real shit that happened this year, but just to remember that there was BOTH/AND this year too. 

I say this even during a week where a music legend in my life and heart, Hal Katchum, passed away and I’m feeling sadness and loss around it. 

Even during times like these, we can remember to fall in love with our lives and businesses again. Even Hal’s music had this VERY message for me today as I listened to his music:

“Let’s put aside the pain and all the sorrow
Stop talking about the way things might-a been
If we’d only throw our hearts into tomorrow
Tonight we just might fall in love again.” -Hal Katchum

It’s my hope that this week’s podcast episode will help you do this. Throw your heart into tomorrow and fall in love again.  I hope that sharing the lessons I’m learning about regaining my mojo even when the world is topsy turvy will help you do the same. 

If you are ready to shift your energy, you can listen to it here or wherever you usually enjoy the show. I’ve already heard of quite a few “aha” moments that came to listeners of this episode, if you have one too, I’d love to know, share with me on Instagram or Facebook. 

Love, 

As always, 

Authentic & Ambitious, 

Allison Crow

PS:  Message me if you want to join me on Dec 12 for 

Mindset Church + Soul-Full 2021 Business Planning half day Workshop. 

There is no sales page… just respond to this invite and I can let you know the details and how to register! 

PS – The waitlist for Soul-Full Success (my coaching membership) is open for a bit longer. The doors will officially open the day after Christmas (December 26th) so if you are thinking of joining us, this is the way to do it! Get all the info and sign up at https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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I heard a question the other day that asked, “are you an ambitious leader or an authentic leader”?nbsp;

And something hit within me when I read that. 

They gave an either/or. You had to pick one. 

But I can’t pick one. 

I am a woman of range. 

We all are. We’re people of range. 

Not either/or. 

We can be ambitious AND tender. 

Heart-centered AND desire profit. 

Authentic AND driven. 

I want to touch on this subject with you on the podcast this week because I think we are all moving through challenges this year, many of which challenge who we are. 

And I want to remind you that you are both/and. Not either/or. 

If you think you could use a little reminder on this or just want to hear some of the insights I’m gathering around it, check out this week’s new episode and let me know what you think on Instagram or Facebook. 

Love, 

Your Favorite Life Coach, 

Allison Crow

PS – The waitlist for Soul-Full Success (my coaching membership) is ready for you! The doors will officially open the day after Christmas (December 26th) so if you are thinking of joining us, this is the way to do it! Get all the info and sign up at https://soulfullsuccess.live/purchase-life/

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